X took my son to a bar

[xKellyx]

The lesson learned from this story is, don't make you bed with a man you meet in a bar, He isn't going to change, not for you, not for your kids. There isn't crap you can do about it.

 

[divorcebound]

I am not trying to be controling and no I don't care who he does or how he does it. But, it is funny, that I have heard cases where DHS would come down on the parents if a child went to school telling stories like this, but when it comes to a divorce case, it is "OK" for the NCP to act in such a manner and that is considered "HIS TIME". Maybe it would be awesome if the father just lie down in front of his 8 year old and teach him how to screw. What does it take.............An angry person to come out of the bar and shoot a gun and hope that my son is not in the aim of fire? What is the difference really...........Bar or Drug house. Not much! What is wrong with alot of children today is the system that does not protect them until it could be to late. Thank You all for your time and help.

 

[CJane]

What is the difference really...........Bar or Drug house. Not much!

Are you kidding?????

What's wrong with kids is that parents expect the system to protect their kids.

Your son was not in danger (at least, not that you've illustrated) - he was left with an adult supervising him while dad went out. Then, he was 'exposed' to dad kissing someone, and walked in on dad in bed with someone. None of that is going to scar him for life, and DCFS would laugh in your face if you took it to them.

Teaching the kid to knock is pretty good advice, you should seriously consider taking it.

 

[hereintexas]

In my world..

I practice what I preach. Yes, there is a possibility of a child walking in on their married parents, however, there would be no explaining of the morality of it. It would be addressed in a different way. I am the custodial parent and I would never put a relationship above the relationship with my children. My kids know that I am not perfect and make mistakes, but when it comes to the BIG issues, I will not let them down. I want them to learn from me and my example. We have that obligation to our children. My decree does have the morals clause in it. I didn't put it in there, my ex did, however, he is the one who chose to move a "lady" (criminal) in with him and forget about the children. I am the one who put the no alcohol (while children are present) for good reason. He couldn't live with either clause. If you have children, you need to set a good example and do what's right. Not to be self-righteous, but just to be a good parent. There are many ways to have a relationship after divorce and still set a good example for your kids. I will never throw my hand up and say oh well when it comes to my kids or anyone elses kids for that matter.

 

[bononos]

Was the 18 yr. old the driver?
If not, who drove after leaving the bar?
That would be the only issue I could see is that he is drinking and driving with the child, but then again, can it be proven?
And, if the 18 yr. old drove, there is no problem.

Again I ask...

 

[hereintexas]

"What's wrong with kids is that parents expect the system to protect their kids."


I dont' expect this at all, they have done "quite enough"

 

[CJane]

I dont' expect this at all, they have done "quite enough"

And I wasn't responding to you, I was responding to the original poster, who said "What is wrong with alot of children today is the system that does not protect them until it could be to late."

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Does your son know how to knock before entering a room?

 

[hereintexas]

Sorry, I agree with you. I think you're saying we should protect our own instead of having the government do it.

 

[snostar]

Are you kidding?????Then, he was 'exposed' to dad kissing someone, and walked in on dad in bed with someone. None of that is going to scar him for life

That reminds me of how I found out Santa didn't really bring the presents. Classic Rockwell pic of a little girl peering around the stairwell trying to catch Santa in the act....instead I got the twilight zone pic of mom and dad naked playing "pinball". It DID scar me for life...I could never play the game again!

 

[CJane]

That reminds me of how I found out Santa didn't really bring the presents. Classic Rockwell pic of a little girl peering around the stairwell trying to catch Santa in the act....instead I got the twilight zone pic of mom and dad naked playing "pinball". It DID scar me for life...I could never play the game again!

Oh.
My.
Gawd.

And I thought it was bad having a bedroom in the basement - directly under mom and dad's bedroom. *shudder*

 

[Content]

I am going to agree with the rest here. Your son is 8 and walked in on his father, quite frankly I think the son needs to learn manners. What dad does behind CLOSED doors isn't your business and your son should have the correct manners at age 8 to knock on a door before opening it. Especially on a bedroom or a bathroom. Do you just allow him to walk in when he's at your house? If so then this is your fault for not teaching him better. The child didn't actually go into the bar, he was else where with someone else watching him. What's the problem? Would you really want the dad putting these kinds of restrictions on you? I doubt it very much, let it go and instead of worrying about dad worry about teaching the child manners.

 

[divorcebound]

The funny thing about this whole post is this....................Most of you all not all but most Assumed! And what does Assume do to us? Yeah

I never once said my son did not knock, I never once said my son opened the door. There is no door onto his room to shut! And yes I have taught my son manners to knock if a door is shut. I said "walked in the bedroom". Ignorance! Where has the good morals gone. Oh, its good morals to leave our children in the car while we run in to a bar and knock a few down and hook a ho instead of spend time with our children since we only see them every other weekend. Hey son, wait here while I run in and get a rock for the road. Yeah that would be great morals! You all have a good day.............

 

[Mbarr]

What is the name of your state? TN

came back and got them and left them setting in the truck with an 18 year old to watch after them while they were in the bar.

I'm going to have to disagree with everyone. I don't know about TN, but our AL judges would most certainly find that leaving an 8 year old waiting in a vehicle outside a bar, even with an 18 yo with him, is inappropriate at best.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

The funny thing about this whole post is this....................Most of you all not all but most Assumed! And what does Assume do to us? Yeah

I never once said my son did not knock, I never once said my son opened the door. There is no door onto his room to shut! And yes I have taught my son manners to knock if a door is shut. I said "walked in the bedroom". Ignorance! Where has the good morals gone. Oh, its good morals to leave our children in the car while we run in to a bar and knock a few down and hook a ho instead of spend time with our children since we only see them every other weekend. Hey son, wait here while I run in and get a rock for the road. Yeah that would be great morals! You all have a good day.............

Spin all you want. The answers are the same and you need to teach your son some manners.