What can I do from here

[CJane]

Thank you, I see this will be a hard road ahead, given the circumstances

Your wife is predisposed to believe that you will choose her and the new child over the other child because that's what you've done. Yes, she's being selfish, in the grand scheme of things, but it's based on your past behavior.

I'm going to be very honest with you -- if you're not up to the challenge that might (and probably does) lie ahead of you once you find the child? Then stop now. Leave her alone.

She's better off not having a father at all than having a father who dumps her multiple times because it's just too hard to be there for her.

 

[Ohiogal]

Your wife is predisposed to believe that you will choose her and the new child over the other child because that's what you've done. Yes, she's being selfish, in the grand scheme of things, but it's based on your past behavior.

I'm going to be very honest with you -- if you're not up to the challenge that might (and probably does) lie ahead of you once you find the child? Then stop now. Leave her alone.

She's better off not having a father at all than having a father who dumps her multiple times because it's just too hard to be there for her.

Sadly, for the child, I agree with this.

 

[justliving]

Your wife is predisposed to believe that you will choose her and the new child over the other child because that's what you've done. Yes, she's being selfish, in the grand scheme of things, but it's based on your past behavior.

I'm going to be very honest with you -- if you're not up to the challenge that might (and probably does) lie ahead of you once you find the child? Then stop now. Leave her alone.

She's better off not having a father at all than having a father who dumps her multiple times because it's just too hard to be there for her.

Ohiogal, I realize my error and I want to correct it...it's not about me, my wife, nor the mother of my older child..it's about my daughter, she is the one hurt here. I want a relationship with my child. I will just have to let my wife know that my other child will be apart of our life, like it or not.