stealth2
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FLColletti said:Our current order for visitation is every other weekend, he provides transportation to and from.
And does this take your move into account?
FLColletti said:Our current order for visitation is every other weekend, he provides transportation to and from.
FLColletti said:Thank you, Huntersmommy!
Finally, someone understands that the heck is going on. Now, I don't have anyone who would be able to help provide transportation. My husband would ring his neck if I weren't around, if you know what I mean. And honestly, he wouldn't be willing to do so. What would you do?
FLColletti said:I understand what you are thinking... but that is just the way he is. He doesn't want to be in the middle of it.
CJane said:He got in the middle of it when he chose to accept a job that far away. You got in the middle of it when you chose to go with him without modifying your visitation first. The kids are, unfortunately, stuck in the middle of it.
Find an attorney. If you violate the statutes regarding visitation in your state, you risk contempt charges. If you continue violating the statutes, you risk losing your children completely.
What, do you think, is the best option here?
FLColletti said:There are so many nooks and crannies in this, I really opened a can of worms by asking for advice, but I'm at my wits end here.
FLColletti said:What is the name of your state? Florida
**This is a sticky situation**
I recently relocated from my children's hometown to about 4 hours north due to my husbands change of employment. Before our move my 8 year old claimed that his father had been sleeping with his 4 year old brother, which I have custody of, naked. My 4 year old had been exhibiting behavior that was unacceptable and ended up having to report the entire situation to the authorities for investigation. At this time, there have been no criminal charges filed and it seems like there won't be, but Department of Children & Families are continuing their investigation. My boy's father was notified 2 months prior to our move. He never wanted to discuss visitation and never iniciated what he wanted done about visitation. I have been here at our new location for going on 3 weeks now. Last Thursday the father called me assuming that because it was his weekend for visitation (because it was every other weekend) wanting to know where we would be meeting to exchange the kids. I explained because of my current condition (being 32 weeks pregnant) I was not able to meet him at all due to doctor's orders. He flew off the handle and immediately threatened to take me to court to take away custody. I understand that can't happen overnight without a legal fight, which I am prepared for. I allowed him to claim one of the boys on his income tax return this year to help with costs of travel, that was clearly explained and he knew I was not obligated to do such. What is the best step legally to take in this situation? Should continuing to allow the "Open Door" policy that he is welcome to come here to visit them, without extending any overnights until the investigation is closed. I had no choice in the move, neither did my husband. It was move or be unemployed. I can not afford to provide transportation for an unreasonable amount of visitation. I also do not feel that it is fair for the rest of the family to spend every other weekend driving for their brothers for visitation. What is the best way to solve this problem? Any advice is greatly helpful, because I'm at a loss here.
newguyhere said:My children were exibiting unacceptable behavior and I found out that while they were in their mother's custody she was having sex with her husband with the door open thinking that the children were in bed but they were not. Look into it further.
newguyhere said:What I ment to get at here is children are by nature curious. Your husband could have his porn well hid but the children might have snooped through his room and found it. In reguards to the masterbation.... was he doing it in his room with his door closed and the kids were peeking in under the door? If so then the kids are at fault here not your husband. If he is watching porn in front of them and masterbating with the door open then he is at fault here. I would really look into it before you go into court and through acusations around. It seems to me that if it was a clear cut case then DCFS would have already pressed charges.
FLColletti said:Nothing is a clear cut case for DCFS. He was watching the pornagraphy an a 60" wide screen television in the living room while masturbating on the couch. My 8 year old has refused to return since, which my ex doesn't force him to go because of what he has seen. The kid is traumatized and completely embarrassed. DCFA originally thought that criminal charges could be made, but after the Major Crimes Department of the Sheriffs Department investigated there were not. I spoke with the OPA of Investigations yesterday, they are investigating. My ex is unwilling to cooperate. They can't just bust the door down and force him to an interview. I was assured by the OPA that they would be willing to testify on my behalf that the environment is not safe for a child without supervison, but that is once the investigation is completed and closed.