What can legaly happen

[StickyFingers]

Look lady...read carefully the advice you have been given!

READ THE SIGNS!!!!

CHECK YOUR PRIORITIES!!!! You children should come first!! Who cares how much love you have for this A**Hole. If he does not treat your kids right then YOU DO NOT NEED HIM!!!!

I don't care if this is the "first time" or not, and every thing else is just peachie. I should know I've been through this. The fist time they were mistreated I hit the door! You need to do the same. Those kid(s) depend on you to keep them safe. By accepting his line of BS..That is not keeping them safe!

I sure did love the hell out of a certain guy....He treated me like a queen.......But that doesn't matter..He messed with my kids!..And don't anyone mess with my kids!!!

 

[ChristinaR]

You would be smart to listen to the advice given here!

I'm a CASA which is a Court Appointed Special Advocate for children, Everyday I work with similar situations, After CPS gets a call and removes the child you will be in the system for a year at least, Your ex can and probably will be given the child and you will end up with limited visitation. Redefine your priorities before its too late. All it takes to start this is one phone call Hon your ex could already be starting the ball rolling.

 

[stealth2]

your ex could already be starting the ball rolling.

If I were the ex - the ball would be rolling. Noone gets a second chance at hurting my kid.

 

[fried eggs]

Stop excusing his behavior. And I'm not talking about the physical abuse (because we all know as long as you are actually involved with this boyfriend, you will continue to mislabel it) but his decision to not do what is required. You aren't giving on your boyfriend by doing the right thing by your son, he is giving up on you by refusing to do what's necessary for the two of you to be a couple.

Sounds like you were codependent for a long time and you are falling back into old patterns. Better keep a close eye out for that happening, it's a real danger.

 

[usmcfamily]

I think you need to step back and consider two important points/questions..........

1) if it comes down to it (as many have pointed out it very well can, legally) which would be your choice -- your b/f or your son? By choosing to go along with your b/f in not doing what he was instructed to do (the classes) and defying that ruling you are putting yourself in a position where it may well come to that choice............

2) what does your b/f reluctance to do a very simple thing (take the course) in order to not put you in that position tell you about his priorities as far as you, your child and the relationship you have? If this man truly loved you and your child (as he should if he is a part of your lives) then it would seem that taking the course would not even be cause for second thought.........I think the fact that he is so resistant to do so says a lot......