What's a man to do?

[sydney1205]

yes, i did jump into the thread, and gave my opinion LIKE THE REST OF YOU DID, so sir, if you want to switch jobs, thats your decision, whatever makes you happy, if your child support dont lower, then youll just have to deal, as long as your happy with your new job

 

[tphillips78]

You would have to request to go back to court and have your CS dropped down if you can prove you make less. More then likely the court or your exs lawyer will ask you why you left your current job for a less paying job and you will be stuck paying the same amount. It would be different if you got fired from your job and had to find a new job but either way you would have to goto court and ask them to lower your CS. I'm not saying go get fired from your job. I'm just telling you that you would have to go back to court and tell them your story. If you go that way don't go mad about stuff. It won't look good on your part.


I'm not a lawyer this is what I have been told by other people to do in this type of thing. Just becareful on what you do.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

no sweety, you scroll up, snodderlys reply was to me...was it not? go ahead honey, use the mouse and go a few inches up...i bet youll see it, see it? nice and clear

One last time, ....Your post is # 5, his is # 6. Who was speaking to you on this thread? Well you got what you wanted, another thread dedicated to teaching you how stupid you are.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

yes, i did jump into the thread, and gave my opinion LIKE THE REST OF YOU DID, so sir, if you want to switch jobs, thats your decision, whatever makes you happy, if your child support dont lower, then youll just have to deal, as long as your happy with your new job

What? Like give up his rights like you? Ya, please tell him how well you are dealing. Your poor child. OH! And I am not your honey.

 

[sydney1205]

first off, I NEVER said you were MY honey, he asked a simple question, he didnt ask you WHETHER OR NOT YOU APPROVED OF HIS CHILD sUPPORT, so back the **** off, ill give my opinion just like you did.

 

[sydney1205]

and i didnt give up my rights ok? i asked about it, but as much as i hate to admit, i do want to thank you people for showing me that i cant give up when times are rough and bc my x is a s s ...ok im not posting no more threads bc you *******s dont know what your talking about, your prob some fta ass bitch who sits on ehr ass and collects too so you know what spare me,

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

and i didnt give up my rights ok? i asked about it, but as much as i hate to admit, i do want to thank you people for showing me that i cant give up when times are rough and bc my x is a s s ...ok im not posting no more threads bc you *******s dont know what your talking about, your prob some fta ass bitch who sits on ehr ass and collects too so you know what spare me,

Read my signature idiot.

 

[stealth2]

you know the man said he dont like his job, he didnt say he is swtiching jobs BECAUSE he wants to lower the child support

Dude, try to stay with the plot, okay? You're sort of missing the point. The court doesn't care if you don't like your job. Leaving it for one that pays less is known as voluntary underemployment. That will not get a downward modification in the support amount.

 

[haiku]

well I do want to point out any CP who only matches thier child support amount (the 2000 example) really needs to get a better job too.....as child support (and the matching amount) is for the childs needs and not thier own. my philosophy as CP was always double it or better.

Anyway...to the OP unless your ex agrees to the downward modification, you best make sure your new budget for a lower paying job includes your child support. I imagine you are also not going to downsize your mortgage or car for example?.......

 

[snodderly]

well I do want to point out any CP who only matches thier child support amount (the 2000 example) really needs to get a better job too.....as child support (and the matching amount) is for the childs needs and not thier own. my philosophy as CP was always double it or better.

It was an example of just how little $1,000 a month is haiku. It was a sarcastic way of saying that, for the mother of his children to maintain a decent lifestyle she would have to contribute 2 or 3 times the amount of support that he does. I make twice what my ex pays in support and you know what, very little of it goes to me. The majority of the income that comes into my home goes to providing transportation for them, food for them, clothes for them, educational and medical expenses for them.

I'm lucky if I get a new pair of jeans once in a while. Sure, I have to have a roof over my head and food in my mouth whether I have children or not. Without children though I would not require 3 bedrooms, six hundred a month in food, rarely any medical expense, no educational expense. I could live easily and happily on $2,000 a month by myself.

What most don't seem to understand is this...the earning potential for most single mothers in this country is quite low. Unless they remarry they have quite a burden to carry and these fathers who believe $1,000 a month is too much money are out of touch with reality.
snodderly

 

[strider5]

Either you people grew up with a gold plate handed to you, or you just expect the best of everything, let me tell you something, the whole world isnt like that. and for the ohhh pleasee, from him saying 1000 is plenty, how damn much do you expect a guy to pay? would 3,000 be enough?

I mentioned once on this board that I thought $1400 for my daughter (5 years old) was outrageous and also got beaten down by people about how that's not a lot. at a 25% tax bracket that would equal a $22,400 raise.

let's put it in perspective. that's enough to cover the payments on a brand new $80,000 car every 5 years. it's enough to pay the mortgage and property tax on a $200,000 house.

not bad considering i never married her. why cant the court call it what it is: alimony. then at least I could claim it on my taxes.

it's okay, my court date is now on the calendar. I'm not sitting idly watching.

 

[haiku]

the point is you cannot compare dollar amounts for child support. whether its 1000. or 250. or 5000.

1000 is not "little" depending on the income of the parites involved. To an excutives wife, it may be nothing, but to a laborer's wife it is a fair percentage of income, and "enough".

Telling someone, that they don't pay enough, based on what YOU (general you) get, is ridiculous to me.

I mean, really, of course a CP has to contribute 2-3 times as much as the support. BOTH parents have to do that if they expect to maintain a home, and have a life. that does not make me cry a river, I was the child of a single mom, before there were laws in place to protect them, I have been a single mom, and now I am the wife of an NCP. And now I do see the opposite side of the coin, yes, and my husbands ex gets a nice amount of money tax free that my husband gets no benefit from tax wise or for other purposes, that might help his household. So there is another plus for the CP that people forget about.

Unless your ex is 'donald trump" and even then, to continue officially in the lifestyle you had while with the guy, you would likely STILL have to contribute. even though us peons, here would be going "my god! what a selfish wench! she cannot live on 5000 a month! I could be swimming in kraft mac and cheese!

Other than that, most people, (especially here-due to the nature of the site) are just people trying to make a living, they were not rich when they were married, what makes anyone think they would get "rich" now.

opposite side of the coin though is once that support leaves your hands, it is no longer yours, and what the CP decides to do with it is not your business any longer, and you do need to get over that. if you were not feeding your kid caviar, and buying her a pony when you were married, how do you think the ex or you can afford it now that you are divorced, with one of you supporting 2 households?

When "regular" people divorce it takes a while financially for both parties to get back on thier feet, and no one gets rich.

As long as you pay your court ordered support, what ever the amount, you are doing what you have to do.