what to do?

[deewa]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CO
X went to court last month and was asking for full custody, his lawyer never let me know there was even a hearing,(sneaky huh?) I filed an objection, it is currently being "reviewed" by the judge. In the mean time he won't let me see my girls as per the old order, we had 50-50 before. His "control issues" have been going on now for over 9 years! He makes 10x the money I do, and can afford a lawyer, I cannot. Anybody know how I can get him to abide by the old order? don't suggest police, they can't help me, I already tried.

 

[stealth2]

I don't think the old order is in effect at this point. The new one is - until (and if) the judge overturns it.

 

[deewa]

the judge has yet to sign anything!, "it is currently under review"

 

[stealth2]

You say the judge granted the ex full custody - that's what stands until he changes it or not.

 

[deewa]

what to do

I mis spoke, X asked for full custody, nothing has been granted as of today.

 

[deewa]

as a "newbie" here,I was just looking for suggestions. I can see from other posts that this guy is an idiot. Wondering if any one with some intelligence out there might be able to offer advice? The order is still not signed or made an order of the court, officially asked the judge to review yesterday, with a "Motion for Review". Just sit and wait, and hope the judge gives me my time back when the new hearing is announced?
Police will only offer an officer to "keep the peace" if I try to physically remove them from his home. My daughters are 14 and almost 16, not infants or small children.

 

[deewa]

as a "newbie" here,I was just looking for suggestions. I can see from other posts that this guy is an idiot. Wondering if any one with some intelligence out there might be able to offer advice? The order is still not signed or made an order of the court, officially asked the judge to review yesterday, with a "Motion for Review". Just sit and wait, and hope the judge gives me my time back when the new hearing is announced?
Police will only offer an officer to "keep the peace" if I try to physically remove them from his home. My daughters are 14 and almost 16, not infants or small children.

 

[casa]

as a "newbie" here,I was just looking for suggestions. I can see from other posts that this guy is an idiot. Wondering if any one with some intelligence out there might be able to offer advice? The order is still not signed or made an order of the court, officially asked the judge to review yesterday, with a "Motion for Review". Just sit and wait, and hope the judge gives me my time back when the new hearing is announced?
Police will only offer an officer to "keep the peace" if I try to physically remove them from his home. My daughters are 14 and almost 16, not infants or small children.

What guy?

 

[deewa]

the one who was talking with me the other day, I think he's no Einstein.

 

[casa]

the one who was talking with me the other day, I think he's no Einstein.

Neither are you The other poster to this thread is not a male.

And re; your question- you were given the correct answer. The order stands (though your objection to it is under review- and if the judge agrees with your objection, you'll have opportunity to dispute the validity of the outcome of the hearing you were not notified of), in the meantime you have to follow the order that was issued at the hearing you missed.

Wait for the outcome of the review and go from there. At ages 14 & almost 16 your children won't forget who you are in the month or few months that this takes.

 

[MandyD]

As a "newbie", you sure started off on the wrong foot, didn't you?

See Ya!!

 

[deewa]

SORRRRY!! Just wanted some advice, not a butt chewing.
Nothing has yet been made an order of the court, as I said.
This is the first time in over 9 years I have had to deal with him in court. Everything has not been rosy since the divorce, but we have been able to keep it out of court.

 

[abstract99]

his lawyer never let me know there was even a hearing,(sneaky huh?)

Well... not really. His lawyer is under no obligation to inform you there is a court hearing. However, you or your lawyer should have been served. Check into it. If you did hava a lawyer and he is not your lawyer anymore then make sure he withdrew himself as your lawyer or else he might have gotten served for you. I know that we actually serve my ex's lawyer not her.

In the mean time he won't let me see my girls as per the old order, we had 50-50 before.

I don't understand this. You say that he is not allowing you to see the children because of the old order. What does to old (current) order say? If it says that you have visitation rights and ex is not following it then you can file for contempt. Be careful though. My CO specifically says that if either parent is abusing the children then the children will be removed from that parents house until a judge can rule on the matter. If your CO says somthing along those lines and that is what your ex was taking you to court for then he might be within his rights.

 

[deewa]

I must not have been clear, first what is a CO? second, our old order from 1997 says 50-50 custody, his new (proposed) order says he gets them all the time, with me visitation every other weekend. This proposed order is still under review. There has never been any abuse. (alleged or otherwise) but he has made up so many things,(ie I don't go to school conferences ), well no I schedule a different day with the approval of the teachers,I just don't go with him,this makes him mad besidesI have proof to refute everything he said in his proposed order. He has informed my daughters that while it is under review he gets his way, and threatens to ground them or take away privileges if they disobey him. They are in a tug-of-war, not knowing who to believe. My old lawyer did withdraw officially in the records.

 

[abstract99]

I must not have been clear, first what is a CO? second, our old order from 1997 says 50-50 custody, his new (proposed) order says he gets them all the time, with me visitation every other weekend. This proposed order is still under review. There has never been any abuse. (alleged or otherwise) but he has made up so many things,(ie I don't go to school conferences ), well no I schedule a different day with the approval of the teachers,I just don't go with him,this makes him mad besidesI have proof to refute everything he said in his proposed order. He has informed my daughters that while it is under review he gets his way, and threatens to ground them or take away privileges if they disobey him. They are in a tug-of-war, not knowing who to believe. My old lawyer did withdraw officially in the records.

CO is court order. Ok do you mean that he has been awarded sole custody and the juge is deciding on how the CO will be written? What is confusing me is you keep refering to the CO as the old one. Is it old as in there is a new CO out now? Or is it just old but still current? I would file for contempt. I don't think that he will get any custody if everything that you are saying is accurate. The courts always look at which parent is more likely to work well with the other one. I would do this quickly. It usually takes about 2 months for the new CO to be issued. It is also important to know if you got served or not so please answer the question. If you weren't served and missed the court date because of it then it can make a big difference.