Wade wins custody of sons

[LizzieB]

And Dwayne Wade has millions of $ to get the best lawyers possible to advocate for him.

In the same vein, his ex is/was a scorned woman.

No need to put the kids through this, especially since it's a high profile case.

 

[st-kitts]

I'm sorry - I'm completely missing where he was abusive to her.

Is this just a knee-jerk reaction from someone else who was scorned?

What, he gets a decent attorney and manages to get custody and somehow that translates to him being a controlling abuser?

What the heck am I missing here?

She alleged he was abusive in a filing prior to his request for sole physical custody. After these allegations, he then filed for primary (sole) physical custody. She claimed he beat her in front of their chil(ren). He claimed she threw a marble object at him and he forcefully set her down during an argument. So, there was at least one incident, be it mutual combat (by his admission) or one-sided (by her account). Typical counter move when one person alleges abuse (child abuse, sexual abuse, domestic abuse) is for the other party to cliam parental alienation.

And no, I wasn't scorned. My ex still loves me. To death. The death part being the scary part.

 

[Proserpina]

She alleged he was abusive in a filing prior to his request for sole physical custody. After these allegations, he then filed for primary (sole) physical custody. She claimed he beat her in front of their chil(ren). He claimed she threw a marble object at him and he forcefully set her down during an argument. So, there was at least one incident, be it mutual combat (by his admission) or one-sided (by her account). Typical counter move when one person alleges abuse (child abuse, sexual abuse, domestic abuse) is for the other party to cliam parental alienation.

And no, I wasn't scorned. My ex still loves me. To death. The death part being the scary part.

I'm sorry, but I think you're projecting.

*shrug*

 

[stealth2]

I'm sorry, but I think you're projecting.

*shrug*

I agree.

Oh, and.... if he WAS abusive to his wife, he'd be an "abusive husband". NOT an "abusive Dad".

 

[Proserpina]

I agree.

Oh, and.... if he WAS abusive to his wife, he'd be an "abusive husband". NOT an "abusive Dad".

Yeap.

They are NOT interchangeable terms.

 

[st-kitts]

Yeap.

They are NOT interchangeable terms.

There are perhaps differences between a good parent and an abusive parent. I would agree, possibly, that a dad is not an abusive dad if he batters the mother of the child when the child is not a witness. When the child is a witness, I would disagree.

Abuse of a parent in front of the children is considered child abuse in many states. And CPS/DFACS can and does get involved and remove children for failure to protect (when a spouse chooses to stay with an abusive partner). In addition, there are cases where criminal charges for child abuse can be brought against the batterer for committing battery of a parent in front of the child because of the emotional damage to the child.

 

[Proserpina]

There are perhaps differences between a good parent and an abusive parent. I would agree, possibly, that a dad is not an abusive dad if he batters the mother of the child when the child is not a witness. When the child is a witness, I would disagree.

Abuse of a parent in front of the children is considered child abuse in many states. And CPS/DFACS can and does get involved and remove children for failure to protect (when a spouse chooses to stay with an abusive partner). In addition, there are cases where criminal charges for child abuse can be brought against the batterer for committing battery of a parent in front of the child because of the emotional damage to the child.

...and where is ANY of that stated as fact in THIS - and remember this isn't YOUR - situation?


Turn it around, even. How many people, having been cheated on and perhaps humiliated, have gone on the attack and actually physically assaulted the other party and then called the cops first?

Come on. We see it here not infrequently. An allegation does NOT equal guilt and you know that.



Ah, Someone In Particular needs to use up some emoticons for me right now