Wife Imposes time w/baby

[CRM001]

What is the name of your state? NM
My wife left our house a month ago with my 2 and a half year old baby and her two other daughters to move to a condo close by. I am an independent consultant working out of town most of the time but I had reached an agreement with ex to stay in town one week a month to spend with the baby. I am not sure what happened but she is now changing the rules and is not letting the baby stay overnight. All she is allowing me to do is to spend 3-4 hrs a day afterschool and then she wants me to take it to her house.
I believe I am entitled to spend time with him just like her. Her point is that the baby "is used to not seeing me because ever since he was born, I was travelling all week". She also claims "I am used to not seeing him" and that he is to young to spend a whole week without her mother. Should I just file a petition for joint custody? Any other suggestion or alternative I have? The funny thing is that until a week or two ago I was the love of her life and that she would try to fix our marriage "even if it would take her five years"...
UPDATE!!
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By the way, I learnt today, that she had consulted and signed for representation of an attorney on Friday and that is why she changed her mind....Also FYI, she told me tonight our marriage is over!!!! And this after I offer the weeks I stay with toddler to also stay with her two daughters also.!! Am I an idiot? or what?

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state? NM
My wife left our house a month ago with my 2 and a half year old baby and her two other daughters to move to a condo close by. I am an independent consultant working out of town most of the time but I had reached an agreement with ex to stay in town one week a month to spend with the baby. I am not sure what happened but she is now changing the rules and is not letting the baby stay overnight. All she is allowing me to do is to spend 3-4 hrs a day afterschool and then she wants me to take it to her house.
I believe I am entitled to spend time with him just like her. Her point is that the baby "is used to not seeing me because ever since he was born, I was travelling all week". She also claims "I am used to not seeing him" and that he is to young to spend a whole week without her mother. Should I just file a petition for joint custody? Any other suggestion or alternative I have? The funny thing is that until a week or two ago I was the love of her life and that she would try to fix our marriage "even if it would take her five years"...

File for a visitation schedule and overnights. Get a court order.

A two and a half year old is NOT a "baby", they are a toddler.

 

[BL]

What is the name of your state? NM
My wife left our house a month ago with my 2 and a half year old baby and her two other daughters to move to a condo close by. I am an independent consultant working out of town most of the time but I had reached an agreement with ex to stay in town one week a month to spend with the baby. I am not sure what happened but she is now changing the rules and is not letting the baby stay overnight. All she is allowing me to do is to spend 3-4 hrs a day afterschool and then she wants me to take it to her house.
I believe I am entitled to spend time with him just like her. Her point is that the baby "is used to not seeing me because ever since he was born, I was travelling all week". She also claims "I am used to not seeing him" and that he is to young to spend a whole week without her mother. Should I just file a petition for joint custody? Any other suggestion or alternative I have? The funny thing is that until a week or two ago I was the love of her life and that she would try to fix our marriage "even if it would take her five years"...

Well a week has past , and a change in mind .

I'd like to know what " IT " is being to take to her house , the visits , or the child ?

At any rate any agreements outside a Court Order are not enforceable .

Yes , you should file , and claim you had that verbal agreement and have been utilizing the time , up until She decided not to allow it . That may help disolve Her arguments of why you should not keep spending the exact same time with the child .

You should also retain the service of a Family Law Attorney to handle this for you .

 

[CRM001]

File for a visitation schedule and overnights. Get a court order.

A two and a half year old is NOT a "baby", they are a toddler.

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Thanks for your input.
CRM001

 

[CRM001]

Well a week has past , and a change in mind .

I'd like to know what " IT " is being to take to her house , the visits , or the child ?

At any rate any agreements outside a Court Order are not enforceable .

Yes , you should file , and claim you had that verbal agreement and have been utilizing the time , up until She decided not to allow it . That may help disolve Her arguments of why you should not keep spending the exact same time with the child .

You should also retain the service of a Family Law Attorney to handle this for you .

Thanks so much for your input and sorry about "mistake" IT meant to be HIM in the orignal paragraph.
CRM001

 

[ceara19]

If you were married at the time of the child's birth, you have just as much right to have custody of the child as mom does, until a court orders otherwise. You are under no obligation to return the child to her based on her whims, but she is also under no obligation to allow you to pick the child up at all.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

There is only one way to stop the controlling behavior. The next time you have the child, file for divorce and custody. Then, if she for some reason she has the child and refuses to allow you contact, you can file criminal charges for interference with a parental relationship up to and including parental kidnapping (drastic? Of course)

But, until you grow some or take control you are allowing her to treat you like her own little bitch.