Visitation problems

[Confusedparents]

What is the name of your state? The divoce and custody were done in Idaho. My husband and I gained legal, physical custody of his daughter 6 months ago. Since then, every time she goes with her mother, it's a fight to get her back home. She has a problem following rules and tells her mom lies about things that are going on in this house, so she doesn't have to come back home. Her mother then calls my husband and fights with him and threatens not to bring her back home. She has interupted her schooling by not brining her home in the past. Our daughter has to go to summer school starting monday and she is telling us that she is not bringing her home because it's not mandatory that she go (it was advised by the district that she attend). We are 2 hours away and are tired of going through this every time she visits her mom. What can we do?

 

[stealth2]

For starters - what is the summer visitation as per court order and what is her summer school schedule?

Has the daughter ever NOT been returned as scheduled?

And.... there is no "our" wrt this child. She is your husband's and his ex's. She is not yours. Sorry - that's not meant to be offensive.

 

[Confusedparents]

The mother is entitled to "up to 6 weeks summer visitation". Her summer school is from june 7th to july 9th. He told her she could have her for this last week and then when she is done with summer school. And I know biologically she is not my daughter, but she has been in my life for 6 of her 11 years now and I have called her my daughter for that 6 years, and she has called me mom. I could mention that her mom has been in and out of the courts for illegal and prescription drug reasons, is a drug abuser and has never paid child support. And yes, there have been a couple times that she has not returned her as scheduled.

 

[HOPENDEN]

I have been there before, not getting my children returned to me on time. Try to be the adult in this one. I know that it is hard, but remember that the main focus is the child. I figured it out with my own two children, if you show any kind of hatred or anger towards the other parent, then she will start showing the same emotions, mainly towards you and your husband. Always try to keep her mother in a favorable light even if the bulb has burnt out. This child will figure it out on her own when she gets older who is truly good to her and who isn't. This child needs to be a child and not have to worry about any upcoming visitations.