what does this mean?

[TNBSMommy]

The posters here are only 'mean' to the people they feel are asking questions to do what is NOT in the best interest of the children...

I have an idea...how bout you tell your ex about this site? I bet noone would be mean to her.

 

[AisforApple]

I really think this post (s) has the potential of making IAAL's
top 10 list.....
Can I be the first to nominate ???



To msdad, if you could only see yourself, the things you say,
my jaw hit the floor several times in disbelief, either you are pulling a prank, or you need to evolve a few hundred years.

 

[casa]

Child support has never been modified!

My only concern with the drug test is that I USE TO smoke pot. (which she knew) Not for a couple of years though. They are not asking for a urine sample, they are asking for hair. I've had 3 DUI's in 12 years. Does this matter? They can't pull up my juvy record can they? I had two DUI's then.

I DON'T want her knowing where I live! That is that.

Are you guys sure that administrative is different from what they are doing in regards to child support?

Why would a Judge care if I have a girlfriend with kids...that's not my fault.

Can you guys please give some honest advice. I've noticed that you guys are rude with almost anyone who posts a question...not just me

This is WHY you are "toast":

1) You are an ALCOHOLIC. Normal drinkers do not gather up 5 DUIs. Even if only 3 are as an adult- It shows a pattern of you not being responsible for your drinking. Do you even have a driver's license anymore??

2) You are a past drug user (current alcoholic) and that means you are at risk of relapse using drugs again. A hair follicle sample will go further back than a UA and will let the court know if you REALLY haven't used in "a couple of years".

3) You haven't had support increased in 9 years. Get ready to pay what is currently fair <hint....it's a lot more than it was 9 years ago>

4) The fact that your g/f has children means that you are willing to co-parent another woman's children but not your own.

I hope they order a psychological evaluation on you~ The fact that you continue to point your finger at her (when the counselor said your child is well-adjusted and you haven't been a part of that life) and the fact that you are willing to fight custody over cigarettes while you are an alcoholic past drug user~ OMG I could go on and on. You have a serious void of empathetic emotions and seemingly no clue to what impact your selfish actions are capable of making on your son. These WILL come to light.

That clarify anything for ya??

 

[tigger22472]

I was telling my husband about this poster last night... I find it utterly amazing he went from coming here asking if he should go to court in 3 hours to fight the name change (which I didn't even realize til last night that the child has mom's name anyways so it's not like the child even has HIS name). Then he went from that to going for visitation and now he thinks he'll just go for custody??? Yeah!! All of the above is what is best for the child! What this poster doesn't realize probably is that the only reason he knew about the name change was because mom was legally obligated to have to inform him. I've been there and done that. I'm sure if this wasn't something that was extremely important to her she wouldn't of even attempted it. At 9 that poor little boy is probably ASKING that it be done so that he has the same name as everyone else in the household and he has the same last name as the man as he knows as 'daddy'. He's not asking for this man to come and disrupt his life!!

 

[casa]

I was telling my husband about this poster last night... I find it utterly amazing he went from coming here asking if he should go to court in 3 hours to fight the name change (which I didn't even realize til last night that the child has mom's name anyways so it's not like the child even has HIS name). Then he went from that to going for visitation and now he thinks he'll just go for custody??? Yeah!! All of the above is what is best for the child! What this poster doesn't realize probably is that the only reason he knew about the name change was because mom was legally obligated to have to inform him. I've been there and done that. I'm sure if this wasn't something that was extremely important to her she wouldn't of even attempted it. At 9 that poor little boy is probably ASKING that it be done so that he has the same name as everyone else in the household and he has the same last name as the man as he knows as 'daddy'. He's not asking for this man to come and disrupt his life!!

You know, I said that from the beginning! The child NEVER even had his name!! How ridiculous is the fact that he's upset about a name change now? The judge will probably say "Why didn't you care he didn't have your name for the last 9 years?? OH! YEAH! You weren't around!"

 

[tigger22472]

You know, I said that from the beginning! The child NEVER even had his name!! How ridiculous is the fact that he's upset about a name change now? The judge will probably say "Why didn't you care he didn't have your name for the last 9 years?? OH! YEAH! You weren't around!"

I know.. somehow I missed that about the child not even having his name to begin with...lol Maybe I was just utterly amazed over all the other stupid things he was saying and so saw my ex in him.
My ex threw a fit when my son(who was 7 or 8 at the time) asked if he could call my husband 'dad'. I even asked him WHY he wanted to. His answer was that my husband took responsibility for him and did things that 'dad's' are supposed to do. He still called his bio 'daddy'. My ex told him "I'm your DAD... I will ALWAYS be your dad and NO ONE will change that." Funny how my son just made sure the few times he was around his bio after that he didn't call my husband 'dad' but still did at home. It's also funny that not 4 months later was the last time they ever saw him and it's been 3.5 years since then. Last June the adoption was finalized and the bio didn't even contest. The funniest part about it is I believe he didn't contest because he believed he wouldn't be accountable for the $25,000 he was in arrears. CSE tried every three months for 3 years to serve him for court yet amazingly enough got him served for the court date less then a month after the adoption was final. They are now getting arrears owed.
Sorry, I hijacked this a bit and ranted but this poster just so reminds me with his comments of my ex and the diluted way they think that being a 'Dad' somehow it automatic simply because they provided the sperm!!

 

[msdad]

tnbsmommy She may very well know about this site. I know that my mom was on the Grandparents rights. I know that she told my ex to look around on the net, because she (my mom) and I have rights, and that my ex is beating a dead horse trying to stop it.

My ex was 18 when we met and almost 20 when she delivered. I was 28, so she was perfectly legal when she had my son.

And that's a good idea, to take my ex to court to change my sons last name to mine, I never thought of that.

 

[stealth2]

Oh please. Give it up already - either decide to be a father to your son, or leave them all alone. You're turning out to be a real prick, and I hope your g/f is seeing your true colors. Her poor kids, having to spend time with you.

 

[msdad]

When I came to this site, I started asking honest questions, that you guys beat me up for. In fact you guys beat almost everyone up who has a question. I'm not trying to be a prick, just (like I've said before)honest.

Whoever posted before and asked the question: My girlfriend does want me to see my son, and thinks my ex is a bitch, they've never met. But now my girlfriend wants me to back out because its apparent that my ex is going to make it hard.

Also, I read that the drug test done on hair is only good for 90 days. Not as long as someone implied.

Oh and why did someone ask if I ever go out with my girlfriend and her kids? Of course I do.

 

[stealth2]

Oh and why did someone ask if I ever go out with my girlfriend and her kids? Of course I do.

Because you made a freakin' big deal that Mom does it. God forbid, she might have some adult time. Not like YOU've been around to pick up any slack.

And I'll tell ya - you ain't even seen the START of mean.

 

[Rushia]

Oh and why did someone ask if I ever go out with my girlfriend and her kids? Of course I do.

You leave the kids with a babysitter? According to you that is bad parenting. So it's alright for the two of you to go out but your son's mother is supposed to sit at home all the time. Do you have a screw loose somewhere?

 

[tigger22472]

And I'll tell ya - you ain't even seen the START of mean.

You think Stealth? You think YOU would be mad if you're child's parent had NOTHING to do with your child even though he knew the child exsisted (in fact was reminded every time he got paid) and then decided to crawl out from under his rock suddenly 9 years later having the nerve to bash YOUR parenting skills? I wouldn't know why? I can't imagine why that would anger someone. It's not like mom hasn't had to answer any questions the child has had about the biological parent or why his name was different. It's not like mom's not taken the child to every doctor appointment, gone to every parent teacher conference, helped with home work and kissed every boo boo (phyical and emotional). Boy, I just don't understand why mom would be angry..

 

[stealth2]

There are few creatures more fearsome than a mother (of any species) whose child has been somehow injured. OP obviously has no clue how deeply that anger can run.

 

[tabathadolley]

Whoever posted before and asked the question: My girlfriend does want me to see my son, and thinks my ex is a bitch, they've never met. But now my girlfriend wants me to back out because its apparent that my ex is going to make it hard.

I think you two are made for each other then. Although I think that mentally and emotionally you aren't deserving to see your son, I wouldn't want to be with anyone who didn't want me to see my child. I'm still disgusted that you can participate in raising someone elses children all this time, and only now do you want to see your son... and I'm pretty sure it's only to spite your ex.