what to do?

[Ladyback1]

I took that as what she would recommend the father (the one she was responding to) should say to his child. Did you take that differently?

That is correct.

Look, I am sort of hurt that the Ex has completely written of his children (again hasn't seen them in almost 3 years, hasn't acknowledged the kids' birthdays, hasn't responded to the kids' attempts to reach out to him) It would be really easy to be bitter and vindictive because he has hurt the kids'.
Had both kids' in counseling, and the counselor "cleared" (for lack of a better word). I've had counseling. Sometimes the mean and vindictive thoughts creep in and when they do, I seek input from others who are objective.

Mostly I'm upset and disappointed with myself for choosing Ex---but I remind myself without him I wouldn't have two precious, beautiful kids.
So, yeah---I sometimes think of being a vindictive person.
I try really hard to keep those thoughts in check.

 

[Ladyback1]

Hey Pro, prostitue solicitor gal seems to have deleted her thread -- WINNING!

and if you are referring to me: 1) I've not deleted any post from here. 2) I take my name from the Univ. of Arkansas female basketball team. So, if you want to continue calling me names, go ahead. I have a thick skin, and can pretty much take anything you want to throw at me. It just shows your lack of class and your insecurity!

 

[stealth2]

I took that as what she would recommend the father (the one she was responding to) should say to his child. Did you take that differently?

I took it as a step parent making that comment. Am I wrong? Could be. Or not. I'd like OP to address it directly.

 

[Ladyback1]

I took it as a step parent making that comment. Am I wrong? Could be. Or not. I'd like OP to address it directly.

I addressed my part on the other thread. I'm not now, nor have I ever been a step-parent. I have 2 teenage boys

 

[stealth2]

I addressed my part on the other thread. I'm not now, nor have I ever been a step-parent. I have 2 teenage boys

Fair enough. However... your situation is hardly unique. And $25? Really? Get over it.

 

[Ladyback1]

Fair enough. However... your situation is hardly unique. And $25? Really? Get over it.

I have. I just wanted some learned, objective opinions from you fine people to confirm my feelings.

 

[stealth2]

I have. I just wanted some learned, objective opinions from you fine people to confirm my feelings.

That is not what this site is for. Period. Stop.

 

[Ladyback1]

That is not what this site is for. Period. Stop.

I'm sorry. I have just so many of you offer kind, caring and objective opinions on here....

I knew when I posted, and still know that legally I can take the Ex back to court over $25.

 

[ecmst12]

Just because you CAN does not mean that you SHOULD.

 

[Ladyback1]

Just because you CAN does not mean that you SHOULD.

yep, I agree.
and that's true of so many aspects of a person's life

 

[Ohiogal]

and if you are referring to me: 1) I've not deleted any post from here. 2) I take my name from the Univ. of Arkansas female basketball team. So, if you want to continue calling me names, go ahead. I have a thick skin, and can pretty much take anything you want to throw at me. It just shows your lack of class and your insecurity!

Truthfully it was a slight hijack and an aside. But whatever.