Why do I deal with this??

[christinaylor]

$200 a month? Fair? Do you have kids? How in the world do you figure that? Good greif. I must have it really really good because I get $500 a month for each of mine. (They have different daddies, but they are both cops and don't make alot). Sometimes, it is hard to get by with that amount. Not that I'm complaining, because some people have to make it work with only $200 a month. That is just absurd to me. That hardly makes groceries. Much less t-ball, school pictures, lunches, and a new whatever ten times a week. Forgive me for my rant, but how you can call that fair alludes me. And I have 3 kids to raise too.

 

[Corroded]

I have joint physical custody, and we split the time with our kids 50/50. (Actually ends up my son is with me a bit more, daughter with mom a bit more) When we were divorced my ex made $1.00 dollar an hour less than I did. I pay $400.00 a month... while maintaining the same household my ex does.
I used to stress on what the child suport cash was going for, but I learned to let that line of thinking go. No point in it, it only causes bad feelings and bitterness. I wish more guys would let that go.
We split all other costs 50/50. AND... we are close to being able to actualy converse normally! YeeHA! ( only after 6 years... lol)

Seeya all in a few days. LyleFJ

 

[hexeliebe]

Jamie, you tell that jackass if he wants to keep bitching about the money he's spending I'll trade payments with him.

Just hope he makes more than $5,000 a month because if not, he's REALLY going to have something to whine about.

 

[haiku]

oh give me a break guys! child support is the NCP's HALF of the CHILDS expense's nothing more, nothing less.

one persons 200 bucks a month may be just as hard to make, as someones 5000. its all relative to your lifestyle, and what your ex does for a living.

if you were not living the glamour life before, child support is not going to make it better. I bet hex's ex whines that she is barely making it on what Hex pays her too, (even though some of you may have stars in your eyes over it) because thier priorities are different than the parents who have a smaller order.

I don't think folks who pay 200 a month likely have anything in common with someone paying 5000 (or even 300 or 100., 1000, etc...). and to compare it is ludicrous.

the other thing to remember is at least your ex's are paying it!

the biggest order in the world means nothing if the parent is not paying it, and yep, I am right behind you in wanting to nail THOSE parents to he wall!!!

 

[WyattJ]

the other thing to remember is at least your ex's are paying it!

***A. He is only paying it because I had to get it garnish out of his check...if it weren't for that....I wouldn't get it. Like I said before he already got $3,000+ behind before.

 

[haiku]

***A. He is only paying it because I had to get it garnish out of his check...if it weren't for that....I wouldn't get it. Like I said before he already got $3,000+ behind before.

soooo...are you getting your support in full and on time now?

all righty then. whats your complaint?

 

[Ms. Jumpstart]

Why we all deal with this

We deal with it bec. we know we have to until our sweet babies are FINALLY able to take over & do it for themselves. Mine are getting close - I am counting the days!! I have found that, to keep my blood pressure down & especially to have every conversation about every issue, every lie, every threat, etc. on paper (in case it's ever needed for proof in court) the best way to communicate is by e mail. If THE EX wants to communicate with me, e mail is the ONLY way!!

 

[WyattJ]

Re: Why we all deal with this

We deal with it bec. we know we have to until our sweet babies are FINALLY able to take over & do it for themselves. Mine are getting close - I am counting the days!! I have found that, to keep my blood pressure down & especially to have every conversation about every issue, every lie, every threat, etc. on paper (in case it's ever needed for proof in court) the best way to communicate is by e mail. If THE EX wants to communicate with me, e mail is the ONLY way!!

THANK YOU I was thinking the same thing, do the same thing...hell we might as well form a group or something. MAE - Mom's against EX's...........