visitation

[Brian74]

What is the name of your state? Florida
My ex-wife is tring anything she can to cut back on my visitation she will say things to the children to upset them before i pick them up and then act as though they do not want to visit me but within a minute of leaving they are perfectly fine. Her latest is videotaping me when i drop the children off in the morning saying that the children are late to school because i am late in the morning. this is actually not true she has 45 min - 1 hour to get the girls to school after i drop them off. What shoild i do to protect myself from someone who is intentionaly taking the girls to school late on my mornings to create the apperance that it is due to my visitation. Please help I do not know how to deal with her when all she wants to do is take away my visitation and will say anything or do anything in order to make me look bad. HELP

 

[afriend_always]

My friend is trying to get visitation....still working on it.....his lawyer has already prepared him for what may come even when visitation is arranged. She advised him to document every incident, time, date, etc and if possible have a witness. He know several police officers and sargeants and was told to possibly have them somewhere where they could witness the incident but not be seen. The lawyer states that after getting that info together they can take her back to court and she will be held in contempt. If she continues...she could possibly lose custody for trying to sabatoge a loving and caring relationship with the father.

I am not a lawyer....just speaking from what I was told by someone in sthe situation.

 

[jyoung]

Brian, try to pick up a video camera and beat her to the punch....
or bring a witness with you.....you can file a motion yourself and claim visitation interference, most likely you'll be sent to a mediator and you might be able to make some headway there.
If she's already messing with your kid's minds there is no way to predict how far she'll go next to get her way....mine concocted false domestic violence charges, injured herself and had me arrested....you should not be going to her house w/o somebody else. Good luck

 

[fried eggs]

One more thought...

Is it feasible to have the kids ready when you drop them off?

 

[stephenk]

why cant you drop the kids off at school?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

"Brian, try to pick up a video camera and beat her to the punch...."


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My response:

Brian, try to pick up a video camera and beat her and punch her with it....

IAAL

 

[CMSC]

"Brian, try to pick up a video camera and beat her to the punch...."


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My response:

Brian, try to pick up a video camera and beat her and punch her with it....

IAAL

I was starting to think you had fallen off the face of the earth! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it, could you post a top ten for me?

 

[Grace_Adler]

Ditto what she said!

 

[shawna maples]

My partner has been going through this. He at times writes his ex a very nice letter (makes a copy of it) and sends it to her certified mail. He states specific details of the wrong committed and explains that he is offended by her undermining of his father-child relationship and asks her to please not do it again. Sometimes she writes back and makes herself look worse. This documentation is now working to help my partner in his case.

I'd state something like - though I had the children at your home at ( )o'clock on (date) you stated that the children were late to school. I don't understand the problem... Would it help if I take the kids to school?

That's if you'd like to take the kids to school. My partner's order states he and the ex can come to agreements outside of the order. Of course with the ex as she is my partner is in the process of having all agreements added to the order.

As someone said above, it would be good for you to have the children ready. Also, is there not a court ordered time that your suppose to drop off the kids? If there is make sure you go by that time. You don't want to give her anything to set you up.

I feel sorry for the kids(the brain manipulation). When the ex says my partner's son cries because he doesn't want to come - without adding burden to the son's mind we try to instill in him that we care what he thinks and wants and that he can let us know if there's anything that makes him sad or uncomfortable. We know it's the ex and we know that the son is happy to come, but we don't bring up the mother. You don't want to fall to her level.