Interfering w/ Custody

[Silverplum]

So lemme get this straight. If stepparents don't help facilitate a relationship between the child and NCP, they get flogged.

WTH are you TALKING about????

It's NEVER the stepparent's job to facilitate the relationship between anybody and anyone!

You should try typing less and reading/thinking more.

 

[sour*tart]

Legally step-parents are NOT supposed to matter, but parents invlove them and not just the parent you are with.
Like a high priced attorney from SA said a "judge doesnt want to hear that your girlfriend is gonna teach your children about their periods, it needs to be your wife."

Judges are not supposed to go by gender or marriage, but sometimes they do.
Even CPS will involve a step-parent whether you like it or not. Your not the parent why are you involved?

Simply b.c your in the home.

 

[sour*tart]

I was a bit shocked at that statement too!

 

[StampGirl]

So lemme get this straight. If stepparents don't help facilitate a relationship between the child and NCP, they get flogged. But if they DO help facilitate a relationship between the child and NCP, they get flogged. How about we come down off of our anti-stepparent soapbox long enough to actually give this woman some legal advice?

Why don't you come off your soapbox against PARENTS????

She was given advice. She doesn't like it. Not our problem.

Facilitating the relationship lies with the CP and the NCP.

I am a step-parent and a CP. LIke I stated before: I don't get involved in my step-son's parenting between HIS parents. I make sure my husband takes care of it. I don't want to step on MOM's toes. I dont' contact my ex's wifey. Believe me. She is up in our business enough!! If mom doesn't want to contact dad thats her issue. NOT the step-parents.

Yes we love our stepchildren like our own. BUT I know that doesn't mean squat in a legal situation. My step-son's mom RESPECTS my position and, even though it can get inconvienant for her, understands why I feel the way I do.

 

[The_Non-Mom]

WTH are you TALKING about????

It's NEVER the stepparent's job to facilitate the relationship between anybody and anyone!

You should try typing less and reading/thinking more.

Legally, no. But if OP were on here saying that she is not telling skids about phone calls and upcoming visits from mom, what do you think the responses would be? I have been lurking here long enough to know that OP would be flamed for not passing the messages along to the skids.

 

[Silverplum]

Legally, no. But if OP were on here saying that she is not telling skids about phone calls and upcoming visits from mom, what do you think the responses would be? I have been lurking here long enough to know that OP would be flamed for not passing the messages along to the skids.

Who the heck cares?

LEGALLY, the stepparent has NO obligations to go with their NO rights. That's all that matters.

 

[StampGirl]

Legally, no. But if OP were on here saying that she is not telling skids about phone calls and upcoming visits from mom, what do you think the responses would be? I have been lurking here long enough to know that OP would be flamed for not passing the messages along to the skids.

PROVE that was said. Post the link. YOU haven't been reading enough.

Again, for those hard of seeing: It is not the steps job to facilitate the relationship between the child and his/her parents.

 

[Silverplum]

Again, for those hard of seeing: It is not the steps job to facilitate the relationship between the child and his/her parents.

OR between the parents themselves.

The poster would've been *flamed* for not passing on phone messages because it's the DECENT thing to do. Not because they are legally obligated, necessarily.

We usually urge posters to do the decent thing. So shoot us.

 

[The_Non-Mom]

Who the heck cares?

I guess I thought this was a forum for legal advice based on the law. Who cares? Probably the people who think that the moral diatribes their getting is actual legal advice.

 

[The_Non-Mom]

OR between the parents themselves.

The poster would've been *flamed* for not passing on phone messages because it's the DECENT thing to do. Not because they are legally obligated, necessarily.

We usually urge posters to do the decent thing. So shoot us.

Don't tell them when Mom is supposed to show up. Let it go. If she shows up, GREAT. If she doesn't, the kids dont know the difference. If they ask, say she hasn't called (if she hasn't) and you guess she is busy etc.

Geez, wish you guys could figure out what your stance really is instead of just pointing fingers at the stepparent.

 

[stepmom04]

Bottom line...every stepparent / child relationship is different. It is great that you don't have to be so involved. Unfortunately...I do. I am well aware that legally I have no rights, but every order that has been put in place with this situtation...included me. Including coparenting counseling classes. Our judge feels that all parents even stepparents should be involved in the rearing of the children. And imo...I think that is pretty honorable.

I'm in my junior year of obtaining my degree in Sociology. Though I'm no expert, I've taking many classes in stepparenting.

It's not stepping on toes...if toes weren't there in the first place. Sometimes..if you wait for the bio parent to teach the child something..it'll never get taught. So if my stepdaughter starts her period at my house....and her mother has never told her a thing about it...then I believe it's my duty (to less embarras the child by having the father involved in that) to explain it to her.

If the NCP feels that she can get along with me more than dad. Then so be it, to keep peace and a line of communication...I'll do it. No it's not by job or my duty. But I do it. She'll get pissed off at me evenutally..and try to talk to him for a while.

 

[Silverplum]

Geez, wish you guys could figure out what your stance really is instead of just pointing fingers at the stepparent.

Funny, a few posts ago, you were referring to us in the Royal "we."

Now it's "you guys."

If you don't like us, we are all so devastated.

 

[Silverplum]

So if my stepdaughter starts her period at my house....and her mother has never told her a thing about it...then I believe it's my duty (to less embarras the child by having the father involved in that) to explain it to her.

The inbred sexism, it amazes me.

 

[stepmom04]

Oh yes..every father wants to explain to there daughter about their period. THere are certain things a woman needs to do. Just like there are some things a father needs to explain to their son.

Get over yourself.

 

[Silverplum]

Oh yes..every father wants to explain to there daughter about their period. THere are certain things a woman needs to do. Just like there are some things a father needs to explain to their son.

Get over yourself.

I VERY VIGOROUSLY disagree.

If you want to help raise yet another generation of helpless/idiot misses, you're on your own. If you want to help raise yet another generation of pigmen, you're also on your own.

The world has passed you by, honey. We wimmins have brains now, and most of us aren't askeered to use them. And the menfolk? Why, they are a-startin' to understand how BODIES work.

It's called, "biology." They teach it in school nowadays.