What if I do this...

[stealth2]

You have much more patience that I do, stepmometc.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Just determination.

 

[Rushia]

As for your comment about my fiance, I'd like to remind you that he will be the primary father figure in my son's life, as he has been now for over a year. He sees my son much more than my son's father does. Legally speaking, you are correct, but I don't appreciate the tone in that last line about him. He's a very kind man.

Kind man or not, it still does not make him your child's father. His FATHER has every right to fight the move. You have been told several times that if you leave without doing it through the proper channels then you face the possiblity of either losing custody or being forced to move back. You simply aren't receiving the answer that you want and are being argumentative. As for the insults..Hey I've actually been told to read something after I pulled my head out of my a$$, was I offended, no. Why should I be? Why should a bunch of people I can't see much less ever really know, offend me? Get over yourself.

 

[tdpltina]

...Stealth gave you a noncombative response (the one I previously posted.)

So far, so good. His/her first response was noncombative. And I was fine with him at that point.

Then you became argumentative:

Let me be more specific about this. The father and I were never married or cohabitated. We simply dated for a few weeks. I'm thinking that if I simply move to Florida and establish custody there, the California law doesn't even apply. It's not like the child ever lived with his father at any time.

Wrong. I was simply clarifying the circumstances to see if that changed the situation. I don't see anything at all argumentative about that response or the way it was worded.

To which you were given another honest response. And then you further stated:

Can you please cite something that says I'm risking being charged with kidnapping? That's exactly the sort of thing I need to see.

Again, I don't see anything at all argumentative in my response to there. I'm simply asking to see something cited on the possibility that I could be charged with kidnapping. What is argumentative about that?

You can't blame people when they give you a truthful response and you continually argue because you didn't like the answer.

I hope you can see upon further reflection and in light of my answer here that I was certainly not arguing. Shall we take another hypothetical? Let's say you ask a neighbor for a recipe to make cookies. Your neighbor responds with a standard recipe. You reply with "Let me be more specific, I want a recipe for chocolate chip cookies." Your neighbor then replies that you are arguing with her. Would you agree that you were arguing?

By the way, I've noticed that you have failed to mention at all my response to you containing a quote from MissouriGal that gave all sorts of bad news, yet was worded respectfully. As I said there, I had no problem with that answer. Ipso facto, I am capable of accepting answers from members here even if I don't like those answers.
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[tdpltina]

Kind man or not, it still does not make him your child's father. . .

And I never said it did.

 

[stealth2]

Like I said - you get what you pay for. Some posters are more patient and polite. Some aren't. Hell, you don't always get polite even when you pay for the advice. Maybe calling Mr. Rogers would get you what you're looking for. If he weren't dead.

 

[Rushia]

And I never said it did.

Not directly, it was in your TONE.

 

[tdpltina]

Like I said - you get what you pay for. Some posters are more patient and polite. Some aren't. Hell, you don't always get polite even when you pay for the advice. Maybe calling Mr. Rogers would get you what you're looking for. If he weren't dead.

LOL!!! OK, I'll buy that!

Let me just attempt to close out this thread by saying the following:

I came here seeking advice, and found lots of useful things to consider. Even the rude sunzabitzches like stealth were helpful. For that I thank you all.

I've had simple statements clarifying my question misunderstood as argumentative as though I had no right to seek clarification, and this from someone who implied that I was "self-enthralled". Pot calling the kettle black?

So since it's OK on this board to be insulting (most of you seem to uphold that principle in here), let me close with:

You've all been very helpful even if some of you are complete jerks You've given me lots of useful information, and while I'd sooner get a root canal than chat with some of you again, I won't hesitate to come back if I think you can be helpful to me again. Thankyou!!

 

[stealth2]

Heh. Excellent closing.

 

[ENASNI]

I never gave anybody hell! I just told the truth and they thought it was hell.
Harry S Truman