Step-Parent Adoption California

[panda79]

You are wrong. It has nothing to do with that. It has to do with what is best for the child. But I bet you are just going to assume whatever you want to because it would be easier than actually taking the time to know anything about this situation.

 

[CourtClerk]

He doesnt want to do this.

Then why doesn't he simply say no, and petition the court for visitation on a schedule he can deal with?

 

[Proserpina]

Then why doesn't he simply say no, and petition the court for visitation on a schedule he can deal with?

Would love to see the answer.

 

[Mom_of_Two]

You are wrong. It has nothing to do with that. It has to do with what is best for the child. But I bet you are just going to assume whatever you want to because it would be easier than actually taking the time to know anything about this situation.

You are the one that complained about the money, and dad not being able to afford to visit the child because he pays child support!

Great!!! If it's about what's best for the child, then have him terminate his rights and still support the child!!!

 

[Proserpina]

Question:

Would dad be willing to terminate his parental rights, but not terminate his parental obligations?

Everyone knows where I'm going with this.....

I see what you did there.

 

[panda79]

You can't terminate parental rights and still be required to pay child support. That is not how it works and child support doesn't even matter since it has nothing to do with the question and is in no way a factor in anything he wants to do. So unless anyone else has something USEFUL to say and not just something to say because they are bored, then please. GROW UP.

 

[Proserpina]

You can't terminate parental rights and still be required to pay child support. That is not how it works and child support doesn't even matter since it has nothing to do with the question and is in no way a factor in anything he wants to do. So unless anyone else has something USEFUL to say and not just something to say because they are bored, then please. GROW UP.

Oh but you're wrong, little panda...

There is a reason why CC asked the question...

 

[Isis1]

You can't terminate parental rights and still be required to pay child support. That is not how it works and child support doesn't even matter since it has nothing to do with the question and is in no way a factor in anything he wants to do. So unless anyone else has something USEFUL to say and not just something to say because they are bored, then please. GROW UP.

dad needs an attorney. plain and simple. you aren't getting it. you are coming off as "dad wants this monkey off his back so he doesn't have to deal with being a father".

dad had options. dad could have fought for visitation. dad could have pushed a court to decide. but he didn't. he took the easy route out. he did nothing. he let mom decide. shame on him.

i had an ex like mom. i dragged dad to court and didn't let him get away with it. he's actually scared of me now. which is stupid, because i'm not the one he should be scared of.

 

[panda79]

ok or starters, i am not a damn panda. it is p and a . . . We just put it together and it spells panda. . . and what is the reason they asked? to see if he would still pay money even though he isn't required? so maybe everyone here should go up to a complete stranger every month and hand them $600. Is that what you're getting at? If his ex's husband adopts his daughter, he will no longer be her father. He understands this and is willing to do what is best for his daughter. So I assume that not one person on this site who is actually a lawyer, has ever done a stepparent adoption case where the father voluntarily relinquished his rights? You all seem to think it is impossible, unheard of, and too foreign to even comprehend.

 

[ecmst12]

No, we just don't think it's a very mature or applaudable decision. If he gave a crap about being a father, he would be fighting to KEEP his rights to his child, not to give them up. Hence, why I hope you don't plan on having any of his children, because you can expect him to do the same things to YOU that he has done to his ex.

 

[lealaken]

How could it be best for the child to be adopted by a man who refuses to let the child talk on the phone with her dad?

If Dad pays cs then the mom could be in contempt for not allowing Dad his right to see or talk to the child. If he gives up the child, he/she may end up feeling unwanted. And as I previously stated, anyone who acts like Mom's boyfriend is acting is probably not a good parent/person.

 

[Proserpina]

How could it be best for the child to be adopted by a man who refuses to let the child talk on the phone with her dad?

If Dad pays cs then the mom could be in contempt for not allowing Dad his right to see or talk to the child. If he gives up the child, he/she may end up feeling unwanted. And as I previously stated, anyone who acts like Mom's boyfriend is acting is probably not a good parent/person.

CS has NOTHING to do with visitation.

Dad hasn't bothered to enforce his visitation - which he'd be entitled to do REGARDLESS of whether or not he's paying child support.

Mom's husband is willing to adopt the child and take on ALL obligations to support the child....and he's the bad guy?

Compared to Dad, who can't be bothered to fight for his child?

Huh.

 

[Ohiogal]

ok or starters, i am not a damn panda. it is p and a . . . We just put it together and it spells panda. . . and what is the reason they asked? to see if he would still pay money even though he isn't required? so maybe everyone here should go up to a complete stranger every month and hand them $600. Is that what you're getting at? If his ex's husband adopts his daughter, he will no longer be her father. He understands this and is willing to do what is best for his daughter. So I assume that not one person on this site who is actually a lawyer, has ever done a stepparent adoption case where the father voluntarily relinquished his rights? You all seem to think it is impossible, unheard of, and too foreign to even comprehend.

NOpe. Seen it. Done it. Still think your dear darling boyfriend is treating his child like trash and throwing her away. I stand by my original decision. He should get fixed and if he impregnates you, YOU should ABORT! Best interest of the child and all..
Oh and yes, I am a lawyer.

 

[deductable rumb]

For you members who truly think it would be easier for the child to be torn between two dads, with conflict between the biological parents, you are either still emotionally disturbed from having personally dealt with a divorce as a child yourself (probably not under the same circumstances as in this situation, which appear very healthy for the child considering the age of the child and the continued presence of a new father figure), or since this is your little community that you inhabit and interact in on a near daily basis, presumably altruistically "giving advice", it is in your best interest to act in accordance with each other to avoid the most conflict with one another. That and if you've been here long enough, you will most definately tend to think along the same lines. Hence the concerted effort to trash the OP. In this case, it only took the first lemur with childhood damage due to divorce to throw everyone else off the cliff against the OP. The lemurs who knew better and thought differently probably stayed out of this thread all-together once the first lemur threw.

My advice to you, OP, is to ignore everything previously said in this thread and run. There is nothing but hurtful nonsense in here from an anonymous group that should truly be ashamed of themselves. They chose to ignore the sincere and relevant statements you made again and again attempting to show them they were wrong. They were not capable of incorporating this information into their thinking to change course. They most certainly are not capable of providing legally relevant information and advice.

-John

 

[deductable rumb]

Please provide the legal basis for your response.

Thanks.

Sure, but it would require clarification of the legal basis behind these responses:

I seriously hope you are not planning to procreate with this "man".

So he just throws her out with the garbage because other things are more important to him. At least the child will be better off without him.

I know he considers his child as DISPOSABLE which equates to TRASH which equates to him having NO INTEGRITY or RESPONSIBILITY or MATURITY. Congrats. I am sure you both will be very happy together. Make sure you personallY ABORT any pregnancy because I honestly believe any child born to you two idiots would be abused, neglected or need state intervention to survive.

NOpe. Seen it. Done it. Still think your dear darling boyfriend is treating his child like trash and throwing her away. I stand by my original decision. He should get fixed and if he impregnates you, YOU should ABORT!