sydney1205 said:
oh and you say shes your kid just pay your childsupport, well that is exactly what i want to do, i get called a bad father bc i ask if i can get it lowered bc i have a vehicle, just because i have a CHILD to this woman doesnt mean i have to make sure her MOTHER has a roof over her head, that is HER responsibilty, her and her husband need to provide for thereselves WHICH THERE NOT DOING.
I want to live where ever your ex lives that I can have a roof over my head, and my childrens', a vehicle, a cell phone, food, clothing, electricity, etc. for $500 a month. Obviously I live in the wrong state!!! B/c I pay 800 a month for my house payment ALONE! That isn't even including all my other basic necessity bills. Should your ex just rent your daughter a house and let her live there alone and pay the payments? B/c that is how this statement comes off to me. And before you jump my a s s, I work full time, along with my husband to support my children, and keep all the above named bills paid, and very RARELY get ANY CS from the kids dad. And that includes also, school supplies, clothing, toys, any outings, any trips we take, extra curicular activities, any child care costs, medical bills. 100% done by myself and my husband. Let me tell you, our bills are about 2000-2500 a month. Your measly 500 wouldn't cover but a quarter of them. A person, ESPECIALLY with a child or children, canNOT live on $500 a month.
And how do you know she spent YOUR money on her outfit? Did the child see her take the money out of the card at the cashregister and then tell her she can't have anything b/c mommy needed an outfit?? And let me tell you something else, when I occasionally get a CS payment from my ex, after paying for EVERYTHING 100% if I want to spend some of it on me you can bet your sweet a s s I will. All this arguing over what cs is for is ridiculous.
As for the person who says
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Child support is not the child's money. It is the mother's money to use as she sees fit to help provide for said child. .
THIS IS HORSE SH*T.. This is not spousal support or alimony IT IS FOR THE CHILD"
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The court will assist a spouse who has primary physical custody or possession of the child or children through the payment of child support.~- Now this was taken from TN's CS guidelines, I realize different states have different laws, however, I believe they are pretty similar in that CS is SUPPORT of a child, not directly for the child. Support includes, a roof over their heads, food on their table, electricity, etc.
As far as your visitation issues, do you have a lawyer? If not, you need one, if so, you need a better one. All this stuff you say she pulled is bull, and you, nor your daughter should have to go through that. All of that should not be overlooked.