can i get it lowered

[cananyonehelp]

Good Luck.. and thank agian for your service to this country

That little child is a gift form God and they are innocent.. ALWAYS look out for her well being. They dont ask to be bought into this world, but they do demand our love and attention. Dont let your x get you down and most of all dont let her know if she does. Hey, have you tried to talk to your Jag officer?

 

[sydney1205]

i have an appointment friday with JAG ...

 

[snodderly]

If you turn on the news and a man is just about to jump off a 50 story build. Do you think for a minute the negotiator is up there saying JUMP!!! NO

Are you serious? You are equating this posters participation on this board with a man jumping from a bridge. Being a little dramatic aren't you?

I really take this personal because military life is hard enough on this man and his relationship with his daughter. I’ve walk a mile in the combat boot, so quit pointing your finger at his mistake

Not anymore personal than I do. Hell, my ex was Special Ops. He was gone from home an average of 150 days a year for a 6 year period during our marriage. He managed to have a relationship with his children inspite of it. If sydney is tenacious enough he will also.

Did you use reverse psychology on him? It sure seemed to work here!!!

No, but the court appointed psychiatrist did diagnose him with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Read up on it, it will give you a better understanding of who did what to who during my marriage. He used to treat me the same way he is now treating his children....with complete and total disregard.

Why cant you seem to see? Pull the telephone pole out of your eye before you worry about the toothpick in someone else’s eye.

I'm not the one failing to see anything. Sydney is allowing the emotional issues to cloud his judgment. That is the very thing that will keep him from getting what he wants if he is not careful. I ask him some very important questions. You notice he failed to answer them.

When you are dealing with the family court system you can't hire an attorney and take a passive role in it. If you don't actively participate you don't get what you need in the end. If sydney were truly interested in actively participating he would have answered my questions....especially the ones about the child being on DEERS and participating in his military benefits. That would go a long way in proving to a judge he has the child's best interest at heart. He won't get anywhere by being coddled and it would seem that is what he wants because he is now bowing out of the conversation. Just when it got to the point that he might learn what he actually needs to be doing he is not answering questions and is bowing out. That tells me a lot!
snodderly

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Hate to burst bubbles here, but JAG has absolutely no jurisdiction in this matter. They will tell him to hire a civilian attorney.

 

[snodderly]

Paradise is right, they won't become involved. Especially since they were never married. He might try getting some sort of info from Family Advocacy. If he has this child on the DEERS program, is her legal parent and is making sure she gets military benefits then FA might be able to help him in some way.
snodderly

 

[tigger2two]

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I would like to know where you shop for food???? I spend over 600 a month for a family of 4


How much of that is eating out? You need to start using coupons they’re just as good as money. A CP can’t blame the NCP for not knowing how to manager his or her money.

I know how to manage my money! I'm not blaming anyone for anything. I could care less if my ex had to pay 1.00 or 1500.00. He needs to pay what ever has been set up for him to pay. And 600 a month for groceries doesn't include eating out! Thats more. I have 3 boys 9 (almost 10 who is always hungry and no he isn't over weight) 8 and 6. Between breakfast, packing their lunches for school, a snack after school, and dinner I spend 600 a month. I go every two weeks , and yes i use coupons!! And i have a rewards card for the grocery store. I have actually saved 457.00 in rewards this year alone LOL!!! I mange money very well its what i have done for a living for 8 years.(accountant)!! And you are wrong in saying that each parent has 50 percent responsibility to the child. It depends on income vs income as to which parent has what responsibility. I have 23.45 percent and my ex has 76.55 percent. Which is why his support is so high.

 

[sydney1205]

snodderly, Im So sorry i missed your question about her having my benefits, the answer is no, i answered all the other ones so i didnt just not answer it on purpose, see now you act like i didnt answer it just because im not "concerned" here we ****ing go again, you can never ****ing win with you.

 

[sydney1205]

and i wasnt BOWING out of the conversation, i had to get offline , i had things i had to do, see, dont assume what the hell you dont know, im sorry i couldnt stay online ALLL DAY.

 

[snodderly]

sydney, I went back and read a post you had made. I had read it wrong and thought that you had said you were done posting. My mistake. I'm going to send you a private message.
snodderly

 

[cananyonehelp]

I know how to manage my money!

I see that the case with a 600 a month grocery bill that 7200 a year

Last year U.S. households spent $3,240 on average for groceries, according to the American Express Everyday Spending index. The study also found consumers' consumption of fast food increased by 43% over the past year, bringing the average amount spent up to $720 per household. Food expenses represent a substantial percentage of household budgets

And 600 a month for groceries doesn't include eating out!

Eating out is not a necessity

Between breakfast, packing their lunches for school, a snack after school, and dinner I spend 600 a month.

and yes i use coupons!!

You need to either buy some store brands, quit eating steak every night, quit buying junk food, something. We eat chicken(split breasts) 90% of the time and there no way we could eat 600 worth of food in a month.

And you are wrong in saying that each parent has 50 percent responsibility to the child. It depends on income vs income as to which parent has what responsibility. I have 23.45 percent and my ex has 76.55 percent. Which is why his support is so high.

I could not live with myself I had to depend on my Xwife's support was 76% of my child’s support!!! That is pathetic you both brought the child into the world, but since my x makes more money he should pay 76% of the support.

I could care less if my ex had to pay 1.00 or 1500.00.

AT 76% of your children’s support.. I think you care

 

[sydney1205]

snodderly, did you receive my private message, i never did it before so i was just making sure?

 

[tigger2two]

[BcananyonehelpI see that the case with a 600 a month grocery bill that 7200 a year[/B]

Well i never said you couldn't add!

Eating out is not a necessity

And where did i ever say that it was??


You need to either buy some store brands, quit eating steak every night, quit buying junk food, something. We eat chicken(split breasts) 90% of the time and there no way we could eat 600 worth of food in a month.

Your right i am picky! I don't do store brands on food or clothing. That is my prefrence and has nothing to do with child support, its just the way i was raised. And frankly none of your business. I wasn't complaining about money just simply stating that you can't base your figures on every families income. Every family is different.

I could not live with myself I had to depend on my Xwife's support was 76% of my child’s support!!! That is pathetic you both brought the child into the world, but since my x makes more money he should pay 76% of the support.

I don't depend on my exs money. I just recently went back to work. But if you had read my other posts you would see that my husband passed away while on active duty and i recieve VA benifits until I remarry.


AT 76% of your children’s support.. I think you care

No as a matter of fact I dont' care. I asked my ex to tell me what he could afford. He said he wanted it done by the courts bc he felt as though he was paying to much. I said fine. The court is who came up with the figures that bc he makes so much more than i do, that his responsibility for our 3 kids is 76percent. CSE in NC can't use VA benifits as income bc i can lose them when i get married and i am engaged.Which i did try and get them to use them anyway bc i didn't feel as though that was fair to my ex's other child.But that was a no go. But they did compute my income from work based on my income from my tax returns.(based on what i am capable of making if in fact i chose not to work,bc i can't be put in at 0).And i can tell you that out of the 1200 that he is supposed to pay, thats not even my house payment. So no i don't depend on him by any means. I could make it just fine with out his support (which i have for a long time), this court order was just done in july. My kids have lived with me and only me for over 4 years. And his support for his fourth child is 680.00. Thats just for that one child. So i guess its safe to say that he makes really good money seeing as how he has been in for 13 years. And by his own admission to me he has no bills but food, car insurance and phone. The military pays for his house and utilities. Not to mention his new wife is also military.

Point is I didn't set up his child support the state did. He could have payed me nothing which he has done in the past, but NO he had to go to court. I don't feel sorry for him bc he did this to hiself. And i wasn't trying to challenge what you said earlier i was just making a statement that I spend alot more than that for groceries. You need to take a chill pill and stop assuming that everyone is jumping you.

 

[cananyonehelp]

Are you serious? You are equating this posters participation on this board with a man jumping from a bridge. Being a little dramatic aren't you?

snodderly

No we was trying to make a point.... you don’t stomp on a persons head when they have hit the bottom!!! You stretch out a hand and help them up

YOU SOUND JUST LIKE MY X WIFE (just the bold section)

On the day we was suppose to pick my daughter up from the end of her summer visit @ 6 p.m. we get a call(around 10:30am) just as we were going to take my wife's cousin to the airport. It was my X she was furious because my little girl had cut her boyfriends daughters hair. She wanted us to pick her up right then. I told her we could not, but we would be able to around 12:30. So we took my wife’s cousin to the airport an immediately went and got her. My x was not there but her sister was, so we took my daughter home. About two hours later we get a call it was my x. She quickly asks me what I was going to do about this incident. I asked her what she had done and she told me she was going to let me deal with it. Then I asked her how my daughter got a hold of the scissors and she told she didn’t know. I asked if she was watching her and she said she is six she knows better. Always blaming someone else!!! so I gave her a for instance. I said what if that was a gun in the room and it went off, when the police got involved you could get in trouble for it. Immediately the same response as you... you cant compare that!!! It was just a point that she was responsible to for not watching her daughter and she to was liable. Its funny that in the year we have had her she has not cut her hair, but on two different occasion she has come home from her moms with small areas of her hair cut. I know because I blow dry her hair every night after her bath.

She goes on to tell me that her boyfriend said in front of my daughter... I don’t know if my daughter can play with your daughter anymore, she has serious psychological problems.

What the hell is that? WHY would anyone in their right mind say something like that in front of a six old? about the six year old? If he would open his eye he would see that his girlfriend(my X wife) created them!!! To top it all off my daughter told my wife and me with tears in her eyes ... My mommy doesn’t love me anymore... When we asked her why she said... because she told me she didn’t know if she even wanted me to go to her house the next weekend.

 

[tigger2two]

What the hell is that? WHY would anyone in their right mind say something like that in front of a six old? about the six year old? If he would open his eye he would see that his girlfriend(my X wife) created them!!! To top it all off my daughter told my wife and me with tears in her eyes ... My mommy doesn’t love me anymore... When we asked her why she said... because she told me she didn’t know if she even wanted me to go to her house the next weekend.

Now that is just sad and uncalled for. I can imagine how that poor child felt.

 

[cananyonehelp]

Now that is just sad and uncalled for. I can imagine how that poor child felt.

This is just what happened two weeks ago.... I could write book on the things she does and how she justifies it!! I guess that why she has supervised visitation and she wants me to agree to have it removed. WHEN HELL FREEZES OVER
I treat my little girl like a princess.. because she is my little princess. My worrying has caused an unexplained rash and acute gastritis, but I made my bed and I have to lay down in it. It rips me apart to see my little hurt so much and get used like a pawn because she is innocent. I will say I never down my x to her, even though I think she is the lowest thing on the face of the earth.... whale sh*t. She has called her daughter 4 times in the past 4 months and her weekend visit is from Sat. 10am to Sunday at 6pm. I do however wish she would for her daughter’s sake change, but try not to focus on thing I can’t change.