Modifying Custody Agreement - School Schedule

[ddmz]

I guess I am a deadbeat. My husband picks up our 4 yr old from preschool every day because I pick up my daughter in a different direction and I rarely get updates from the teacher, I get them from my husband. And updates at 4 have been - 'he pooped in the potty all by himself!' and 'he was a great first time listener today!' or ' he was not sharing today' or ' he was really tired today'
I'm guessing next year in kindergarten we are going to be going over his SAT scores.

PS -- my son attends a private preschool that feeds into the private Christian school. It's not just daycare, it's an accredited private preschool with private kindergarten. Very expensive I might add...

Not sure the relevancy of your son's school costs or the type of school he attends.

But your right, it is solely based on this one incident that I refer to her as a 'deadbeat'.

 

[ddmz]

We are here giving you LEGAL advice ... for free ...

Now, if you are unhappy with the advice, you are more than free to pay your ATTORNEY for the same advice.

You've been given several alternatives to leave the number of days with mom consistent with what she currently has.

I already am paying my attorney...


Are you kicking me out?

 

[Proserpina]

Holy Hannah. Dad, look. I really don't want to sound snarky. But seriously - if you want to have THIS much control over a child, I suggest you adopt as a single parent.

Because otherwise, your life is just going to be downright miserable.

 

[ddmz]

You give her the information - why attend?

I gave her the information, as a result of her not attending. This was not pre-discussed.

And, truthfully, I like to attend either way because I like to engage in the discussion as well, not just receive keynotes.

 

[Proserpina]

I already am paying my attorney...


Are you kicking me out?

You think a message board full of strangers should second guess your attorney? Who KNOWS your case?

That's an interesting take on things.

 

[ddmz]

Holy Hannah. Dad, look. I really don't want to sound snarky. But seriously - if you want to have THIS much control over a child, I suggest you adopt as a single parent.

Because otherwise, your life is just going to be downright miserable.

What is this much control?

School schedule? Sports? That's nothin'.

 

[ddmz]

You think a message board full of strangers should second guess your attorney? Who KNOWS your case?

That's an interesting take on things.

I don't trust an attorney anymore than I trust a public school teacher. Always looking for 2nd, 3rd, 4th opinions.

 

[Proserpina]

What is this much control?

School schedule? Sports? That's nothin'.

And if you bring this argument and that attitude in front of a judge? That's exactly what you'll become, honey.

Nothin'.

I wish I was kidding. But seriously - your past few posts have told us MUCH more about you than about Mom.

Talk to your attorney.

 

[ddmz]

And if you bring this argument and that attitude in front of a judge? That's exactly what you'll become, honey.

Nothin'.

I wish I was kidding. But seriously - your past few posts have told us MUCH more about you than about Mom.

Talk to your attorney.

That wasn't an argument, I was questioning if that's what you were referring to as 'too much' - School schedule and sports.

 

[stealth2]

Again, sports are important no matter what the age. Let's wake up America, put down the hoagies and recognize that developing habits related to physical fitness is important. Health, is important. We can create a grading scale as to the level of importance for each age range, but the fact of the matter is it's still important, no matter how minute of an importance it is, if it's even SLIGHTLY important, then it should be exercised.

Actually... SPORTS are not that important. Maintaining some level of physical fitness is.

 

[TxPE2011]

Not sure the relevancy of your son's school costs or the type of school he attends.

But your right, it is solely based on this one incident that I refer to her as a 'deadbeat'.

I was letting you know that it's not just 'daycare' since you were noting how so important these meetings for a 4 year old are. There is a difference between preschool and daycare. AND I believe you made a reference to YOU are the one that pays for the preschool; preschool meaning, this is not 'daycare'.

And you're not being kicked out, you just dont like what you are hearing.

Sports: I do agree with you but you are barking up the wrong tree. Go tell the family court judge that America needs to wake up. I am 100% in agreeance with you that sports are important for multiple reasons. Exercise being one, team work being another. I agree! I am just at a point of acceptance that when I divorced I no longer had a say in what my daughter does when she is with her father. He is of the opinion that she doesn't need to be on a 'team' to receive exercise. She can ride a bike, swim, run the track, play backyard soccer with him etc. None of that requires him to cart her to practice or games on HIS time. I don't like it but as with all divorces, I gave up MY right to dictate 365 days of the year.

 

[ddmz]

Actually... SPORTS are not that important. Maintaining some level of physical fitness is.

FCS2278/FY1001: Importance of Youth Involvement in Sports

Worth a read, whether you agree or not.

 

[ddmz]

I was letting you know that it's not just 'daycare' since you were noting how so important these meetings for a 4 year old are. There is a difference between preschool and daycare. AND I believe you made a reference to YOU are the one that pays for the preschool; preschool meaning, this is not 'daycare'.

And you're not being kicked out, you just dont like what you are hearing.

Sports: I do agree with you but you are barking up the wrong tree. Go tell the family court judge that America needs to wake up. I am 100% in agreeance with you that sports are important for multiple reasons. Exercise being one, team work being another. I agree! I am just at a point of acceptance that when I divorced I no longer had a say in what my daughter does when she is with her father. He is of the opinion that she doesn't need to be on a 'team' to receive exercise. She can ride a bike, swim, run the track, play backyard soccer with him etc. None of that requires him to cart her to practice or games on HIS time. I don't like it but as with all divorces, I gave up MY right to dictate 365 days of the year.

Ok. Well just as long as you agree. I mean, you're a parent, I want you to agree - because it's true and your child will benefit. When I hear other parents say sports aren't important (in an absolute manner), it's just annoying and probably the same people who are chowing down hungry-man and giving their kids ice cream before bed. As for legal, Sports haven't even become a topic with my attorney, there's a mountain of other issues related to School and general care as to why we're proposing the schedule we are. But I mentioned it because it's just one item, that's all.

 

[stealth2]

FCS2278/FY1001: Importance of Youth Involvement in Sports

Worth a read, whether you agree or not.

Dude - don't think I don't know all that. BUT... Not ALL kids are geared to sports - team or otherwise. Articles like that do nothing more than set those kids and their parents up for failure.

Do you know how important music education is for a child? What instrument does you child play?

What about art? What has your child's exposure been? What does she create?

Wanna move on to sculpture?

 

[ddmz]

Dude - don't think I don't know all that. BUT... Not ALL kids are geared to sports - team or otherwise. Articles like that do nothing more than set those kids and their parents up for failure.

Do you know how important music education is for a child? What instrument does you child play?

What about art? What has your child's exposure been? What does she create?

Wanna move on to sculpture?

Yes, I do.... and I think the schools do too. This is why they have music time and art time (sculpture would be part of art and consist of playdoh).

And, I'd say unless the child has a disablement, preventing him/her from playing sports - at this age, their not exactly on all-star teams, any able child would make the cut and benefit from playing.