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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? TEXAS

Here is a little jingle for you guys. I cought myself before I fell deeply into the abyss that she usually sends me into. Enjoy the reading.

I had a verbal agreement to switch with my ex, she agreed to it, but has gone back after I had made loads of plans because her husband wants to take my son to a baseball game. That in itself is not bad, but her husband loves to play these dumb power games all the time, the cruddy thing is that there is nothing that can be done about this. Always get everything in writing, and even if you do, it may not matter for a long time, or can it?

Never mind the my son and I go to 2 or 3 baseball games per month during the season. So it's not that he doesn't get to go to Astros games.




SHE WRITES
I can't switch that weekend(APRIL 8th) with you, so please pick a different one. I told John last night and he was upset w/me b/c he'd already bought Astros tickets for Nxxxxx to go see Clemens pitch his first game. It was supposed to be a surprise. I'm sorry. I can switch the 4th one(April 21th), so you'd still get him 2 weekends in a row. Write back. If I don't hear from you, I'll call today.

I WRITE
Mxxxx,
I had promised Nxxxx to take him to see his cousins in Beaumont and to the hockey game. I too already have the tickets with the prior agreement that we had and have made arrangement with my family for this. We have made arrangements with a lot of people to see Nxxxxx that weekend. Ask him take Nxxxxx some other time please.

J.

SHE REPLIES
I can't. the tickets were $60 and we don't have money to throw away like you do.
Please try not to make plans on the weekends that you know I have him. That's not fair to him!!! My time is limited with him b/c of work, so please don't take the little time on the weekends that I have with him.

I REPLY
I told you about this a month ago, I remember clearly. You said yes, then I made plans based on your word. I don't take any weekends away from you, we are TRADING. Don't act that way. It's not fair that you decide to flake out in the last minute. I'll pay you the $30.00 for Nickolas ticket if it's about the money. This is family we are seeing and not a game. I urge you to reconsider.

SHE REPLIES (THIS IS WERE SHE LOOSES HER CHEMICAL BALANCE)
He can see his family the other weekend in April. I did not flake out. If my husband wants to be nice to Nxxxxx and take him to his favorite player's game and surprise him on a weekend that he knows we'll have him, I don't see why that's a problem. Stop being mean.

SHE REPLIES AGAIN
Don't be dramatic. It was almost two weeks ago, not over a month.

I REPLY
No, I understand that John wants to take Nxxxx to the game, that is not what I'm saying. What I'm telling you is that I have a lot of family coming from all over SAT/Dallas and El Paso to meet there that weekend. We all made plans for the 8th because you and I had already agreed on the trade, as I recall correctly you said as long it did not interfere with the 3 day weekend you had in April.
So, based on our agreement, I mobilized everyone for the weekend of the 8th. Now you tell me you don't want to do it!!! come on!!! I have even offered to pay for Nxxxxx' value of the ticket. You can see Clemens again (5 days later). He pitches every 5 days all season. I can't get my family together every 5 days. I think that is fair. I'm sure john can find someone to give that ticket to, a free ticket none the less.

SHE REPLIES
I don't appreciate that you planned an event on a weekend that I normally would have had Nxxxxx. I didn't know about John's plans for the game. I didn't know about your plans. I'm sorry. Don't put this off on me.

I REPLY
You are just trying to turn it around like always. Are you going to do this or not?

SHE REPLIES
You just LOVE to play the victim, when you cause all these problems in the first place. So save it.

Nxxxxx needs to go to the game with us. I can't drive around to pick up someone to use our tickets.

I am willing to have you pick him up still, but on Saturday morning or up until noon, whatever is easier. Would that be okay?
Stop being difficult, b/c you're not getting your way. Are you in Jr High?

I REPLY
I'm not playing victim, you went back on your word. I made plans based on our agreement and you didn't care. That's fine.
Saturday I will already be in out of town and we were scheduled to come back Saturday night. We were going to leave Friday because I was taking the day off. I can't take him under those conditions, there is simply no time. I'm not being difficult, you are the one that is being an *******. You know you agreed a long time ago. Like I said, I was willing to pay for Nxxxxx' ticket but I think I see what is REALLY going on here and it's sad. I'm tired of dealing with you anymore. Enjoy the game.

Don't change your mind about the weekend of April 22nd.
 


tigger22472

Senior Member
although I don't see a legal question here I have to say, I feel for you. And where the serious problem is there is nothing you can really do about it.. I know.. it sucks! My huband went to his ex last summer at her house and sat down to discuss a simple modification and telling her to add things also (there were things like medical insurance that needed modified anyways) and they came to an agreement on everything. He planned to file it. She even called him that night and talked him not to file it through court saying there was no reason to and she was good for her word. Two days later he dropped his daughter off at her house and she handed him a sealed envelope. In the envelope was a letter stating she was going back on her word. He confronted her about it and she refused to back down and literally told him to take her to court. He did. He was told by the judge that it didn't matter what she agreed to. It didn't matter that she then went back on her word.

As sad as it is the lesson learned is to maintain a relationship with your child and keep emotions in check you'll end up being the one to compromise all the time and you do what YOU have to in order to follow the court order to the letter and don't depend on her to help you if at all possible. It's sad.. but it's how it works.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
For starters, Clemens isn't pitching 5 days later at home (although why anyone would want to see him pitch in that silly red uniform is baffling to me). Maybe against the Braves on the 18th, but then I bet there would be complaints about it being a school night (just going by what I get from my ex).

Second - you have got to get these sorts of changes IN WRITING before you start planning around them. Not in writing? You have no leg to stand on, dude. It does sound like the tickets were meant as a surprise.

At the end of the day, sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug. On this one - you be da bug.
 

casa

Senior Member
jslopez711 said:
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? TEXAS

Here is a little jingle for you guys. I cought myself before I fell deeply into the abyss that she usually sends me into. Enjoy the reading.

I had a verbal agreement to switch with my ex, she agreed to it, but has gone back after I had made loads of plans because her husband wants to take my son to a baseball game. That in itself is not bad, but her husband loves to play these dumb power games all the time, the cruddy thing is that there is nothing that can be done about this. Always get everything in writing, and even if you do, it may not matter for a long time, or can it?

Never mind the my son and I go to 2 or 3 baseball games per month during the season. So it's not that he doesn't get to go to Astros games.




SHE WRITES
I can't switch that weekend(APRIL 8th) with you, so please pick a different one. I told John last night and he was upset w/me b/c he'd already bought Astros tickets for Nxxxxx to go see Clemens pitch his first game. It was supposed to be a surprise. I'm sorry. I can switch the 4th one(April 21th), so you'd still get him 2 weekends in a row. Write back. If I don't hear from you, I'll call today.

I WRITE
Mxxxx,
I had promised Nxxxx to take him to see his cousins in Beaumont and to the hockey game. I too already have the tickets with the prior agreement that we had and have made arrangement with my family for this. We have made arrangements with a lot of people to see Nxxxxx that weekend. Ask him take Nxxxxx some other time please.

J.

SHE REPLIES
I can't. the tickets were $60 and we don't have money to throw away like you do.
Please try not to make plans on the weekends that you know I have him. That's not fair to him!!! My time is limited with him b/c of work, so please don't take the little time on the weekends that I have with him.

I REPLY
I told you about this a month ago, I remember clearly. You said yes, then I made plans based on your word. I don't take any weekends away from you, we are TRADING. Don't act that way. It's not fair that you decide to flake out in the last minute. I'll pay you the $30.00 for Nickolas ticket if it's about the money. This is family we are seeing and not a game. I urge you to reconsider.

SHE REPLIES (THIS IS WERE SHE LOOSES HER CHEMICAL BALANCE)
He can see his family the other weekend in April. I did not flake out. If my husband wants to be nice to Nxxxxx and take him to his favorite player's game and surprise him on a weekend that he knows we'll have him, I don't see why that's a problem. Stop being mean.

SHE REPLIES AGAIN
Don't be dramatic. It was almost two weeks ago, not over a month.

I REPLY
No, I understand that John wants to take Nxxxx to the game, that is not what I'm saying. What I'm telling you is that I have a lot of family coming from all over SAT/Dallas and El Paso to meet there that weekend. We all made plans for the 8th because you and I had already agreed on the trade, as I recall correctly you said as long it did not interfere with the 3 day weekend you had in April.
So, based on our agreement, I mobilized everyone for the weekend of the 8th. Now you tell me you don't want to do it!!! come on!!! I have even offered to pay for Nxxxxx' value of the ticket. You can see Clemens again (5 days later). He pitches every 5 days all season. I can't get my family together every 5 days. I think that is fair. I'm sure john can find someone to give that ticket to, a free ticket none the less.

SHE REPLIES
I don't appreciate that you planned an event on a weekend that I normally would have had Nxxxxx. I didn't know about John's plans for the game. I didn't know about your plans. I'm sorry. Don't put this off on me.

I REPLY
You are just trying to turn it around like always. Are you going to do this or not?

SHE REPLIES
You just LOVE to play the victim, when you cause all these problems in the first place. So save it.

Nxxxxx needs to go to the game with us. I can't drive around to pick up someone to use our tickets.

I am willing to have you pick him up still, but on Saturday morning or up until noon, whatever is easier. Would that be okay?
Stop being difficult, b/c you're not getting your way. Are you in Jr High?

I REPLY
I'm not playing victim, you went back on your word. I made plans based on our agreement and you didn't care. That's fine.
Saturday I will already be in out of town and we were scheduled to come back Saturday night. We were going to leave Friday because I was taking the day off. I can't take him under those conditions, there is simply no time. I'm not being difficult, you are the one that is being an *******. You know you agreed a long time ago. Like I said, I was willing to pay for Nxxxxx' ticket but I think I see what is REALLY going on here and it's sad. I'm tired of dealing with you anymore. Enjoy the game.

Don't change your mind about the weekend of April 22nd.

Too bad she's married~ I'd like to hook her up with my nutty X. He just LOVES to say one thing and do another...heck he even writes one thing & does the other (Then says there are circumstances out of his control and even has family, boss' lie for him- or literally debates the 'intent' or 'understanding' of his writing) :rolleyes:

One thing I noticed though, was in her response to you she acknowledges she previously agreed with you- because she clarifies the time frame by saying: " it was two weeks, not a month ago" Of course arguing that point would do nothing with someone like her.

Lesson learned eh? I know it's ridiculous...I've had to learn the hard way also. :mad:
 
stealth2 said:
For starters, Clemens isn't pitching 5 days later at home (although why anyone would want to see him pitch in that silly red uniform is baffling to me).

Now that's low, we love him here in Houston. Be happy for us that he is pitching and sharing with us.
:D
 

MinCA

Member
I don't see where she agreed to switch.

On the one hand, it's her regular weekend and she only gets every other weekend. And you should be happy step-dad likes the kid.

On the other, she may have agreed, and you have family coming and it's easier to get tickets to another game than to get family together. But you still took a risk. You should have scheduled the family weekend for your regular weekend.

On the third hand, she should be willing to just this once allow a switch in weekends.

Does she live near enough to you that she would consider having the son go to the game, then go be with you and the family the remainder of the weekend in exchange for her taking one of your (full) weekends? Don't even get piddly over wanting to take away a few hours from one of your weekends and giving her what's left.
 

J&A

Member
She did agree to switch

I REPLY
I told you about this a month ago, I remember clearly. You said yes, then I made plans based on your word. I don't take any weekends away from you, we are TRADING. Don't act that way. It's not fair that you decide to flake out in the last minute. I'll pay you the $30.00 for Nickolas ticket if it's about the money. This is family we are seeing and not a game. I urge you to reconsider.

SHE REPLIES AGAIN
Don't be dramatic. It was almost two weeks ago, not over a month.

She admitted that she agreed, and is just arguing whether she agreed 1 month ago or 2 weeks ago, and either way, bottom line is that SHE AGREED!!

I feel for you, lesson learned to unfortunately never trust the other person and get everything in writing. Unfortunately being a man/ woman of your word seems to mean very little to most people these days
 

abstract99

Senior Member
J&A said:
She admitted that she agreed, and is just arguing whether she agreed 1 month ago or 2 weeks ago, and either way, bottom line is that SHE AGREED!!

I feel for you, lesson learned to unfortunately never trust the other person and get everything in writing. Unfortunately being a man/ woman of your word seems to mean very little to most people these days


Didn't you get the memo? Yeah I guess children are now only used as toys to mess with your ex's mind and inflict dammage on them. Oh yeah screw the fact that they have feeling too. That is not important anymore.
 

J&A

Member
Didn't you get the memo? Yeah I guess children are now only used as toys to mess with your ex's mind and inflict dammage on them. Oh yeah screw the fact that they have feeling too. That is not important anymore.

Sad that in a lot of cases this is true. I know so many women who would be so appreciative of a father who actually pays child support and sees their kids, but those women end up with dead beats and the evil women end up with good men. In the end, the kids suffer the most.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
jslopez711 said:
Now that's low, we love him here in Houston. Be happy for us that he is pitching and sharing with us.
:D

LOL We're pretty happy you have Andy pitching for you tho - he hasn't been too impressive since he moved, has he? And lots of rumors swirling about that move up here.
 
stealth2 said:
LOL We're pretty happy you have Andy pitching for you tho - he hasn't been too impressive since he moved, has he? And lots of rumors swirling about that move up here.


No Andy stays too. He's a San Jack boy as well. He had a bumb elbow last year but he's 2nd on the rotation. Check this out. Oswalt, Andy P., Roger, Backey, and _________. Sort of looks like ya'lls. Beltran will be missed. My son and I made 35 games last year. It was a wild year for the great city of Houston. If I could attach a photo to this I would.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
wrong on all counts. (and I know this is OT, but it IS your thread!) NY scuttlebutt has it that Andy's wife told him he could come home to Houston or face a divorce as he had a honey in NY. And wifey intended (rightly, IMO) to take him to the cleaners if he decided to stay in NY.
 

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