Yet another question!!!

[Kimmyf1965]

And the last thing I'll say before I sign off this is . .

My X husband sat in court and said, "I'll do only what the law requires me to do. No more!!!!!"

My son had major surgery in February immediately after my illness. We were told if he didn't have the surgery he would be totally bed ridden within a year. I believe in quality of life not quanity. This to me was giving my son quality and quantity in that he was still a very active 13 year old. He's not in pain as much anymore and can actually sit up longer and enjoy life. Just before my son's surgery my X told him that if he had surgery he would never see him again!!!! My son helped in making the decision of having the surgery. My son & I discussed all of the pros and cons of the surgery prior to him doing this. I talked to several people prior to the surgery that had the same disease as my son that had the same surgery and did the research. I know this was a benefit to my son. How dare this man tell a child this!!!! My X husband admitted that in court too. After the surgery my son was so depressed over the thought that he wasn't going to be able to see his dad. I explained to him that I do whatever it takes to let him see his dad. I would even allow his dad into my house for visits if thats the way it had to be. But the bottom line is that I'm the one willing to anything to allow him the visitation but I want my time as well.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

So? You're a saint. That still changes the law not one iota.

Nor does it obligate your ex to be a better father. And until you get that through your thick skull you'll never be happy.

GET IT????

 

[stealth2]

Here's what I want to say to her when I call her back:

1st of all he needs to be the one that calls me when you are going to talk to me in person. I'm not going to deal with anymore of this she must have talked to my wife because I have no knowledge of the conversation. 2nd no you can't take him tomorrow at 3:00 instead of 6:00 because I work and I want to spend sometime with him before leaves. I don't care if you pick him up today or not but he needs to let me know what he is doing.

If you're gonna say your 1st of all, why even go on to the 2nd? You're basically reinforcing that "I'll tell you I won't talk to you, but I'm gonna talk to you anyway."

 

[BelizeBreeze]

If you're gonna say your 1st of all, why even go on to the 2nd? You're basically reinforcing that "I'll tell you I won't talk to you, but I'm gonna talk to you anyway."

Because she has to be in charge and have the last word. Saints see us all as sinners

 

[Kimmyf1965]

So? You're a saint. That still changes the law not one iota.
No I'm not a saint!!!! And neither are you!!!!!!

Nor does it obligate your ex to be a better father. And until you get that through your thick skull you'll never be happy.

I'm just saying that I'm not willing to bend over backwards for this @sshole anymore!!
GET IT????

Next question....

Do you get it????????????

 

[Kimmyf1965]

Sorry, about messing up the quote!!!

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Kimmy,
We explained before ways that you might modify the visitation and support orders to reflect the status of your son's disability, but until you do that, you will have to work with what is in the current order, so it would be best to contact your attorney and or consult with one familar with disability issues to assit you in this matter.

 

[Kimmyf1965]

Kimmy,
We explained before ways that you might modify the visitation and support orders to reflect the status of your son's disability, but until you do that, you will have to work with what is in the current order, so it would be best to contact your attorney and or consult with one familar with disability issues to assit you in this matter.

My main question here was do I have to speak to the new wife in matters regarding my son? No, she has not caused problems but because of the statement that my x made in court I feel that it is in my best interest to deal with my X in regarding any matters that involve me or my son.

I am in the process of trying to find an attorney that is familar with laws that you informed me about in a previous thread. I do appreciate your input as you have been very informative.

My only complaint is that BB is wanting to know the details and then when you try to explain more he/she gets extremely hateful. Do you want the details or not?

Thanks again everyone!!!

 

[Kimmyf1965]

If you're gonna say your 1st of all, why even go on to the 2nd? You're basically reinforcing that "I'll tell you I won't talk to you, but I'm gonna talk to you anyway."

You are correct. That's exactly what I would have said if you hadn't pointed this out. Instead, I did call her back and told her that I had to work on Friday and that I wanted to be spend a little time with him before he left for the weekend. My x decided to exersise the his visitation and came and got him today for the 4 hours that he is entitled to. I have to decided to take the advise of one of the writer in this thread and send his wife a letter that says..

I did not have any problems when you called to make arrangements for ****** (my son's name) visitations. However, because of a statement that was made in court, I feel it is my best interest to speak only with ***** (my X's name) regarding matters where **** (my son's name) is concerned.

I am sorry for any inconvience that this may cause you and ***** (my X's name) but as I said it is in my best interest.

Thanks,
Kim

 

[SMURFEELAW]

Make sure you mail it certified and only so he can sign it not an agent. Even if you have to ssend it to his work. Because the wife will probably try to sign if at all possible then he has the same excuse. Whenever she calls after that politely remind her that changes only go through you and the x. Good luck and keep us posted. Hugs to your little boy.