What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
Ok, I've calmed down since I posted in January. I was angry and hurt at that time about being lied to and in turn giving my ex custody because I believed those lies. I have my lawyer now, a good one does indeed cost a lot of money. Waiting on our court date. Not going for emergency custody, which I think I would have gotten with all of my evidence against my ex regardless of what some of these people on here say.
Found out that my ex was diagnosed as bipolar. Going to ask the court for a drug test. Facebook pages can be used against him. His ex talks about him hitting and shoving her while pregnant (not just slapping) and she says that he is an alcoholic and needs to quit partying and taking care of his kids. He talks about hitting her and calling her a pill addict. 3rd job since custody agreement. Never home, up to his mother to take care of my daughters. Still taking them back and forth between ex wife and new girlfriend.
Found out his arrest wasn't for DUI. He wrecked and had a warrant out almost a month later. He ended up having to serve weekends. Have him saying the cops or whoever he was talking about that they couldn't prove crap. I told him I knew what happened so he would hopefully confess to being drunk. He also told me, all texts by the way, that he had gotten into a fight w/ his dad that night because his dad tried choking his wife and kicked my ex in the no-no's. He said it took 3 people to pull him off of his father, and that I know of all people how he is in a rage like that. No, I knew how he was a long time ago when we were a lot younger. I honestly believed that he had changed and knew how to walk away after going through anger classes for hitting his last wife twice. Oh, yeah, he's also talking about having cottonmouth on his facebook.
I don't feel like having some rude person start their crap w/ me. Just some people with similar issues that can tell me their story so I can learn more.
I'll add this in so if you cannot find my other post to know what I'm talking about, you'll now know.
I am taking my ex back to court for a change of custody because my xx believed some lies from him and his ex wife and believed it to be best not to move my daughters at that point in time because things were supposedly good there and they had just started this school year.
Daughters had to move in with him January 2011 because my husband and myself started using meth (leave those comments to yourself, I know I f*cked up), successfully completed everything for DCFS including 4 months of IOP (Intensive Out Patient therapy for drugs), parenting classes, couples therapy, about a million random drug screens (passed every one of them). Ended DCFS case in September, would've been sooner but ex started custody case during DCFS's case so DCFS was not allowed to drop their case with my daughters, they were allowed to drop their case w/ my sons earlier in the year though. I think early summer. I should also mention my sons were returned home 2 months of removal. DCFS and custody ended same day in September 2011. Made an agreement w/ ex for joint legal and him being residential. DCFS recommended girls return home at end of this school year for good (the reunification plan), as to my wishes. Was not mentioned in Custody agreement though. Screwed myself on that one.
Now I have a brand new lawyer that costs an arm and a leg and quite possibly the rest of the body, but is well worth it. I can pass any drug test they give me, my ex cannot.
A little more about crap going on, my ex dropped a bag of weed in front of my daughters and when they tried to yell at him, he in turn told them that weed is o.k. and that it was not bad for you. When my daughters came over for Xmas break, my youngest did not have her inhaler. I asked where it was, she said she lost it. Now, she is supposed to have it every 4 hours, not as needed like most people. I told her father, he said he would stop and pick up a new one. Next time they came over 2 wks. later, still didn't have one. I ended up going and getting one for her, after I found out on here that I was allowed to. Thank you for that.
I don't pretend to know how things are going to turn out, but if my lawyer is right, I will more than likely have my girls back. This is not a custody case to get back at my ex. It is for my daughters. If you are a person with some sense of right and wrong, you will see that. Yes I did wrong by doing what I did, so no need to talk your crap to me. Like I said, I just want hear about other cases about custody that might have some of the same issues against their ex. I might also mention that I have raised my daughters since they were born until January of last year. They are now 8 and 9 years old.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Ok, I've calmed down since I posted in January. I was angry and hurt at that time about being lied to and in turn giving my ex custody because I believed those lies. I have my lawyer now, a good one does indeed cost a lot of money. Waiting on our court date. Not going for emergency custody, which I think I would have gotten with all of my evidence against my ex regardless of what some of these people on here say.
Found out that my ex was diagnosed as bipolar. Going to ask the court for a drug test. Facebook pages can be used against him. His ex talks about him hitting and shoving her while pregnant (not just slapping) and she says that he is an alcoholic and needs to quit partying and taking care of his kids. He talks about hitting her and calling her a pill addict. 3rd job since custody agreement. Never home, up to his mother to take care of my daughters. Still taking them back and forth between ex wife and new girlfriend.
Found out his arrest wasn't for DUI. He wrecked and had a warrant out almost a month later. He ended up having to serve weekends. Have him saying the cops or whoever he was talking about that they couldn't prove crap. I told him I knew what happened so he would hopefully confess to being drunk. He also told me, all texts by the way, that he had gotten into a fight w/ his dad that night because his dad tried choking his wife and kicked my ex in the no-no's. He said it took 3 people to pull him off of his father, and that I know of all people how he is in a rage like that. No, I knew how he was a long time ago when we were a lot younger. I honestly believed that he had changed and knew how to walk away after going through anger classes for hitting his last wife twice. Oh, yeah, he's also talking about having cottonmouth on his facebook.
I don't feel like having some rude person start their crap w/ me. Just some people with similar issues that can tell me their story so I can learn more.
I'll add this in so if you cannot find my other post to know what I'm talking about, you'll now know.
I am taking my ex back to court for a change of custody because my xx believed some lies from him and his ex wife and believed it to be best not to move my daughters at that point in time because things were supposedly good there and they had just started this school year.
Daughters had to move in with him January 2011 because my husband and myself started using meth (leave those comments to yourself, I know I f*cked up), successfully completed everything for DCFS including 4 months of IOP (Intensive Out Patient therapy for drugs), parenting classes, couples therapy, about a million random drug screens (passed every one of them). Ended DCFS case in September, would've been sooner but ex started custody case during DCFS's case so DCFS was not allowed to drop their case with my daughters, they were allowed to drop their case w/ my sons earlier in the year though. I think early summer. I should also mention my sons were returned home 2 months of removal. DCFS and custody ended same day in September 2011. Made an agreement w/ ex for joint legal and him being residential. DCFS recommended girls return home at end of this school year for good (the reunification plan), as to my wishes. Was not mentioned in Custody agreement though. Screwed myself on that one.
Now I have a brand new lawyer that costs an arm and a leg and quite possibly the rest of the body, but is well worth it. I can pass any drug test they give me, my ex cannot.
A little more about crap going on, my ex dropped a bag of weed in front of my daughters and when they tried to yell at him, he in turn told them that weed is o.k. and that it was not bad for you. When my daughters came over for Xmas break, my youngest did not have her inhaler. I asked where it was, she said she lost it. Now, she is supposed to have it every 4 hours, not as needed like most people. I told her father, he said he would stop and pick up a new one. Next time they came over 2 wks. later, still didn't have one. I ended up going and getting one for her, after I found out on here that I was allowed to. Thank you for that.
I don't pretend to know how things are going to turn out, but if my lawyer is right, I will more than likely have my girls back. This is not a custody case to get back at my ex. It is for my daughters. If you are a person with some sense of right and wrong, you will see that. Yes I did wrong by doing what I did, so no need to talk your crap to me. Like I said, I just want hear about other cases about custody that might have some of the same issues against their ex. I might also mention that I have raised my daughters since they were born until January of last year. They are now 8 and 9 years old.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
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