Actually you can take that back. Allow your fiancé to adopt your child as a single parent. Then you can also have your rights terminated. When that happens neither you or your ex will be the child's parent but hey you can please your ex like you are so wanting to do. GO FOR IT! Terminate your rights and his and let your fiancé adopt ...
I think we're going a little overboard with the bash-the-OP thing here. OP
never said she wanted to terminate parental rights over her child, she said
the child's father wanted to. She then said that her fiance is willing to formally adopt the child if that would help facilitate the father-terminating-parental-rights process. She obviously doesn't understand how the law works in this area, but is that a reason to bash her? Isn't this a place for people to come to if they don't understand how the law works?
Why OP's issue merits a total freakout at the OP I cannot understand. (And yes, I do understand everyone's anger at OP's "total dick" response, however, please note that this 'tude didn't appear until
after the bashing had started.)
I believe the non-bashing response to OP's issue is "OP, your ex cannot terminate his parental rights to his child because your ex has parental responsibilities to his child. And while his child being adopted will definitely eliminate his parental responsibilities, your fiance cannot adopt the child until he (your fiance) has been happily and steadily married to you for at least a couple of years. Please feel free to advise your ex that after you and your fiance have been happily and steadily married for a couple of years, you and your fiance will initiate the adoption process, and that the adoption process will most definitely include the ex-relinquishing-parental rights process. And be sure to tell your ex that's the only legal way this can be done."
