Has the girl’s mother told you that she insists that her daughter call her husband “daddy”?
No the mother has not told my husband that.
To be more clear about our entire situation....
I do not talk to my husbands ex. I tried being involved with the ex when asked to at the beginning of the relationship with my husband only for his ex to use and manipulate the situation. She would try to start arguments with my husband and I, just anything to cause trouble. She would want nothing to do with me and call me all sorts of names when I didn't know the woman from boo and never once did anything to her to have her act that way to me. Just being involved with her ex was reason enough for her to hate me I guess.
Which then makes me wonder if she's over him. If my ex finds happiness with another woman by all means go get er. As long as that woman treats my son right there is no prob. It's my ex's life not mine. And i would prefer him to be happy because that only helps ensure a more positive environment for my son when he is with his dad.
But back to my husbands ex. She hates me until she needs me. when their daughter is coming to stay with us for 42 days over the summer all of a sudden his ex likes me and would like to talk about the kids because i will be spending alot of time with them and she has questions she wants me to answer and shes just so sweet, etc. Then when his daughter goes back to her mothers after the summer the ex hates me once more. I am of no more use to her so she is back to calling me names and making me an outsider. I fell for it the first summer we had her. This last one I didn't.
Instead this last summer when his ex started calling my phone and leaving me texts asking me to call her back so that we could discuss the summer plans I would not talk to her. I said nothing ugly to her only ignored her attemps to reach me. I told my husband that if there was anything she wanted me involved with she could discuss it with my husband and he could inform me of it. I don't trust this woman because of too many past occurences. It's one of those burn me once shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me, burn me three times, that's it we're done.
Until she can show she can be trusted I will not speak with her.
When it comes to his daughter and the daddy thing. His daughter, we'll call her AMH, seems coached. My husband's ex refers to my husband by his first name to his daughter. She does this on the phone all the time for one. When my husband calls to talk to his daughter which is almost every other day, his ex will call for AMH to come get the phone...." it's (my husbands first name)".
When we have his daughter she calls him by his first name the first few days until we correct her enough times. She is told that my husband is her dad and that is what she is to call him because he is her only real dad.
She calls her step dad, dad and daddy like it's nothing. He lives with her so I understand this but shortly after her mom and stepdad got married the stepdad had to go over seas for a year for army so he was not there. He has maybe been in the home for 6 months since the ex and him got married and AMH is calling him dad like this. To me this just doesn't add up for her to be calling her step dad this of her own free will although i do not have concrete proof that they make her call them this. Usually it takes time for a child to refer to a step parent as dad. AMH does not call me mom and that is fine. She has a few time but for the most part she calls me by my first name. I want her to call me whatever she is comfortable with. I grew up with a step mother who prefered me to call her mom and this made me feel uncomfortable while growing up.
My son is 6 months younger than AMH. My husband has been around him for 3 years now and did not start refering to him as dad regularly until about half a year ago. My son still calls him by his first name too though and that's ok. He knows he's allowed to call him what he is comfortable with.
i also don't want to give the impression that my son and I are perfect and my husband's ex and their daughter are all wrong. I know unfortunately I am only pointing out their negatives and i do want to say they are definately not all bad. His daughter is a precious little girl that is very smart and cute as a button. And his ex is a very smart woman that knows how to get what she wants in a dog eat dog world. An attribute I wish I had more of.
I might have it all wrong, but I really try not to....Sorry for the short novel of a post.
I think someone forgot to teach you manners.
