Will I going to jail?

[AkersTile]

You know, you make it sound like Dad and stepmom hate your child and I just find that extremely hard to believe. Picking on him for his hair color? Stepmom telling the boy that she wants to beat you up/kill you? Why would she tell him something like that? Do you, in turn, make your own threats? This all just seems so implausible or you must be leaving alot of the story out of this.

You definitely haven't met my hubby's ex-wife then. I could honestly think OP was talking about her, except that she's not married and her BF's son doesn't have red hair. Hubby is so sick of her saying she wants to kick my ***, he told her to either try it or shut up about it. LOL

 

[Ohiogal]

My son is 12 and will be 13 the end of March. And yes...forcing him. He will cry all the way there. Beg me not to take him. I have been trying me hardest to foster a relationship between him and his son since the day this child was born!!! Even when his father said he didnt have to go if he didnt want to I still made him go. Even when he cries all the way I made him go.

My ex's own parents have seen what he does to our son and when they told him to stop he walked out of their house and didnt have much else to do with them. He constantly picks on him, makes him wrestle with him, annoys and frustrates him until he is furious. I know what he does, he did to me and worse for many years. Thankfully he hasnt become physically abusive to our son but its probably just a matter of time. Especially now that he knows he doesnt want to see him.

This is NOT a matter of me trying to keep our son from him. This isnt a matter of our son having better things to do that go see his father. My entire family and his knows how abusive and mean and nasty he is. EVERYONE is SCARED of him!!!! And no one in his family has anything to do with him anymore. He has burned all his bridges with them too.

I would NEVER keep our son from his father. It isnt a tween being a tween either. What does he do at his dad's? NOTHING! He gets to watch TV and play video games but his dad doesnt actually do anything with him. But he doesnt have to do chores or anything like he would if he stayed here. He would rather stay here and clean the entire house than go play video games at his dad's. I even made sure that our son never got involved in ANYTHING like sports because every other weekend he would have to go an hour away to his dad's.

I know yall like to crucify people when they post here but I have been coming here a long time even though I dont post very often. But I know that I have done everything I should have done and then some regarding this man and this situation.

This has been going on for five years and you ONLY put him in counseling last year? What did you do for the PRIOR FOUR YEARS? This is not about crucifying you but you stated a few things that make no sense such as the above.

If your child has been acting this way for FIVE years, you should have dealt with it when the issue first started. Not waited five years. You stated he does nothing at his dad's -- that is a parenting difference. You stated everyone in your family hates this man and knows how mean and nasty he is -- maybe you are projecting YOUR feelings on to you son or your son detects what his PRIMARY caretaker and the people he spends the majority of his time with feel about his father.

Your son goes to visitation and you put him back in counseling. Get over the child support issue. It is NOT relevant to visitation.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida

My son is almost 13. He really wants nothing else to do with his father. He never has but I have forced him to go see him for 5 years now. His father is verbally abusive and most of the time doesnt even want (or "cant") take him for his weekends or holidays. Now that our son has told him he doesnt want to go his father is threatening to call the sheriff and file a report at 6pm tomorrow if he isnt there. He told this to our son. Not to me.

I have two questions.

1.) If I dont make him go will I go to jail?

and

2.) Is it true that at 12 or 13 he can go before a judge and tell the judge he no longer wants to see his father?

No, you will not go to jail. The police cannot arrest you for not forcing your son to go to visitation. However, dad can take you to court for contempt, and if enough trips to court for contempt happen, then as Pro said, you could lose custody to dad.

A judge MIGHT give your son some leeway with visitation, but absolutely will NOT allow him to decide to no longer see his father at all. He can decide to do that when he is 18.

 

[Gracie3787]

maryjo, have you spoken to an attorney about this recently?
If not, you really should to find out if you have enough proof to be able to go to court to change the visitation order.
If you haven't used the referral service in at least 2 years, you can get a very low cost consult by calling the Florida Bar Lawyer Refferal Service at 1-800-342-8011.