What Have I Gotten Myself Into??

[Shay-Pari'e]

I missed the part about whether they have been involved in counsekng?

AS to buodad, I have no idea why biomom's rights were terminated and whu biodad didn't obtain cistody at that time, and why they were then adopted, so I have no idea if bring with biodad is smart or nit.

Huh?, lol.

No offense, but that is beyond spell check.

 

[nextwife]

Got up to put the dog out. Typing by monitor light so I don't wake my family with lights from the office.

 

[getaway]

No Bio-Parents Allowed

Yes, these children want be with their bio-dad. But he gave his rights away to the bio-mom years ago. The bio-mom lost her rights because she neglected the children. I received the children from their adopted mother.

 

[stealth2]

But WHY did he give up his parental rights? Was there abuse or anything similar involved? Or was it simply to move on with life?

 

[getaway]

Because...

He gave his rights away because he didn't want to deal with the children. He wanted to move to another state and not be responsible for them. He gave his parental rights away over 6 years ago. Now he wants to deal with them. He doesn't want them right now, he wants them a year or so from now.

In court, the judge insisted that the children not be allowed to contact their bio-mom or bio-dad. (Which is normal in a case like this.) There isn't anything more in that area that I can do. The only person that was in their lives that they are still allowed to deal with is their adopted mother. When we received custody, she was granted visitation.

 

[LdiJ]

He gave his rights away because he didn't want to deal with the children. He wanted to move to another state and not be responsible for them. He gave his parental rights away over 6 years ago. Now he wants to deal with them. He doesn't want them right now, he wants them a year or so from now.

In court, the judge insisted that the children not be allowed to contact their bio-mom or bio-dad. (Which is normal in a case like this.) There isn't anything more in that area that I can do. The only person that was in their lives that they are still allowed to deal with is their adopted mother. When we received custody, she was granted visitation.

Its possible that the biological father is ready to be a father...has grown, matured etc. Allowing him to eventually re-adopt his own kids might be the very best thing for them.

However you won't know that without getting to know him and possibly the rest of his extended family. Why not reach out to them?

 

[Kevmar44]

There is nothing wrong in admitting that you can not handle these girls right now. Contact the courts or whoever and have them research other family members in the area that might be able to take them. The whole idea of an 11 and a 13 year old taking off for Georgia from Virginia without your permission is a red flag that it's going to take more than you've got to control them. And school started and they are not there yet? They obviously don't listen to you, not to mention respect you and you have to have that especially with kids that age.

 

[ellencee]

getaway
I don't think you can just ask to give away custody of these two children and I think you are lettig them down if you even try; however, Juvenile court may be a place for you to start in looking for some legal help.

EC

 

[nextwife]

I agree. It is NOT up to her to decide to ignore the judges statement that the bioparents should not be contacted. SHE is now legally reponsible for these kids and must go through legal channels to change that.