My 5 yr old was at the house with my 14 yr old. I should have made it more clear when I said I discussed my ex leaving the kids there alone for hrs on end. We had that talk when the kids were 12 and 3. I agree my 14 yr old is capable of watching the 5 yr old, but she really isn't very responsible. When she is with me I try to teach her some responsibility, but if her mom doesn't try to teach her some responsibilty there isn't much I can do about it. Not that she isn't trying to teach her some.
I agree that my 14 yr old could and should have cleaned up the dog pop, and straightened up the house. I can not and do not try to control what they do at their moms house. I didn't go in to look around, or to make accusations, I went to the aid of my child who was hurt.
I did not call children services or publish the pictures or anything of the sort as I don't know if the house is like that all the time or not. One thing I didn't really think about though was, my name is still on the deed and the mortgage on the house, but it isn't my residence.
I tried to call the mother before I ever got there, and no answer.
As for inspecting the house, its kind of hard not to notice these things t
When you have to step over them. The bathroom in question is right beside my oldest daughters room and when I turned to leave her room it was right there. I could see it from standing in her doorway.
I get that legally I shouldn't have entered, but I thought my daughter has broken her ankle. That is the only reason I went in.
I am not trying to stick it to mom. I just want my kids in a clean and healthy environment. If I was trying to stick mom, I would have called children services without ever trying to contact her.