Would I be doing something illegal? Affair

[Dalmore]

What is the name of your state? New York/Illinois
My husband had an affair with a woman in Illinois. If I were to email, call or send a letter to this woman, could it be considered harassment? The letter may say some unpleasant things but would not be threatening. She has called me and emailed me. What if I hired a Private Investigator to take pictures of her? What if I were to contact her employer or ex-husband to inform them (only true facts) of her moral character? What if I showed up at her house? I want to make sure this woman thinks twice about hurting another family but I DO NOT want to do anything illegal. I think if a woman has an affair with a married man she should expect to hear from his wife.

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state? New York/Illinois
My husband had an affair with a woman in Illinois. If I were to email, call or send a letter to this woman, could it be considered harassment? The letter may say some unpleasant things but would not be threatening. She has called me and emailed me. What if I hired a Private Investigator to take pictures of her? What if I were to contact her employer or ex-husband to inform them (only true facts) of her moral character? What if I showed up at her house? I want to make sure this woman thinks twice about hurting another family but I DO NOT want to do anything illegal. I think if a woman has an affair with a married man she should expect to hear from his wife.

For God's sake! Get a grip! YES...what your proposing is harassment! Your husband should be the focus of your anger! He is the one that betrayed you! She doesn't owe you anything....

Make your HUSBAND think twice before hurting YOUR family again!

 

[cbg]

And just why do you think her employer would care? They aren't in the business of enforcing her morals. Unless what she is doing directly impacts their business, your letter would end in the wastebasket.

 

[Dalmore]

To Baystategirl

For God's sake! Get a grip! YES...what your proposing is harassment! Your husband should be the focus of your anger! He is the one that betrayed you! She doesn't owe you anything....

Make your HUSBAND think twice before hurting YOUR family again!

So why isn't her contacting and emailing me harassment? You obviously have never experienced anything like this before.

 

[tigger22472]

So why isn't her contacting and emailing me harassment? You obviously have never experienced anything like this before.

No one said it wasn't.

Go get a restraining order against her preventing her to being able to contact you if you think you need to.

 

[Dalmore]

What are my rights?

And just why do you think her employer would care? They aren't in the business of enforcing her morals. Unless what she is doing directly impacts their business, your letter would end in the wastebasket.

I don't think her employer would care but she would. She is a teacher. She is 16 years older than my husband. I know this is my family's problem but I do worry about other young families she comes into contact with. Why is her role in this okay? That's why people do these hurtful things to each other because they can get away with it. What are my rights? Do I have any?

 

[tigger22472]

I don't think her employer would care but she would. She is a teacher. She is 16 years older than my husband. I know this is my family's problem but I do worry about other young families she comes into contact with. Why is her role in this okay? That's why people do these hurtful things to each other because they can get away with it. What are my rights? Do I have any?

Because basically bluntly put her morals are none or your business.

I should add that my post above where I suggested an RO, know that you would have to take the e-mails with you and if you are responding to her, which encourages her to continue to e-mail you (which I suspect you 2 are having a 'claw' fight) then the RO won't work.

 

[Just Blue]

What are my rights? Do I have any?

You most certainly do....You have the right to kick your stinking, cheating bum of a husband out on the curb!! You then have the right to divorce the pri*k....You then have the right to move on with your life!! She isn't the problem...just a symptom...so going after her will only get you into deep shi*!!!

 

[torcal]

Woman

Do NOT communicate with this woman. She's just trying to break up the relationship (if any) between you and your husband.

If she writes letters, keep them but don't respond. Start building a record and report each phone call, e-mail and possibly mailed incident to the local police and get a police report. Save all of them with a friend. After a while, you will have written records to make a complaing against her for harassment, or worse, through the use of interstate commerce and then give the stuff to the FBI. Also, start keeping a private diary of what he does and says. Also, talk to your friends about the situation just in case anything happens to you.

Get the advice of a divorce lawyer as well. Your husband my be tempting you to file for a divorce. Whichever of you files first may have the up hill battle in a divorce proceeding. Every state is different.

Find a group of battered women who you can talk to on a regular basis. Mental battering is just as bad, if not worse, that physical injury.

It's your choice, but I'd write off your husband and spend my anger starting to create a new life without him.

 

[Gadfly]

Why is this man still your husband?

Don't give us that drivel about being a good man who only made a mistake. Your marrage is ov er

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Teachers having sex. OH MY GAWD!!!!!

Next they'll be drinking and having wild sex orgies in front of the students....

Where can I enroll.?????

 

[CO19]

What is the name of your state? New York/Illinois

The lover is a red herring. Any reputable PI will NOT provide YOU contact info, including pics, of lover. You may want to get your head straight and think twice before doing anything rash that you may later regret.

Regarding your "rights", you have the right to retain a family law attorney, file for divorce, and leave the marriage. That's entirely a personal choice.

 

[You Are Guilty]

Teachers having sex. OH MY GAWD!!!!!

Next they'll be drinking and having wild sex orgies in front of the students....

Where can I enroll.?????

Interesting timing. 16 year difference, you say?
http://www.nydailynews.com/front/breaking_news/story/360149p-306819c.html