Any Other Blocked out Fathers?

[LilSty]

What is the name of your state?
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Being blocked out of child's lives, ready to let go and take chance when older. Any father's out there that have had to do the same?

 

[Lil Miss Smarty Panties]

Yes LilSty, they are all over this board. My husband is one of them. He fought for 2 years and came to terms with the fact that he would only be a paycheck and not a father. It's frightening how easy it is for a vindictive woman to throw away her child/rens father like garbage. I remember you and I'm truly sorry you suffered the same fate. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

 

[wukie2001]

It's frightening how easy it is for a vindictive woman to throw away her child/rens father like garbage.

Ain't that the truth. The mother of my child is so uncaring and doesn't even give a poo that she is pushing me away and sabotaging her own childs life. But I believe in karma and she will get what's coming to her.

 

[LilSty]

Any advice on how you handle it. Do you let go completely or try and go through the motions. How do you stop it from affecting other aspects of your life? Any advice on how you handled this would be helpful.

 

[hexeliebe]

Answer the motions, defend yourself, and keep going to court. The only way to make someone realize that you will never give up is not to ever give up.

Yes, it may keep costing you money. But imagine that money going to Chuck e Cheeses, or movies or other things you would be spending money on with your child and then you'll realize it's worth all the hell you may have to go through.

If you just give up and come back later in life you may not have a later to come back to.

 

[LilSty]

This big question is, does it ever stop though. Getting to later in life and still losing your kids after all of the time, energy and money. That is the big dilemma in these situations. Do you believe that this type of brainwashing has the ability to hold when the kids are older? That's what its all about right now. I am starting to believe that this can happen. That children, even of teenage years, can be brainwashed to just walk away from thier father for reasons they don't even know or understand.

 

[Boxcarbill]

This big question is, does it ever stop though. Getting to later in life and still losing your kids after all of the time, energy and money. That is the big dilemma in these situations. Do you believe that this type of brainwashing has the ability to hold when the kids are older? That's what its all about right now. I am starting to believe that this can happen. That children, even of teenage years, can be brainwashed to just walk away from thier father for reasons they don't even know or understand.

Sure they can be. But when the children get older, they began to get all the bits and pieces and the puzzle begins to fit together. Then the gig is up. The interesting thing about the truth is no matter how bizarre, it fits together. No piece is left over and no hole is left. It is total and complete from every angle. And the truth always surfaces.

 

[hexeliebe]

All you have control over is your actions, not those of your ex or the kids. Once you realize that then the rest will be easy.

Just remember, kids aren't stupid.

 

[LilSty]

Do you both speak from experience?

If so, I would like to know how bad your situations were?

My kids call me by my first name. Get angry at me. Call me stupid and things like that. It's as if all of the hate from the mother is directed at me through them.

That is the part I don't know how to handle?

 

[hexeliebe]

Oh, if you only knew.

My children were moved from the U.S. to Canada when my ex and I separated and were almost moved back to Austria so that I could never see them again.

It has taken more than three years and a lot of attorney bills and counselling, both myself and my children.

You can either give up now or keep fighting. The choice is up to you. But remember, you get back only what you give.

 

[Boxcarbill]

Do you both speak from experience?

Hit profile at the bottom of my post.

 

[LilSty]

Boxcar

If you are an attorney, I always wanted to know, how can attorneys represent people that like my ex who throw out whatever mud they can to acheive thier goals?

How does on live with oneself when representing someone who is trying to acheive something that is wrong.

I recently challenged my attorney to challenge my ex's attorney that way.

I told him to tell my ex's attorney that I would keep track of where he praticed and if I lost my children till they were older I would direct them to him and have him explain why he represented lies that allowed their mother to take their father from them during the childhood years.

I am just very curious.

In addition, I have a past attorney who I now consider a friend who knowing the legal system thinks that in my situation, one should just walk. As he says "writing a check each month is not being a parent".

 

[imxoz]

Lilsty~ I am a psychologist, and I've got to encourage you to keep trying. Keep sending cards and keeping in contact. Trust me I deal with a lot of adults that suffer from thinking their estranged parent did not care. They are young and remember that you tried. If nothing else you will feel okay and at peace with yourself. Take care of yourself and good luck

 

[LilSty]

imxoz

Do you know what age they start understanding a little as to what is going on?

My only hope is that they get to an age that they begin to know that one of the parents is not wanting the other to have a relationship with them.

 

[Boxcarbill]

I've always been curious as to whether people who ask lawyers this question ask doctors how they can provide medical treatment to just anyone.