Verbal Attacks on Drop off/Pick up

[Isis1]

I'm sorry but I feel the need to hijack for a moment.



WHY!!!???? Those things are the ugliest, stupidest, useless things on the face of the earth.

end hijack, sorry OP.

really?? i thought crocs were! but uggs are indeed a tie for that title.

 

[Rushia]

I think the designer knew that when he coined the name UGG!!!

I think he and the people who wear them are nuts.

More hijacking..

CO-SIGN, and if you live in Southern California and are wearing them the only statement you're making is "I'm tacky and I don't know how to dress," especially if you're wearing them with shorts.

It hardly gets cold enough to justify wearing UGGS, unless you're going to the mountains. If that's the case, wear them in the mountains.

Hopefully during hunting season.

my last time hijacking but I gotta say, I never understood the need to wear these boots in 80+ degree weather. even 70+

I think that people should be embarrassed to go out in public wearing them.

really?? i thought crocs were! but uggs are indeed a tie for that title.

I think that crocs are ugly too.

 

[Ohiogal]

I'm sorry but I feel the need to hijack for a moment.



WHY!!!???? Those things are the ugliest, stupidest, useless things on the face of the earth.

end hijack, sorry OP.

I NEVER said they were a GOOD fashion statement. I don't like them myself.

 

[Ohiogal]

my last time hijacking but I gotta say, I never understood the need to wear these boots in 80+ degree weather. even 70+

I wear boots but NOT in the summer unless I am riding horses or going to the honky tonk. With shorts? Oh you so got to be kidding me.

 

[truebluemd]

I wear boots but NOT in the summer unless I am riding horses or going to the honky tonk. With shorts? Oh you so got to be kidding me.

maybe its a cali thing or a celebrity thing, but I have seen many popparazzi photos of these boots with daisy dukes or minis, even sweatpants. I'm not saying I dont like them, I just dont understand the fashion statment with warm weather clothing.

 

[Zephyr]

when you drop them off, do you both drive? your kids are old enough to open the door and get out of the car right? Why not try parking a visual distance away from dads car and let the kids get out of your car and walk to where dad is (so you can at least still see them) so that there is no contact with the wife.

Thank you!!! If she gets out of the car to start walking towards you- DRIVE AWAY, quite simple.

 

[Ohiogal]

maybe its a cali thing or a celebrity thing, but I have seen many popparazzi photos of these boots with daisy dukes or minis, even sweatpants. I'm not saying I dont like them, I just dont understand the fashion statment with warm weather clothing.

I have seen those pics as well and I think every time -- YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. It just proves that with money doesn't come common sense.

 

[swtwilma]

Ok first thanks for the hijack becuase it made me laugh so hard I almost wet my pants!!! There were no uggs, shorts, crocks or anything close to her outfit. Just a cute little baby doll tank and leggings with sandles. It was ADORABLE.

1st she looks CUTE and not tacky at all. It was just a regular tank top. New wife is very religious and not only slammed me for bringing her in a tank top but slammed me for not being as religious as she is. I just simply stated to her that this was not the time or place for this and left.

I do have myself and the kids in counceling as well as their dad. We go as a family and separate. It sure does effect them, and this is why we go. In fact before I dropped my daughter off she said oh mom I am going to get it for wearing a tank top. I just told her to run in and change and tell step mom that its not a rule at my house but I will change right now.

As far a closing the door and leaving that is what I do, but it still doesnt stop her from screaming from the window or telling my kids how immature I am for not talking to her. I just say what I always say "I will talk to their dad about it and this is not the time or place" or I say nothing.

Dad seems to be embarassed based on our last conversation and yes she runs the show and he is run down by her.

As far as restraining order, my friend has been hounding me to do that for years, but I feel that is extreme and will definatly cause more problems that it is probably worth, but I was going to tell dad that would be the next step if she didn't stop with the texts, calls or screaming in front of the kids.

If this does continue is a restraining order something I should do? It just seems like it may cause more problems. Advice?

 

[swtwilma]

I have to say that the bolded is one of the most ridiculous things that I have seen a stepparent complain about. The woman is an idiot.

And that is nothing! I could write a book!

 

[Rushia]

Ok first thanks for the hijack becuase it made me laugh so hard I almost wet my pants!!! There were no uggs, shorts, crocks or anything close to her outfit. Just a cute little baby doll tank and leggings with sandles. It was ADORABLE.

Good, then I don't feel bad about the hijack.

1st she looks CUTE and not tacky at all. It was just a regular tank top. New wife is very religious and not only slammed me for bringing her in a tank top but slammed me for not being as religious as she is. I just simply stated to her that this was not the time or place for this and left.

I'm pretty religious myself, but don't inflict my views upon others. Quite frankly, I don't think God really cares what people wear. From your description, doesn't sound any different than how I dress my dd.

I do have myself and the kids in counceling as well as their dad. We go as a family and separate. It sure does effect them, and this is why we go. In fact before I dropped my daughter off she said oh mom I am going to get it for wearing a tank top. I just told her to run in and change and tell step mom that its not a rule at my house but I will change right now.

Tell her to bite your rear. It isn't up to her how you dress your child. If she doesn't like your clothes then she can buy another wardrobe for dd to wear at her house.

As far a closing the door and leaving that is what I do, but it still doesnt stop her from screaming from the window or telling my kids how immature I am for not talking to her. I just say what I always say "I will talk to their dad about it and this is not the time or place" or I say nothing.

Your children will one day understand who is the REAL immature person.

Dad seems to be embarassed based on our last conversation and yes she runs the show and he is run down by her.

He should be, what a wimp.

As far as restraining order, my friend has been hounding me to do that for years, but I feel that is extreme and will definatly cause more problems that it is probably worth, but I was going to tell dad that would be the next step if she didn't stop with the texts, calls or screaming in front of the kids.

If this does continue is a restraining order something I should do? It just seems like it may cause more problems. Advice?

Is there any way you could discuss this with her first? I made it clear to my ex's wife (I met her when they were dating and introduced myself as the "evil exwife) that I had absolutely NO interest in her man other than that we had to raise our children together. I had no problem with her, she could hate me if she wanted too as long as she didn't express it to our children. She was welcome to help raise them and love them if she wanted too. We became best friends. Our children learned real quick not to try to play us off one another, her punishments are upheld just as if they were delivered by her husband or myself and I will not tolerate my children disrespecting her and she does the same.

Sometimes that's all it takes. Sometimes, they are nuts and it won't work. Just a thought though.

 

[StampGirl]

More hijacking..

CO-SIGN, and if you live in Southern California and are wearing them the only statement you're making is "I'm tacky and I don't know how to dress," especially if you're wearing them with shorts.

It hardly gets cold enough to justify wearing UGGS, unless you're going to the mountains. If that's the case, wear them in the mountains.

LOL CC!!!

But I used to wear them all the time... then again, I worked in an ice rink and played ice hockey LOL Uggs have great traction on the ice LOL

 

[swtwilma]

Oh I have tried to talk to her in the past, but it doesn't work at all.

My new husbands ex and I are best friends too and it is wonderful. This is why I know the problem does not lie with me in this situation.

Step mom stated during her last rant that I need to respect the rules of their house and so she just won't return my clothes since they bought them with child support anyway?! Wow $187 a month for 3 kids. Funny I don't even spend child support. I have a separate account and am saving it. Does this give you any clue on the type of person I am dealing with? When I left and didn't react other than to say not the time or place I then got text after text (of which I did not reply to). I'm sure there will be an email soon telling me how crazy I am cc'd to "their" lawyer. Oh yeah...once again not kidding.

 

[LdiJ]

Oh I have tried to talk to her in the past, but it doesn't work at all.

My new husbands ex and I are best friends too and it is wonderful. This is why I know the problem does not lie with me in this situation.

Step mom stated during her last rant that I need to respect the rules of their house and so she just won't return my clothes since they bought them with child support anyway?! Wow $187 a month for 3 kids. Funny I don't even spend child support. I have a separate account and am saving it. Does this give you any clue on the type of person I am dealing with? When I left and didn't react other than to say not the time or place I then got text after text (of which I did not reply to). I'm sure there will be an email soon telling me how crazy I am cc'd to "their" lawyer. Oh yeah...once again not kidding.

If they are keeping any of the children's clothing then I wouldn't send them with anything more than the clothes on their backs. If they say anything you can remind them that since they kept the children's clothing, they have clothing at their house for the children to wear.

 

[commentator]

Funny posts. It brightened my day too!

Glad to hear you're all in counseling. It will help. As I said, there are some people in the world who simply have to have somebody to fight. Right now, you are her target. I hope that will change, she will roll on to another enemy. Probably not till the last child is of age, though, since the child support is kicking her tenderest part, the pocket book.

My question is, what could she do to you if you get a restraining order that she is not already doing to you now? That's my approach when people say, "I'm desperate, I'm going crazy, I can't stand it any more....but I don't want to actually do that, because it might stir up more problems."

The only things she's not doing to you right now to make your life miserable are the things she has not thought about yet. And you're right now dealing with all the emails, phone calls, screamed out messages, confrontations, (and how about having the children carry messages, either verbally or by letter, has she tried this one yet?)

If you have a restraining order, there will be a definite definition of what she can and cannot do, and you can call someone when she goes over the line. Her attorney has got to know she's living dangerously if she's cc-ing the emails. You be sure to save copies of all of them. She will probably insist on getting a restraining order against you, also, quid pro quo. So much the better.

Check the story about Betty Broderick. "Hell Hath No Fury" and "The Twelfth of Never" are two good ones that have been written about that situation. Some people just will not quit. Practice good security at all times, keep doors locked, do not travel alone. I really believe these obsessive people can be very dangerous.

What a shame sometimes this can be a person who claims to be very religious, (love, peace and all that) and yet they seem to have a demon (or be one) and cannot let a conflict go. I like what Ohio gal says about "loving your children more than you hate your ex."

My friend decided to worship where her children were on a weekend that was visitation, actually went to the church where new family and kids were hanging out. The nice people there were so surprised she was not a stripper, a maniac, did not have horns! Good luck to you.

 

[swtwilma]

It is sad and it just is getting old. She hasn't had my kids messenger yet, but she tells them enough and they hear enough to have a strong distaste for her. I just use it as life lesson for my kids.

The church thing you posted is SO FUNNY!!! I actually went to their church one week as well and she was in fine form. The same thing happened. Everyone was shocked. I do have a leg up where in I grew up in this area, she did not, and people know me, so it back fires on her quite often.

Her late best friend used to watch my children and her children and I used to pick them up from the best friend. The step mom did nothing but bad mouth me to this woman for 1 year and finally the best friend told the step mom that I had been nothing but nice and am the greatest mom. Funny how things work. Now the best friend and I are best of friends and step mom and dad moved to a different area and to a different church. Another year later, they are having the same thing happen.

I do save all the emails and the lawyer has contacted me on many occassions to let me know that she is out of line. It isn't her lawyer though it is my ex husbands. They made the mistake of communicating with her and it has caused many problems.

I tend to feel that religious zealots that force their views on others are wolves in sheeps clothing. It is not ok for a 11 year old to wear a tank top, but it is ok to not pay child support, treat others like dirt, gossip, lie, etc...maybe just believing that you are morally superior to others negates all the basic "commandments". Ok off my soap box!

Either way, I am just glad that I had this site to share this with. It is nice to know that I am not loosing my marbles.

As far as the restraining order goes I don't think I will do that. My family and friends are just tired of how I am treated in front of the kids, but I think that would make matters worse for sure. I will just tighten the old boot straps and like I told another member "smile and nod".