Transportation Issue

[2Mistakes]

ouch!! And she is planning on repairing her relationship with Punkin'?

It's one thing to take the phone away when they're grounded, but because you won't allow a 12yo to have a cellphone, older sister is deprived.

Is she a glutton for punishment?

Yeah, my thoughts exactly.

I hate to say this dad...but that's totally fair. You may call it spiteful, but if one child is not allowed to have a cell phone provided by mom at your house, then its totally fair that the other not have a cell phone provided by you at mom's house.

Personally, I think that both of you are wrong, but what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

Eh. I wouldn't really call it fair. It wasn't about 12 year old not having a phone provided by mom. It was about 12 year old not having a phone provided by anyone.

For 4 years, Punkin has always brought her phone to mom's and mom never cared. Until now.

But like I told her, her house her rules.

We may both be wrong, but I'm wrong for the right reason. My decision about the cell phone was completeky unrelated to mom. It was a rule that I had already set for my house. It wasn't to spite anyone or get one up on her.

Her decision to not let Punkin have her phone is strictly to spite me. I know I can't prove it, but when I've dealt with this woman for as long as I have, I know.

But again, I didn't argue it with her. Her house her rules.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

See, I can understand not allowing a 12yo to have a phone. Mine certainly doesn't because I have a perfectly good house phone that can be used to reach SweetPea. I believe 2Mistakes has the same thing going on there.

Now, I'll certainly will provide one when she gets older and ready to drive.

I have considered getting her one for the summer since dad's doesn't have a house phone and dad works afternoons. But, I haven't forked over any $$ for it either.

But, once I provide one, I would remove its use by said child as a PUNISHMENT. And I still follow the rule in my house that no phones are answered during dinner.

 

[2Mistakes]

Got the ex's lovely response this morning to OG's email.

There aren't enough rollie eyes to cover it.

She says: Oh, I will be bringing a police with me to document the fact that I had to drive all the way to MS to get my kids for my summer visitation. We'll see how the judge likes that. Your wife should follow through on her commitment to meet me in Mobile. It's not MY problem that SHE'S had something come up with her kid. Now I have to drive 4 hours roundtrip? That's bulls**t. If you want the kids back, someone better meet me in Mobile on June 26th. On second thought, maybe you'll just have to have someone come to Pensacola to get them. Maybe I won't feel like driving to Mobile that day. So now your little wifey is going to hide behind you and let you do her talking for her? Me and her have always made the kid exchange arrangements directly with each other and theres no reason to change that. I will NOT discuss those arrangements with you. I will email (Wife's Name) and let her know if I feel like meeting her in Mobile that day, and if not, me and her can work out the arrangements for her coming to Pensacola to pick them up. Tell her to quit hiding behind you and to do her own talking for herself.



Does this warrant a reply, or should I just move it to the 'save for possible use in court one day' folder in Outlook?

 

[Isis1]

Got the ex's lovely response this morning to OG's email.

There aren't enough rollie eyes to cover it.

She says: Oh, I will be bringing a police with me to document the fact that I had to drive all the way to MS to get my kids for my summer visitation. We'll see how the judge likes that. Your wife should follow through on her commitment to meet me in Mobile. It's not MY problem that SHE'S had something come up with her kid. Now I have to drive 4 hours roundtrip? That's bulls**t. If you want the kids back, someone better meet me in Mobile on June 26th. On second thought, maybe you'll just have to have someone come to Pensacola to get them. Maybe I won't feel like driving to Mobile that day. So now your little wifey is going to hide behind you and let you do her talking for her? Me and her have always made the kid exchange arrangements directly with each other and theres no reason to change that. I will NOT discuss those arrangements with you. I will email (Wife's Name) and let her know if I feel like meeting her in Mobile that day, and if not, me and her can work out the arrangements for her coming to Pensacola to pick them up. Tell her to quit hiding behind you and to do her own talking for herself.



Does this warrant a reply, or should I just move it to the 'save for possible use in court one day' folder in Outlook?

OMG. for a split second, i was embarrassed for being a woman.

now, i say no response. when she e-mails your wife, YOU respond with some generic response such as "got your e-mail, will take into consideration" from your own e-mail address. save in folder.

now, is mom ordered to take care of all transportation since she is the one that moved?

 

[janM]

O....M....G....

Maybe that nice police person will tell her that your wife should have nothing to do with anything. If not, let's hope the judge sets her straight. I would be tempted to take this to court just for that alone. He'd have a field day with her. Maybe for a clarification?

Let YOU do your WIFE'S talking for her?? Whose kids are they?

Unreal.

 

[2Mistakes]

now, is mom ordered to take care of all transportation since she is the one that moved?

Our order is silent on transportation. That's part of the reason my wife ever offered to provide 1/2 of the transportation. Her thoughts were, "Well the order doesn't say anything about transportation, and it's only 2 hours out of my day to meet her, so I don't mind doing it."

Plus my wife says she likes to drive. It relaxes her. Huh? Maybe it's just because I drive 160 miles roundtrip every day for work, but I HATE driving. The wife likes to put her tunes on, open the sun roof and jam out.

Maybe that nice police person will tell her that your wife should have nothing to do with anything.

Not likely. He most likely will just roll his eyes like this .

My dad is a retired sheriff's deputy, and he said that faced with a situation like this, he would tell my ex to grow up and not make a report for her.

Hopefully the really nice deputy who patrols our area will be on duty that day. He's awesome. He had to come out in November for a situation with my wife's ex (which was really a huge misunderstanding that we all ended up laughing about), and he also came the week before last and set the loony PI straight.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

OMG

I think she's related to my X.

When is your court date?

 

[Isis1]

Plus my wife says she likes to drive. It relaxes her. Huh? Maybe it's just because I drive 160 miles roundtrip every day for work, but I HATE driving. The wife likes to put her tunes on, open the sun roof and jam out.

i like your wife more and more. big boobs and all. i am the SAME way. traffic jam? no problem, turn up the radio and sing my off key heart off. can't do that on a bus....

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

Got the ex's lovely response this morning to OG's email.

There aren't enough rollie eyes to cover it.

She says: Oh, I will be bringing a police with me to document the fact that I had to drive all the way to MS to get my kids for my summer visitation. We'll see how the judge likes that. Your wife should follow through on her commitment to meet me in Mobile. It's not MY problem that SHE'S had something come up with her kid. Now I have to drive 4 hours roundtrip? That's bulls**t. If you want the kids back, someone better meet me in Mobile on June 26th. On second thought, maybe you'll just have to have someone come to Pensacola to get them. Maybe I won't feel like driving to Mobile that day. So now your little wifey is going to hide behind you and let you do her talking for her? Me and her have always made the kid exchange arrangements directly with each other and theres no reason to change that. I will NOT discuss those arrangements with you. I will email (Wife's Name) and let her know if I feel like meeting her in Mobile that day, and if not, me and her can work out the arrangements for her coming to Pensacola to pick them up. Tell her to quit hiding behind you and to do her own talking for herself.



Does this warrant a reply, or should I just move it to the 'save for possible use in court one day' folder in Outlook?

WOW.
The inner child in me wants to tell you to reply with something like:

Dear Not-so-lovely X,
Since these arrangements are so problematic for you, we will just stick with the COURT ORDERED visitation. My lovely wife will have no issue meeting you in Mobile on June 5th at 5:30pm as ORDERED.
Have a wonderful day!
2M


Buuut, I would never send something like that. I am a chicken! Brak Brak!
Seriosuly, people consider it BS just to have to drive a few hours to see their kids?

 

[2Mistakes]

OMG

I think she's related to my X.

When is your court date?

There's not one currently set. We are still waiting for her (the ex) to answer the discovery we sent her. My attorney has filed a Motion to Compel.

He doesn't want to set a trial date until we have her answers. We're pretty sure she's hiding income and assets, so he wants her answers to see if she's dumb enough to trip herself up, and in case we need to subpeona bank records, etc.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

hmmmmmm ...

I see a contempt of court date looming.

 

[TheGeekess]

Got the ex's lovely response this morning to OG's email.
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There aren't enough rollie eyes to cover it.

She says: Oh, I will be bringing a police with me to document the fact that I had to drive all the way to MS to get my kids for my summer visitation. We'll see how the judge likes that. Your wife should follow through on her commitment to meet me in Mobile. It's not MY problem that SHE'S had something come up with her kid. Now I have to drive 4 hours roundtrip? That's bulls**t. If you want the kids back, someone better meet me in Mobile on June 26th. On second thought, maybe you'll just have to have someone come to Pensacola to get them. Maybe I won't feel like driving to Mobile that day. So now your little wifey is going to hide behind you and let you do her talking for her? Me and her have always made the kid exchange arrangements directly with each other and theres no reason to change that. I will NOT discuss those arrangements with you. I will email (Wife's Name) and let her know if I feel like meeting her in Mobile that day, and if not, me and her can work out the arrangements for her coming to Pensacola to pick them up. Tell her to quit hiding behind you and to do her own talking for herself.



Does this warrant a reply, or should I just move it to the 'save for possible use in court one day' folder in Outlook?

You can have a couple of my rolly eyes... That's beyond the pale. I'd be saving it (gleefully) for court. But that's just the way I roll.

 

[2Mistakes]

You can have a couple of my rolly eyes... That's beyond the pale. I'd be saving it (gleefully) for court. But that's just the way I roll.

Oh, it gets better my dear.

Wifey-poo just forwarded an email the ex sent HER a few minutes ago:

I got (2M's) email stating that all arrangements will now have to be made through him. Is he your husband or your dad? I really thought you were a stronger woman than to let your husband do your talking for you. Wow.

My wife has now changed her email client settings so that when the ex sends her an email, it gets forwarded straight to me, without ever hitting her inbox.

She said she does not want to read them or even know about them.

She had to take an extra Klonopin because she was shaking so hard from the anxiety and stress of it all.

I am wondering if I need to go ahead and call the SD and see if a deputy can be there for the exchange on Friday. I forget what that's called, a something stand-by?

God, I hate this. I hate that I can't be there on Friday to deal with this instead of my wife having to deal with it. I talked to my admin, and he said that unless someone is deathly ill or dead, taking Friday off just isn't going to happen. I have been inundated with new claims this morning, and more are on the way.

 

[TheGeekess]

Oh, it gets better my dear.

Wifey-poo just forwarded an email the ex sent HER a few minutes ago:

I got (2M's) email stating that all arrangements will now have to be made through him. Is he your husband or your dad? I really thought you were a stronger woman than to let your husband do your talking for you. Wow.

My wife has now changed her email client settings so that when the ex sends her an email, it gets forwarded straight to me, without ever hitting her inbox.

She said she does not want to read them or even know about them.

She had to take an extra Klonopin because she was shaking so hard from the anxiety and stress of it all.

I am wondering if I need to go ahead and call the SD and see if a deputy can be there for the exchange on Friday. I forget what that's called, a something stand-by?

God, I hate this. I hate that I can't be there on Friday to deal with this instead of my wife having to deal with it. I talked to my admin, and he said that unless someone is deathly ill or dead, taking Friday off just isn't going to happen. I have been inundated with new claims this morning, and more are on the way.

Holy cow. Your ex needs to be beach slapped*.... Just count your blessings that you no longer have to live with that piece of work. And good plan on your wife's part to step totally away. Maybe bouncing some emails from wife's account and Ex would get the message that it doesn't work for her any more. I know there are mail checking programs out there that will allow you to bounce unwanted emails back; most of them are anti-spam programs, but they do work.

*Sock o' sand upside the head

 

[2Mistakes]

Holy cow. Your ex needs to be beach slapped*.... Just count your blessings that you no longer have to live with that piece of work. And good plan on your wife's part to step totally away. Maybe bouncing some emails from wife's account and Ex would get the message that it doesn't work for her any more. I know there are mail checking programs out there that will allow you to bounce unwanted emails back; most of them are anti-spam programs, but they do work.

*Sock o' sand upside the head

She was so normal when we got married. And for the 10 years we were married. And for the 1st year after the divorce.

I don't know what's going on with her now. I won't diagnose her, because I'm not an MD, but I do know (from when we were married) that personality disorders run in both sides of her family. Her mother was diagnosed with Narsastic (sp?) Personality disorder. Several of her sisters were diagnosed with personality disorders (Borderline Personality Disorder, I think.) I believe there might be some bi-polar mixed in from her dad's side.

When she and I were married, we used to joke that she was the only normal one in her family. Now? Not so sure.