Been there done that, I skipped buying the t-shirt and went right to a permanent body tattoo. My child (And the children of several other senior members) have gone through assorted levels of counseling to help them deal with parents who are no longer together.
To sit there and attempt to claim the corner of this market is unreasonable and incredibly unfair on your part. The things you've done and allowed your son to do (calling your boyfriend "Dad") are not cool and can ultimately result in you losing custody should the child's Legal Father get his stuff together and attempt to sue for such.
You are insulting volunteers--some who are actual attorneys, some who work in the courts, in social services, in schools, and almost all who have fought and won and lost custody--but all who give time to try to make sure people understand the entire scope of the situation they are in and are making for themselves. Again, this is a group of people who don't get paid in any way. You want someone to hold your hand, say "poor Gotpinkspirit, no one understands. You really are right here and no one else could possibly understand."??? Go hire an attorney for $300/hr.
And a lot of us picked second or third rate people to co-parent with. We all admit that much. But the difference is that we accepted our mistake(s) and believe that it is still our responsibility to facilitate the relationship between our children and their other parent.
And when do you intend to get married? Oh, yes, 2014. So let’s do the math. 2014 is eight months away, even if you intend to marry in January, you still need to be married for at least six months, so that puts us into july of 2014 before you can begin filings, then lets add in the required background checks and possible home studies (OP, I just did this--I KNOW the process), and then you can request a hearing date. So you're looking at having everything filed with the court by October/November 2014, and MAYBE a court date by the end of the year. I'd call that two years. Close enough.
Awww, well, please accept our heartfelt apologies that we have not lived up to your obviously very high standards.
But you certainly belive yourself to be the authority. And as such, no one here is in a position to contradict you.
The father was selfish for "not allowing his son to call people whatever he felt comfortable with". And if the child wanted to call Dad's gf "mommy", you'd have been OK with that? I'm sure.
So, if you don't allow Junior to do whatever he'd like, does that make you selfish for imposing your will on a small child? You know, in silly instances like making junior get shots, go the doctor, eat veggies or brush his teeth?
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