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So what you were asking for OP was a loophole to change your baby's last name?
Kind of changing the subject around but not really....
I thought if the birthmother were to give her child her last name the biofather could petition the courts to have it changed. Is that true? If so, then why can't the birthmother petition the courts to have the name changed? Or am I just confused?
Not to side with OP because she was being a little outrageous(sorry, just in a mood tonight) but the biofather to my daughter and I broke up during my pregnancy and labor(we got back together for 3 years after she was born), but anyway, I never thought about it twice and gave my child my last name. I never regretted it because she grew up with the same last name as me. I never did it out of spite or anger, it just made sense at the time. She's 12 now and never questioned it. (Actually, my daughter is quite all about herself and thinks her name sounds like a moviestar.) Why should OP's child hang on to someone or something that isn't there(biofather)? It's like hanging onto hope. Why not grow strength where the solid foundation IS?
Kind of changing the subject around but not really....
I thought if the birthmother were to give her child her last name the biofather could petition the courts to have it changed. Is that true? If so, then why can't the birthmother petition the courts to have the name changed? Or am I just confused?
Not to side with OP because she was being a little outrageous(sorry, just in a mood tonight) but the biofather to my daughter and I broke up during my pregnancy and labor(we got back together for 3 years after she was born), but anyway, I never thought about it twice and gave my child my last name. I never regretted it because she grew up with the same last name as me. I never did it out of spite or anger, it just made sense at the time. She's 12 now and never questioned it. (Actually, my daughter is quite all about herself and thinks her name sounds like a moviestar.) Why should OP's child hang on to someone or something that isn't there(biofather)? It's like hanging onto hope. Why not grow strength where the solid foundation IS?
Shay-Pari'e
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I'm starting with your origonal post, even though you had great advice and your turning out to be quite the twit.
patty200 said:
Jillian483
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Just as a word of advice
My husband did not see his children for a few months a couple of years ago and here was the reason. He had just claimed bankrupcy because the divorce took everything and he did not want the children to see him as a deadbeat that feeds the ramen noodels every night. The mother got remaiired and went back to court to have the childrens name changed to her new last name and the courts ruled against her. It would have been a huge slap in the face for him to have to fill out anything with the childrens name not in his last name but in the last name of the man that his ex cheated on him with and then ran off and married. It might suck but it is best for the children to keep his last name. Don't forget that they might want to change it to yours when they turn 18.
My husband did not see his children for a few months a couple of years ago and here was the reason. He had just claimed bankrupcy because the divorce took everything and he did not want the children to see him as a deadbeat that feeds the ramen noodels every night. The mother got remaiired and went back to court to have the childrens name changed to her new last name and the courts ruled against her. It would have been a huge slap in the face for him to have to fill out anything with the childrens name not in his last name but in the last name of the man that his ex cheated on him with and then ran off and married. It might suck but it is best for the children to keep his last name. Don't forget that they might want to change it to yours when they turn 18.
I'm starting with your origonal post, even though you had great advice and your turning out to be quite the twit.
Well....I'm glad you think I am a twit....
that's your right to think so.....
Joint shared custody, no support and why have you allowed this? You take him back to court for contempt if he has not paid court ordered support.
let's see....child support enforcment has had this deadbeat in court too many times to count, I personally won't waste my money on a lawyer to FIGHT for child support when he obviously has been *screwing the system* for so long, THEY can't even make him pay.....what makes you or anyone else thing that I can make him pay it...... see...I am different from most WOMEN that you probably deal with, I could give a crap about child support at this point, I am raising her and paying for everything she needs, I would rather never get a dime from him.......money isn't worth the pain in the butt that he is....
And why shouldn't he? he is the father.
YES he is the father, but it takes more then someone just being named *father*, then an actually being one....
Yes, as they will notify the bio father. You are just simply out of luck on this one.
I am not worried about him being notified, I will make sure he gets served with papers, even though he probably won't even show, because he has warrants out for him for not showing up for court, and comtempt charges for non-payment of child support....
You cannot just change your Daddy's babies name. Put a period at the end of that, and seek free advice without being so self obsorbed and self loathing.
YES it is possible to change her name, or there wouldn't be others that have done this.....it's just a matter of how I want to deal with it.....
I am not asking *can I change her name* because, yes you are right, it is up to the judge and her biofather....but that doesn't mean it is IMPOSSIBLE..... and as far as being.. **self obsorbed and self loathing** once again....that's your right to think whatever you want to about me..... BUT I am the one seeking advice about MY child, not approval from you or anyone else about my self being.... Thanks!
Well....I'm glad you think I am a twit....
that's your right to think so.....Joint shared custody, no support and why have you allowed this? You take him back to court for contempt if he has not paid court ordered support.
let's see....child support enforcment has had this deadbeat in court too many times to count, I personally won't waste my money on a lawyer to FIGHT for child support when he obviously has been *screwing the system* for so long, THEY can't even make him pay.....what makes you or anyone else thing that I can make him pay it...... see...I am different from most WOMEN that you probably deal with, I could give a crap about child support at this point, I am raising her and paying for everything she needs, I would rather never get a dime from him.......money isn't worth the pain in the butt that he is....
And why shouldn't he? he is the father.
YES he is the father, but it takes more then someone just being named *father*, then an actually being one....
Yes, as they will notify the bio father. You are just simply out of luck on this one.
I am not worried about him being notified, I will make sure he gets served with papers, even though he probably won't even show, because he has warrants out for him for not showing up for court, and comtempt charges for non-payment of child support....
You cannot just change your Daddy's babies name. Put a period at the end of that, and seek free advice without being so self obsorbed and self loathing.
YES it is possible to change her name, or there wouldn't be others that have done this.....it's just a matter of how I want to deal with it.....
I am not asking *can I change her name* because, yes you are right, it is up to the judge and her biofather....but that doesn't mean it is IMPOSSIBLE..... and as far as being.. **self obsorbed and self loathing** once again....that's your right to think whatever you want to about me..... BUT I am the one seeking advice about MY child, not approval from you or anyone else about my self being.... Thanks!
re-wannacry
I think for my son it is really important to him.. He is a smart boy and knows who is his biological father is. He also knows who his dad is(my husband). Who has loved him and raised him and shows genuine interest in him as his son.. The bio on the other hand who made the choice to be absent has come into my sons life and acts like my son is his trophy..Telling everyone this is my son ect,ect.... Well my son is like whatever, He does not see this man as dad.. What is the last name if you cant combine it with the love and trust and respect? My son goes by our last name not the bios..The bios is on the B/C even though he denied being the boys father....
I find it very disturbing that some find it totally wrong to change the childs last name if in fact there has never been any bond or ties... Just my oppinion though.
Shari
I think for my son it is really important to him.. He is a smart boy and knows who is his biological father is. He also knows who his dad is(my husband). Who has loved him and raised him and shows genuine interest in him as his son.. The bio on the other hand who made the choice to be absent has come into my sons life and acts like my son is his trophy..Telling everyone this is my son ect,ect.... Well my son is like whatever, He does not see this man as dad.. What is the last name if you cant combine it with the love and trust and respect? My son goes by our last name not the bios..The bios is on the B/C even though he denied being the boys father....
I find it very disturbing that some find it totally wrong to change the childs last name if in fact there has never been any bond or ties... Just my oppinion though.
Shari
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