wsnt_me2001 deleted all her posts

[rmet4nzkx]

Florida
As most of you know, we had two ex's on here re their custody/visitation battle.
wsnt_me2001 was the CP who had coerced a move away agreement in bad faith to interfere with her ex's luvingmykids, visitaiton with his children going from a standard visitation schedule to a 2x p/year based on the belief that they were moving to NY due to her military husband's career, he even agreed to splitting the visitation cost which should have been her expense, then didn't transfer to NY after all but as far away in the same state (FL) to qualify for Out of Geographical Area clause to kick in (over 100 mi) while dad would not have agreed to and making it almost impossible to visit with his kids because it was an 8 hr drive away. She keep going on about how she did it legally but couldn't understand that by forcing an agreement in bad faith doesn't mean it is carved in stone. Now dad, is going to file to modify custody and visitation. wsnt_me2001 even knew he had copied some of her posts and refused to answer our questions, she even pretended to be him in one post, she tried to cover her tracks, but we all read her words and her refusal to be honest. The children are the ones who suffer. Luvingmykids has for obvious reasons deleted his thread so this is the only public record left unless any of you saved them?

 

[LdiJ]

Florida
As most of you know, we had two ex's on here re their custody/visitation battle.
wsnt_me2001 was the CP who had coerced a move away agreement in bad faith to interfere with her ex's luvingmykids, visitaiton with his children going from a standard visitation schedule to a 2x p/year based on the belief that they were moving to NY due to her military husband's career, he even agreed to splitting the visitation cost which should have been her expense, then didn't transfer to NY after all but as far away in the same state (FL) to qualify for Out of Geographical Area clause to kick in (over 100 mi) while dad would not have agreed to and making it almost impossible to visit with his kids because it was an 8 hr drive away. She keep going on about how she did it legally but couldn't understand that by forcing an agreement in bad faith doesn't mean it is carved in stone. Now dad, is going to file to modify custody and visitation. wsnt_me2001 even knew he had copied some of her posts and refused to answer our questions, she even pretended to be him in one post, she tried to cover her tracks, but we all read her words and her refusal to be honest. The children are the ones who suffer. Luvingmykids has for obvious reasons deleted his thread so this is the only public record left unless any of you saved them?

Why does it even matter? I still think they were the same person because of the one response. However they were still just anonymous strangers on a public BB.

 

[karma1]

Wow!!!

Florida
As most of you know, we had two ex's on here re their custody/visitation battle.
wsnt_me2001 was the CP who had coerced a move away agreement in bad faith to interfere with her ex's luvingmykids, visitaiton with his children going from a standard visitation schedule to a 2x p/year based on the belief that they were moving to NY due to her military husband's career, he even agreed to splitting the visitation cost which should have been her expense, then didn't transfer to NY after all but as far away in the same state (FL) to qualify for Out of Geographical Area clause to kick in (over 100 mi) while dad would not have agreed to and making it almost impossible to visit with his kids because it was an 8 hr drive away. She keep going on about how she did it legally but couldn't understand that by forcing an agreement in bad faith doesn't mean it is carved in stone. Now dad, is going to file to modify custody and visitation. wsnt_me2001 even knew he had copied some of her posts and refused to answer our questions, she even pretended to be him in one post, she tried to cover her tracks, but we all read her words and her refusal to be honest. The children are the ones who suffer. Luvingmykids has for obvious reasons deleted his thread so this is the only public record left unless any of you saved them?

Boy, does that all sound familiar!!

 

[Britlandco]

I have always feared this! Which is why I hate naming my state!

 

[BlondiePB]

I read all that "stuff" and have deduced that it was "Sybil"!

 

[carofl93]

I actually had email contact with wsnt_me2001 before the PM was disabled by admin. I wasn't able to offer her much help, but now I feel like a total dummy :S.

Carol

 

[BlondiePB]

You're not the dummy, Carol. And, neither are the rest of us.

 

[LdiJ]

I have always feared this! Which is why I hate naming my state!

You aren't entirely wrong to fear that the other parent could end up on the same board. It does happen. Its rare, and when it appears to happen its often the same parent trying to get alternate points of view, but it does happen.

The reason why it happens is because the most active boards are the highest in the search engines. Therefore if you have two parents, both feeling pretty desparate and worried its not unlikely that they both could end up on the same board looking for advice.

However...in general its still pretty rare. The reason why its still pretty rare is because the "winning" parent generally doesn't come looking for help....or the truly "caring" parent is the only one who looks for help...or someone who trusts their attorney doesn't go looking for help...or multitudes of other reasons. In other words its still pretty rare for both parties to feel the need to reach out on the internet for help....however it DOES happen.

However I have only encountered about a dozen situations in the last 10 years where I was SURE that both parents ended up on the same board. At the same time, I have encountered probably 10 times as many situations where I was also sure that it was the same parent, posting from both points of view.

There was one case where it appeared that it was the same parent posting with different points of view (same ISP etc....that is one problem with this board which is easily determined on other boards)....only to find out that the parent had actually broken into the other parent's home while they were on vacation and was accessing their actual computer....and the ISP records of the board put the parent in jail for breaking and entering.

So...if the moderators of this board would choose to display the ISPs...then alot of our speculation could easily be diminished...with some exceptions...LOL

For example...anyone with aol or comcast could easily end up with the same ISPs...and the same with other large providers. On one board I was accused of being the same person as three others.....until someone in the opposition "camp" showed up with the same ISP one day, because we were all aol.

 

[Britlandco]

I am the parent who has most often come out ahead. My ex's new wife has also recently passed the bar. So I thought perhaps she might have some interest being on here. Which is also the same reason I have to keep up!

My husband almost got kicked out of his favorite chat site because my ISP matched his and I caused a ruckus asking why someone didn't believe in scientific research!

 

[stealth2]

Peeps - it's an IP number, not an ISP.

 

[Reyna7]

Interesting

Florida Luvingmykids has for obvious reasons deleted his thread so this is the only public record left unless any of you saved them?

Well then now I really do believe they were the same person, because Luvin never came back and he could have, if he was really him.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

No they were two different people, wsnt_me2001 deleted all her posts, including ones about her husband who is deployed in Iraq and his unique visitation problems which the luvingmykids would not have known or asked, due to the challenge, stealth kept asking why she had pretended to be luvingmykids, also the posts where Breeze told her her ex could still petition for modification and where she admitted thay she knew her ex was on the board, using her posts for court and why she wanted to use PM or email. I found some of this only 15 posts that were still open, not the entire thread. She didn't like the advice she received not what luvingmykids was getting. luvingmykids deleted his after a PM advising him. Maybe it is true that wsnt_me2001 is really both and very sneaky and ex was never on the forum but I think it is more likely she was planning on manipulating the posts for evidence. Here is what I was able to save.
QUOTE=luvingmykids]

Hi there
I saw some of them. I didn't get to print them though. Looks like she deleted them. Hey, can I ask you some questions through private messaging about all this? I don't want to post to much since she is luking...thanks let me know

#1
Today, 09:59 AM
luvingmykids
Junior Member Posts: 10
Relocation
What is the name of your state?Florida

Hi again...I got everyones post to my question and appreciate everyones time. The question was brought up about how far apart we live now and how much further apart we will live when she moves again.
We live about 8-9 hours now and we may live up to 22 hours or 16 hours apart depends where her husband gets stationed. she has told me this herself.

Also it was asked on the exact wording and it is as follows;

The father gives the mother permission to relocate outside the parties geographic area with the parties minor children. At this time the mother intends to relocate to the New York Area. The mother agrees to give the father 45 days notice prior to any relocation.
If the parties live outside the geogrpahic area the transpotation shall be equally shared 2x per year. If the parties cannot agree it will be for summer and winter holiday timesharing.

Her first move took her outside the geograhic area which is defined as 100 miles from door to door but kept her in the state of Florida where I reside and our agreement was done....could I use that as leverage since she is in the same state even though its not the same geographic area?

Summer visitaion shall be expanded by 14 days if the parties live outside the geographic area.

I have been pretty good about visitation. I can have every other weekend if I do the travel. I see them on average about every 6 weeks or so sometimes more sometimes less. Before she used to meet me halfway alot more...that was before all this came to a head. I am trying to get down there every other weekend now hoping it will help in court and to see my kids more before they leave if she gets to move with them again.

thanks for all your input
luvingmykids

#2
Today, 10:41 AM
LdiJ
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Join Date: May 2004
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Quote:
Originally Posted by luvingmykids
What is the name of your state? Florida <repete so clipped for space>

#3
Today, 11:12 AM
wsnt_me2001
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 19
relocation
Well thank you for the input....I fear that I have already damaged an amicable realtionship with her. the relationship with my kids is great though.

Before she used to meet me alot more for visitation but now she won't, and she just blames it on work.

What do you think would be reasonable for modification of visitation and transportation.

Under the current order if we live more than 100 miles apart she has to meet or share expense 2x per year.

Also I am able to travel...would it be reasonable to ask that if I go whereever the kids move to that I have them the whole time I am there as long as I get them to school? right now I just have weekends and Wendsday evenings, and I feel like if I travel a great distance to see them I should have them for more than that.

I tried to approach her with this but she didn't seem to accepting...she thinks that if I come up there I mught try and stay like for a couple 2-3 weeks and then she said didn't think it was fair for me to have them the whole time....

any suggestions?
wsnt_me2001

#4
Today, 11:15 AM
stealth2
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Join Date: May 2002
Posts: 12,152
Wait. Is wsnt_me2001 the same poster as luvingmykids?

stealth2
#5
Today, 11:47 AM
LdiJ
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Join Date: May 2004
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Quote:
Originally Posted by stealth2
Wait. Is wsnt_me2001 the same poster as luvingmykids?

Yep...hmmmmm
LdiJ

#6
Today, 11:57 AM
stealth2
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Posts: 12,152
hmmmmmm about says it all. If they're the same poster, then something doesn't jibe as wsnt_me claims to be stepmom married to deployed soldier while luving claims to be Dad. In which case, someone's telling a fib.
stealth2

#7
Today, 12:01 PM
LdiJ
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Join Date: May 2004
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Quote:
Originally Posted by LdiJ
Yep...hmmmmm

Ok...somebody is really playing games with us here. wsnt_me2001 is telling ALMOST the exact same story (but with slight different facts, but significant ones) from the point of view of the mother.

Then on another thread she says she is the wife of the father who is deployed in IRAQ....a VERY different story.

Luvingmykids is telling the story from the point of view of the father, again with slightly different facts but significant ones.

NOW, wsnt_me2001 has just responded on luvingmykids thread as if she was luvingmykids.

So ok.....what the heck is really going on here...playing games with your identity and changing the story will NEVER get you good advice. Tell the real story...as the real person you are..and you will get much better advice!

However....we have still been relatively consistant in our responses.
LdiJ

#8
Today, 12:16 PM
stealth2
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a-yup. Interestingly enough, wsnt_me was online for a fair bit of time after I asked my question. And is now gone. I really hate people playing games.[/QUOTE]