verbal, emotional, mental abuse

[lillytoo]

Continue to keep your journal, records, etc. and any other accounts of what is going on with your ex.....they could be useful at some point & showing recall of events being written when it happened is much better than recounting it later. If you can afford it go to counseling (you & your kids) now for two obvious reasons. If your ex ever threatens you or the kids do not hesitate to get a restraining order. People like your ex can get worse & in the future you can show you put your life and your kids back on track. His behavior is hurting all of you emotionally and that will keep you from moving forward if you let it. File everything about him away both literally & emotionally whenever possible. Judges base their decisions on many things some expected some not...don't underestimate their judgment of character (yours and his) and what is just an what is not in addition to evidence... Their main concern is for the minor children