Mom Wont Allow Visitation

[stepmom4ever]

What is the name of your state? GA

Remember me, I posted a horrible post about "Bio" mom and how she came out of nowhere. I since realized how much of a fool I've been for the way I've behaved in this situation. Now we have a new problem. Mom took my husband down to court for child support, he has to pay ( I was worried because he's not working and I thought that I would be responsable for paying it) now she said she wont let him see the baby because we want to take the baby to see my family in Florida this weekend. My husband dont have overnights in his parenting schedule but he's the father, why is he not allowed to take his child overight anyway? I feel as though mom should work with him.

 

[Zigner]

why is he not allowed to take his child overight anyway?

Because he doesn't have overnights in his parenting schedule.

Butt out.

 

[mommyof4]

My husband dont have overnights in his parenting schedule but he's the father, why is he not allowed to take his child overight anyway?

You just answered your own question. Mom doesn't have to allow anything not specifically spelled out in a court order.

I feel as though mom should work with him.

Your feelings are completely irrelevant.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? GA

Remember me, I posted a horrible post about "Bio" mom and how she came out of nowhere. I since realized how much of a fool I've been for the way I've behaved in this situation. Now we have a new problem. Mom took my husband down to court for child support, he has to pay ( I was worried because he's not working and I thought that I would be responsable for paying it) now she said she wont let him see the baby because we want to take the baby to see my family in Florida this weekend. My husband dont have overnights in his parenting schedule but he's the father, why is he not allowed to take his child overight anyway? I feel as though mom should work with him.

He doesn't have overnights because he didn't ask for them, or because he was denied them at first. How can we know? We weren't there.

CS and visitation (parenting time) are TWO SEPARATE THINGS. He needs to file a motion if he wants a change. And he has to work within his state's laws.

Taking the child out of state to see your family? Not gonna be an issue in court.

 

[StampGirl]

Get this thru your head: Now pay attention.

Mom ONLY has to do what the LATEST court order tells her to do. ANYTHING else that you or your husband THINK she should do is ridiculous. If you agreement doesn't have overnights, they guess what? HE DOESN"T GET THEM. Period.

How nice you want your family in FL to see/meet the child. Have them come here. See how nice that was? Don't ever think your family is going to trump Mom. It won't happen.

 

[stepmom4ever]

He doesn't have overnights because he didn't ask for them, or because he was denied them at first. How can we know? We weren't there.

CS and visitation (parenting time) are TWO SEPARATE THINGS. He needs to file a motion if he wants a change. And he has to work within his state's laws.

Taking the child out of state to see your family? Not gonna be an issue in court.

Remember the baby is only two months. Here in GA the court do not give overnight visitation for a two month old, they say too young. Hoever, I think mom can work with my husband. Please, listen, I'm not trying to overstepp, I jusu know it's his child too. She claims breast feeding.

 

[Silverplum]

Remember the baby is only two months. Here in GA the court do not give overnight visitation for a two month old, they say too young. Hoever, I think mom can work with my husband. Please, listen, I'm not trying to overstepp, I jusu know it's his child too. She claims breast feeding.

"Should" and "could" and "must" and "court-ordered" are all very different things.

 

[fairisfair]

Remember the baby is only two months. Here in GA the court do not give overnight visitation for a two month old, they say too young. Hoever, I think mom can work with my husband. Please, listen, I'm not trying to overstepp, I jusu know it's his child too. She claims breast feeding.

she doesn't need to "claim" anything. She can "claim" he does not have overnight rights. Period.

and yes, by causing an issue over visiting YOUR relatives, you are far overstepping.

 

[mommyof4]

Apparently, this OP has yet to fully grasp the fact that any involvement is over-stepping, unless an invitation for any involvement is specifically issued by Mom.

OP, Mom wants you to have NOTHING to do with her child (and rightfully so...you are beyond an over stepping SM...you have proven yourself to be a nightmare). Shut up, step back, sit down, and KNOCK IT OFF.

 

[stepmom4ever]

she doesn't need to "claim" anything. She can "claim" he does not have overnight rights. Period.

and yes, by causing an issue over visiting YOUR relatives, you are far overstepping.

Thanks dont want to seem like overstepping my boundaries, I'll leave it alone. I just think the law sucks when it comes to dads. Leagally, this is his child slso, that's all

 

[mommyof4]

Well, sadly for you (and luckily for Mom) nobody cares what your opinion of the law is.

 

[Zigner]

Please, listen, I'm not trying to overstepp...

Wow, you're doing it that much without even TRYING?

 

[stepmom4ever]

Apparently, this OP has yet to fully grasp the fact that any involvement is over-stepping, unless an invitation for any involvement is specifically issued by Mom.

OP, Mom wants you to have NOTHING to do with her child (and rightfully so...you are beyond an over stepping SM...you have proven yourself to be a nightmare). Shut up, step back, sit down, and KNOCK IT OFF.

And I realized what I did in the past. That's why I apologized before

 

[mommyof4]

And I realized what I did in the past. That's why I apologized before

Yes, and you can't even seem to figure out that ANY further contact is clearly unwelcome and felt 'insulted' by her very rational (and much nicer response than I would have given you) response, hence...still pushing, now aren't you?

Look, if you want a baby to share with your husband, get pregnant, give birth and take on the financial, emotional, legal, and physical responsibility of a child. This is NOT your child. This will NEVER BE your child. You will NEVER have any say over this child. You will NEVER have any imput into the relationship between Mom, Dad, and Baby. Mom doesn't have to acknowlege that you are sharing the planet's oxygen with her child.

Understand?

 

[stepmom4ever]

Wow, you're doing it that much without even TRYING?

Really, I'm not trying to do so. It seems as thought I can't even have an opinion on things. I'm not trying to cause trouble