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stealth2
Under the Radar Member
sleeplessnights said:It's easy for you to throw the question back to me, because you were not the one married to my X. He took my kids away from me mentally & physically, by using his power of threats. It's not because he actually cared for those kids but all he cared for was himself. He figured I'm not going back to him so he used our kids s a trap but the thing I did not take the bait. I did'nt want to be married to him anymore. And he could'nt accept the fact we are over as husband & wife. So revenge started in his part. I was scared for my life. Have you ever encountered a manipulator? Hope you experience once so you know where I'm coming from. I know I have obligation to pay CS but he has obligation to let me see our kids.
Which has nothing to do wih your question. You have an obligation to pay the ordered support and arrearages. Period.
stepmom&mom
Member
Actually, my husband owes back child support, and he does not work. He goes to school full-time (so that he get get a better career and make MUCH more money.) So I have agreed to be the breadwinner and pay the child support with my income. We also have two children and we never once thought of trying to get out of paying child support. You do what you have to do. If you make the decision to stay home with ur kids, then you better make sure you have the financial means to do it without making any one of your children suffer.
jennifer6219
Member
what kind of mother are you what kind of woman are you. im guessing not very good you abandoned your kids you didn't care enough to look for a better way out for you all it was all about you you had to get out you left without your kids you make me sick so he beat you call the police and beat back hit em when hes sleeping sew him in his sheets and pour boiling hot water on him never abandon your kids shame shame shame it always easier to blame others for what the did to you. you should have found a way out together bad mommy
jennifer6219 said:
Gee, wouldn't a better idea be to simply take financial responsibility for oneself and move out with the kids? Rather than committing criminal assault?
Besides, all these claims occurred AFTER the original question, and the resulting responses, which was basically "I'm voluntarily unemployed so I can be a stay at home mom to the kids I had with my new husband, so how can I pay CS?"
VeronicaGia
Senior Member
sleeplessnights said:Fifteen years ago, my X put me in hell.
Fifteen years ago....and you're whining like it was just last week. Time to get over it. No matter what your ex put you through 15 years ago, it does not negate your obligation to your children Why are you asking us to help you figure out a way to make your kids suffer for what your ex husband put you through 15 years ago? Your stay at home status does not stop you legal obligation to support the kids you already have. Your new kids don't get to profit off the hardship of your previous kids. A hardship you are causing by not paying your support.
If this new guy divorces you, will you make your new kids suffer financially too? Maybe get married again, have a few more kids, and become a stay at home parent? It doesn't work that way.
If any man came here and posted what you posted, we'd be reaming him and you'd be right there with us. Just because you're a woman doesn't mean the law doesn't apply to you.
So keep not paying, end up in jail, get your drivers license suspended, whatever. The arrears are payable in full plus interest no matter how many years it takes you to pay them. They don't go away...ever.
jennifer6219
Member
ok yeah sorry bout that i was being sarcastic
Gracie3787
Senior Member
Solution to your "problem"
You have CHOSEN to stay home and have your new husband TOTALLY support you. TOTALLY supporting you means that he will be paying for ALL of YOUR expenses- one of those expenses is your CS OBLIGATION.
IF your new hubby is willing to support you, then he should also have no problem with paying YOUR CS obligation. Viola! End of problem.
However, you need to be aware that if your ex asks for a modification, then legally the court can ask about your hubby's income and set amount of CS on that.
Basically, it comes down to this- if you want to stay at home, and your hubby is willing to pay your support, that's fine. BUT- No matter what you choose to do, your first children HAVE to be supported.
sleeplessnights said:
You have CHOSEN to stay home and have your new husband TOTALLY support you. TOTALLY supporting you means that he will be paying for ALL of YOUR expenses- one of those expenses is your CS OBLIGATION.
IF your new hubby is willing to support you, then he should also have no problem with paying YOUR CS obligation. Viola! End of problem.
However, you need to be aware that if your ex asks for a modification, then legally the court can ask about your hubby's income and set amount of CS on that.
Basically, it comes down to this- if you want to stay at home, and your hubby is willing to pay your support, that's fine. BUT- No matter what you choose to do, your first children HAVE to be supported.
sleeplessnights said:
You appear to be a little confused. First decide what you want. I'm not going to say money doesn't matter because it does. It makes life a little more bearable. I am going through a few things myself but I would die first before I left my children. I would give my life to them as well as my last dollar. And even if by chance I turned crazy and they gave my son to his father I would willing pay because I know that whatever I gave improved his life. You have said that your ex brainwashed your children. You aren't evening fighting to see them or visit. I have one question for you? Do you really think he had to feed your children a crock of crap for them to think of you the way they do or they came to their own conculsion?
sleeplessnights
Junior Member
I guess, there's really no sense for me of telling you about my situation. If I was not acknowledge in the past and 'til now. What the sense? I guess I'll let my self go to hell/jail to pay for what I have done. To make everybody happy and satisfied. But it does not mean that I'm guilty. I am still a mother like you guys but in a different circumstances. Go ahead continue to be rude..that's exactly the kind of opinion for people like me need in this world.tigger22472
Senior Member
sleeplessnights said:
That IS exactly what you need. This is not a coddle board. You were told of your obligations and your rights and you wanted to whine about things. You need a good swift kick of reality!! You got it! And BTW.. we don't put on pity parties here either.
When your husband decided to totally support you that included your financial responsibilities too of which CS should have be NUMBER 1.