VeronicaGia
Senior Member
scoobydu said:
The statute of limitations for WA state for establishing paternity is 18 years of age. You are 21. Time to move on.
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The statute of limitations for WA state for establishing paternity is 18 years of age. You are 21. Time to move on.
prettyredhead
Member
VeronicaGia said:
No smartie. A stay at home mother is priceless. Leave it up to DAD as it should be to support the family. All these latchkey kids have grown, and are still growing up to be non compassionate "people" who think that 50.50 is the only way,as their mother never cared enough about them to stay home and actually be a hands on, full time mother. That is where mothers belong, at home. That is my final answer.
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truly
Guest
"Blanket"ly ridiculous
Your blanket statement and stereotypical response is ridiculous...you must stay at home, have no income, be totally & FINANCIALLY dependent on your husband to be a full time mother??
prettyredhead said:
Your blanket statement and stereotypical response is ridiculous...you must stay at home, have no income, be totally & FINANCIALLY dependent on your husband to be a full time mother??
Have fun waiting on your husband's paycheck to feed, entertain and care those children Mrs. Cleaver....
Red, if a husband is suddenly struck ill or in an accident, should SAHM just throw up her hands? Or maybe if he then can't support her any longer, she should just dump him at a rehab facility and go in search of a better paycheck?
FYI-I know plenty of parents who work and do NOT have "latchkey kids". That's a very limited world view.
EITHER my husband or I sees our daughter off to school and EITHER my husband or I is there at the end of the school day when her school bus drops her off. Either parent is perfectly capable of being there for her.
Having a uterus doesn't make one parent more or less capable of meeting their child's school bus or helping at school on Bike Safety Day or Music Monday! Using the uterus doesn't remove our brains, either. Most of us still have our brains and are also capable of both working and being great moms.
Sitting home waiting for the fabric softener cycle while our kids are in school doesn't make them better kids.
Some families SHARE all the different responsibilities, and that means their child also gets to share BOTH their parents more equally.
FYI-I know plenty of parents who work and do NOT have "latchkey kids". That's a very limited world view.
EITHER my husband or I sees our daughter off to school and EITHER my husband or I is there at the end of the school day when her school bus drops her off. Either parent is perfectly capable of being there for her.
Having a uterus doesn't make one parent more or less capable of meeting their child's school bus or helping at school on Bike Safety Day or Music Monday! Using the uterus doesn't remove our brains, either. Most of us still have our brains and are also capable of both working and being great moms.
Sitting home waiting for the fabric softener cycle while our kids are in school doesn't make them better kids.
Some families SHARE all the different responsibilities, and that means their child also gets to share BOTH their parents more equally.
AMEN, Nextwife
Red, WHAT decade are you from?
I work out of necessity. Oh, I suppose I could make my hubby get a second or third job so I could sit at home, but why? I have the brain God gave me and the degree I worked hard to earn, and you suggest I should sit at home and let him work himself to death? Please. No man, married or divorced, NCP or CP, created a child all by himself and he shouldn't have to support one all by himself.
My husband and I BOTH spend ample time with our kids... and the only tme my kid has unlocked a door is when she says "Mommy, give me your keys. I want to unlock the door."
Red, WHAT decade are you from?
I work out of necessity. Oh, I suppose I could make my hubby get a second or third job so I could sit at home, but why? I have the brain God gave me and the degree I worked hard to earn, and you suggest I should sit at home and let him work himself to death? Please. No man, married or divorced, NCP or CP, created a child all by himself and he shouldn't have to support one all by himself.
My husband and I BOTH spend ample time with our kids... and the only tme my kid has unlocked a door is when she says "Mommy, give me your keys. I want to unlock the door."
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cibyr
Guest
back to the original question
I honestly don't know about the paternity tests since you are 21 years old. But i agree that you have loose ends in your life that you feel that you wanted to be tied up.
Why don't you just go talk to the father figure and ask him questions why he was not in your life whileyou were growing up? Also ask your mom why she did not really pursue very hard on this case?
Ask her how she feels about you trying for child support. I have heard and read one story that an adult child successfully collected back child support from herfather with her mother's help. So, that is why I suggest you talk to your mom about this.
But remember only you can make successful in your life not money from your father at all...only you can choose to stay in poverty or go to work and college and find a better job for yourself. The reason I am saying is that you said you need closure in your life, that is whyI encourage you to talk to both of your parents....
After the talk, if you still feel that you are entitled to back support money have your mom and yourself talk to an attorney to see what you can do?
Good luck and hope you find closure in your life.
I honestly don't know about the paternity tests since you are 21 years old. But i agree that you have loose ends in your life that you feel that you wanted to be tied up.
Why don't you just go talk to the father figure and ask him questions why he was not in your life whileyou were growing up? Also ask your mom why she did not really pursue very hard on this case?
Ask her how she feels about you trying for child support. I have heard and read one story that an adult child successfully collected back child support from herfather with her mother's help. So, that is why I suggest you talk to your mom about this.
But remember only you can make successful in your life not money from your father at all...only you can choose to stay in poverty or go to work and college and find a better job for yourself. The reason I am saying is that you said you need closure in your life, that is whyI encourage you to talk to both of your parents....
After the talk, if you still feel that you are entitled to back support money have your mom and yourself talk to an attorney to see what you can do?
Good luck and hope you find closure in your life.
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prettyredhead
Member
Oh bully for you. It seems that there are no ill effects of working moms, despite years of proof that it is better for one parent to be home.
Funny how people change their situations to suit their responses.
Mom belongs at home, Dad belongs at work. Mom has a degree in healthcare, laundry, cooking, housekeeping, first aid, cpr, pre school, and early childhood education. As well as toliet training and teaching of the English/applicable languages.
But, hey Mom belongs at work I gather...
And I will wait for the man to bring home the money. I dont want to work like a damn dog until I drop dead. There is quite enough at home to do.
Generally, women who slander stay at home moms, are quite envious that they are allowed to stay home. And really wish they could too. But they dont feel good about it enough to say to their man, I am staying home now. Sell the new car, or return it to the dealer, buy me a used Chevy and dump the country club dues. I am staying home, whether you like it or not. Divorce me then.
Funny how people change their situations to suit their responses.
Mom belongs at home, Dad belongs at work. Mom has a degree in healthcare, laundry, cooking, housekeeping, first aid, cpr, pre school, and early childhood education. As well as toliet training and teaching of the English/applicable languages.
But, hey Mom belongs at work I gather...
And I will wait for the man to bring home the money. I dont want to work like a damn dog until I drop dead. There is quite enough at home to do.
Generally, women who slander stay at home moms, are quite envious that they are allowed to stay home. And really wish they could too. But they dont feel good about it enough to say to their man, I am staying home now. Sell the new car, or return it to the dealer, buy me a used Chevy and dump the country club dues. I am staying home, whether you like it or not. Divorce me then.
Begs the question.....
where are her (skanky redhead's) kids when she's "entertaining" her "gentleman caller"?
Let me guess....she'll get a sitter to "schtupe" around with this guy, but doesnt believe in sitters to go to work?
Or better yet--sneaks him in and out in the middle of the night=no need for a sitter?
Justification for everything if ya look hard enough, I suppose
where are her (skanky redhead's) kids when she's "entertaining" her "gentleman caller"?
Let me guess....she'll get a sitter to "schtupe" around with this guy, but doesnt believe in sitters to go to work?
Or better yet--sneaks him in and out in the middle of the night=no need for a sitter?
Justification for everything if ya look hard enough, I suppose
prettyredhead
Member
Yep. I sneak em in. I couldnt get rid of him.
It has no bearing on my advice. I havent even seen him since June. I think when I told if he didnt leave me alone, I would write a nasty letter to his wife scared him off. I wrecked no ones home, if anything he would have for me.
And I still know that Mom belongs at home.
It has no bearing on my advice. I havent even seen him since June. I think when I told if he didnt leave me alone, I would write a nasty letter to his wife scared him off. I wrecked no ones home, if anything he would have for me.
And I still know that Mom belongs at home.
caligirl73
Member
unloving father said:What is the name of your state? Illinois
Is it possible to get backpay child support or have a parent provide support to you after the age of 21? The reason I ask is because I just met my real father and went I ask him about why he wasn't there, he has no answer for me and tell there is nothing he can do, and he doesn't want to deal with it.
Similar situation in my case. My mother had court ordered child support for my brother and I when my folks divorced. My father NEVER paid a dime, he either worked under the table or quit his job totally. My mom never tried to pursue it past getting the court order, she just figured that she was better off without his help and figured he would never help anyway. My folks divorced when I was 16 and my brother was 13. I would LOVE to sue my father for the back child support he owes my mom. She deserves at least that much!
VeronicaGia
Senior Member
prettyredhead said:Oh bully for you. It seems that there are no ill effects of working moms, despite years of proof that it is better for one parent to be home.
Funny how people change their situations to suit their responses.
Mom belongs at home, Dad belongs at work. Mom has a degree in healthcare, laundry, cooking, housekeeping, first aid, cpr, pre school, and early childhood education. As well as toliet training and teaching of the English/applicable languages.
But, hey Mom belongs at work I gather...
And I will wait for the man to bring home the money. I dont want to work like a damn dog until I drop dead. There is quite enough at home to do.
Generally, women who slander stay at home moms, are quite envious that they are allowed to stay home. And really wish they could too. But they dont feel good about it enough to say to their man, I am staying home now. Sell the new car, or return it to the dealer, buy me a used Chevy and dump the country club dues. I am staying home, whether you like it or not. Divorce me then.
The dingbat strikes again! Imagine this doofus:
"And I will wait for the woman to bring home the money. I don't want to work likea damn dog until I drop dead. There is quite enough at home to do........Men don't feel good enough about it to say it to their woman, I am staying home now. Sell the new car or return it to the dealer, buy me a used Chevy and dump the country club dues. I am staying home whether or not you like it. Divorce me then."
Maybe this is how men should be. What's good for the goose and all. Why should men work? We should never, ever again think of a man who stays home while his wife works as a deadbeat,whether they have kids or not. He has rights too you know. Why should men work themselves to death for women, especially you? You aren't worth it. You're just looking for a meal ticket, so the next time you see a man doing the same thing, looking for a meal ticket that is, be proud of him because he is just like you.