I had a court appointed atty the first time. I just dont think he did everything he could of. I told him over and over and over my stipulations and certain issues that had to be addressed in the CO for me to agree to letting her have any visitation short of going to a trial.
Then when the order finally came in the mail it didnt address anything except grandma gets one saturday overnite visit/month. and has to return my daughter sunday. and she is responsible for all transportation.
it was a mess with me getting back and forth to court, and transportation at the time. it was almost a 3 hour drive each way and at the time i did not have my own vehicle. So i figured i could deal with one night per month as long as she didnt take my daughter out of state or to the prison. And i had also wanted the order to state that she was not to speak badly of me while my daughter was there, and not to give her any medication or haircuts or anything of that nature with my permission.
The funny thing is though that she has not seen my daughter at all since the order. not because of me, but because of her own schedule. But now she called me yesterday and wants to take my daughter saturday and drop her off monday. i told her that should be fine, but i wasnt sure yet. then she called back and said she wanted to bring her to PA to the fed prison to see her father, and i shouldnt stop him from seeing her. that its just as much his daughter as mine. I told her i didnt like the idea of her being around him, or in a prison to visit anyone for that matter. Then she told me the judge told her that if he was in NY she wouldnt even have to ask for my permission to take my daughter to see him. I told her i didnt know about that. But that started to make me wonder if that was true. and i know he is always trying to get moved. he is only a 2 hr drive from his moms house though anyways.
I also wonder if she really talked to a judge, and if she did if he knew what he was in prison for. Because she tries to lie for him to hide the truth of what he is really in for. Then she said to me "well i could just sneak and take her there and you would never know, but i wouldnt do that" . But i dont really trust that she wouldnt. And besides that my daughter would probably mention it to me. She is 4 years old, so she is constantly talking about everything.
