Can arrears exist prior to a child support order existing?

[AHA]

Right, because I said that the fact that my stepdaughter's mother wouldn't buy her clothes that she needed screwed ME.

I think that there is too much focus on this board of the words "we" and "us" rather than the actual question being asked by many posters. People often use those terms when they are MARRIED. It is not a criminal act. It is normal.

Is she is such a bad, evil, horrible mother, why hasn't your husband taken her to court during the past 3+ years??
If your husband was paying plenty to her and for insurance, clothes etc etc for years, how come he all of a sudden can't pay ordered child support?
Are YOU contributing money wise for your share of your marital household?
You both knew he had a child to support for a couple of decades when you got together, so any plans for the future you two made back then should have seriously included his previous obligations. If neither of you did, it's time for you both to step up and move up the career ladder and bring home incomes that you both and kids can live on.

He should have settled this issue in court asap after slitting up with mommy, but since he didn't, there's a price to pay for it now. I am surprised to see a "new wife" not encouraging her hubby to settle money matters like that before legally committing to him for life.

Good luck to him.

 

[faithnlve]

You know what i find strange about all this??? I have an ex whom is 16,000 in arrearages on child support. I filed with the courts for a hearing, AND I got full custody. Problem was the state was involved in a chinz hearing against him. My hearing never happened, the judge who gave me full custody never mentioned child support. BUT, my ex's attorney made a verbal agreement that he would pay 500 a month. Never happened. When I finally got him into court they said they COULD NOT go back on arrearages of the 16,000 since there was no court order!! So why should this guy pay arrearages that far back if the courts claim there has to be an established court order in order to have arrearages? This makes no sense.

 

[fairisfair]

You know what i find strange about all this??? I have an ex whom is 16,000 in arrearages on child support. I filed with the courts for a hearing, AND I got full custody. Problem was the state was involved in a chinz hearing against him. My hearing never happened, the judge who gave me full custody never mentioned child support. BUT, my ex's attorney made a verbal agreement that he would pay 500 a month. Never happened. When I finally got him into court they said they COULD NOT go back on arrearages of the 16,000 since there was no court order!! So why should this guy pay arrearages that far back if the courts claim there has to be an established court order in order to have arrearages? This makes no sense.

ummmm because your's is a different case? Unless we all live in the same state and go to court with the exact same circumstances, with the exact same attorneys and judge, chances are the outcomes will be different.