This particular scam is called "pig butchering".
https://www.newsnationnow.com/crime/pig-butchering-scams/
So, you are the pig and the scammer uses flattery and love bombing to fatten you up to be scammed out of your savings. Thankfully you've only lost a little money, as some elderly folks lose not only their life savings but they end up mortgaging paid-off homes and owing big income tax bills from cashing out retirement accounts.
The scammers now have your name and contact info, and they know you're an easy mark. There will be more scam attempts using different methods. The same scammers may even try using what's called a "recovery scam" to convince you that they work with law-enforcement officials to get your money back. All you have to do is pay a small processing fee, and then you have to pay tax on the recovered funds, then a recovery fee... See how that works?
Stay off the dating apps and go find a woman in real life. If you were ever video chatting this woman then she probably isn't even in NY, she's in a country that engages in human trafficking and the women involved in it are essentially slaves. The authorities in these countries don't do anything about it because they're on the take.