What is the name of your state?Louisiana I am the proud father of a newborn. I was asked to take a dna test after the birth and was confirmed the father. The mother placed her last name as my son's last name. She claims that she has no intent on giving the boy my last name even though i have been court ordered to pay child support. She says she will let the boy decide when he is 18 years old whether or not he wishes my name. No male i have ever known has changed his last name after 18 years. Do you have any suggestions about how he gains his rightful name? Thank you very much!
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Smarty Panties
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You can petition the court to have his name changed to yours. It's not unusual for men to do that, especially with little boys. From what I hear, most judges will order the change too. You need to do it now though while he's still a newborn.
fght4yrmnd
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It seems as though it is a little late for that now. The baby is born (congratulations by the way), and the birth certificate is already applied for with the mothers name. Which I totally agree with.
Men always their greatest contributions named after them. Many cities, bridges, airports, and schools are named after the man who had the most input in the project. She contributed the most work in bringing your newborn into the world. She carried and cared for him for nine months, she went through labor and childbirth, and is undertaking the majority of the parenting tasks, it only makes sense that her greatest accomplishment should be named after her.
I hope that you respect your obligation to pay the child support and be a father to your child, and maybe he will WANT to carry on your last name to future generations. Just make sure that you are a good role model and a "hero" to him so that he will choose to carry your name and be just as good of a father to his children.
Men always their greatest contributions named after them. Many cities, bridges, airports, and schools are named after the man who had the most input in the project. She contributed the most work in bringing your newborn into the world. She carried and cared for him for nine months, she went through labor and childbirth, and is undertaking the majority of the parenting tasks, it only makes sense that her greatest accomplishment should be named after her.
I hope that you respect your obligation to pay the child support and be a father to your child, and maybe he will WANT to carry on your last name to future generations. Just make sure that you are a good role model and a "hero" to him so that he will choose to carry your name and be just as good of a father to his children.
How do you know she will be doing most of the work?? Who is to say he wont be the best father ever. MAybe he will or maybe he wont. He can go through court to have the name changed. Girl i worked with put her little girls last name as hers. 3 year later when she took father to court for CS she was ordered to change little girls name to fathers last name. It is never to late to fight for what you believe in.
Smarty Panties
Member
Oh but ejmmolina, that baby doesn't need his last name. He can give a bridge his last name and it'll be fine. 
Smarty Panties
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because Mom wasn't married to him and she has the uterus? I'm not sure..
jslopez711
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LdiJ
Senior Member
Louisiana's laws are very different than the rest of the country, however I can tell you that across the country, in general, judges no longer consider that children should automatically have their father's last name. There are lots of judges that will still order a child's name to be changed to the father's last name, but there are also lots of judge's who won't, or who prefer hyphenated names.
Life honestly is less complicated when the child and the parent with primary custody have the same last name.
However, in order for him to get an accurate answer to his question he really needs to ask an attorney in the Parrish where the child lives. Again, LA law in not based on English Common Law as is the rest of the country. Its based on the French Napoleonic Code which often makes things very different.
Life honestly is less complicated when the child and the parent with primary custody have the same last name.
However, in order for him to get an accurate answer to his question he really needs to ask an attorney in the Parrish where the child lives. Again, LA law in not based on English Common Law as is the rest of the country. Its based on the French Napoleonic Code which often makes things very different.
LdiJ said:
Really? Times are a changin' its the aughts, walk into any school and you will find families of kids where mom has a different name than the kids, even the kids have different names from thier siblings, and no one bats an eye anymore its the children of intact and/traditional families who are unusual LOL.......
LdiJ
Senior Member
haiku said:
I am not talking about that aspect. I am talking about more technical issues. When you and your child have the same last name its very rare for anyone to ask you to "prove" custody. However when you and your child have different last names that often happens.
I know an unmarried mother who gave her child the father's last name. They never went to court for custody. Her insurance company actually refused to add her child to the policy until she proved that she had legal custody (obviously an odd insurance company...or odd employer rules) because the last names were different.
That is just one example of many. In a divorce its less complicated because there is automatically paperwork spelling everything out. Its just the unwed situations that sometimes get murky.
ca
Any whore or lady can end up pregnant and give birth nine months later, the father could be a saint or a john, but if both are unwed I don't think having a uterus should give you the decision making authority in the name. Bringing a baby into the world doesn't make a mother equal to the virgin Mary.
Any whore or lady can end up pregnant and give birth nine months later, the father could be a saint or a john, but if both are unwed I don't think having a uterus should give you the decision making authority in the name. Bringing a baby into the world doesn't make a mother equal to the virgin Mary.
LdiJ said:
Small potatoes.....
well having personal experience with it,myself, I can say I have never heard of a mother who has ever had issues of that nature. Unwed people also have the ability to get custody paperwork too, if it becomes an issue. And certainly its not that big a deal, as men have to do that sort of thing all the time.
Men who have the SAME last name as thier child are more likely to be questioned by an insurance company, than women who change thier name upon remarriage, for example.
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blendedfamily
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I was wondering if anyone thought of the fact that mom could in 2 or 3 years get remarried and then who's last name will the child have????