Can separation be reversed?

[LdiJ]

What has that to do with whether or not he pays alimony? Of course, he is going to pay CS for his children and the father of the stepchildren should also be paying CS.

Even if daycare was as much or more than alimony--day care ENDS, you can get stuck with alimony permanently depending on how the court order is worded.

I only meant that the amount of money is probably going to be similar once she starts working. I was basically pointing that out for his sake, so that he was aware that he was going to have to eventually pay daycare costs.

I don't think that he should have to pay her alimony at all. However pendente lite alimony is fairly common pending a divorce being final. A judge might very well order him to pay it, even if he isn't in agreement.

 

[sudofdisk]

Oh okay. BITE ME.

Mature.

And do not expect any help from me in the future.

Since you have yet to offer any advice that has been helpful thus far, I wont lament the loss.

I was attempting to help based on the information you provided. Which you weren't exactly up front about everything.

You mean like in the post you quoted where I said "I am talking about our 2 children together," ?

If you give FULL information then you can get accurate advice. As a matter of fact I am pretty damn good at giving accurate advice considering my background.

I have yet to see it, but given your attitude I am sure you think you are good.

Thanks anyway, I have gotten some great help from some other people in this thread and a lot of things that were ambiguous in my mind for the last week have been made much clearer. This is a pretty useful forum!

 

[sudofdisk]

I only meant that the amount of money is probably going to be similar once she starts working. I was basically pointing that out for his sake, so that he was aware that he was going to have to eventually pay daycare costs.

I don't think that he should have to pay her alimony at all. However pendente lite alimony is fairly common pending a divorce being final. A judge might very well order him to pay it, even if he isn't in agreement.

Thank you for pointing this out. Keep in mind too that this is a separation with the hopes of reconciling, I don't have an issue supporting her as long as we are working on things, I just don't want to get stuck supporting her, if she is not entitled to it, forever if we are unable to fix things.

 

[sudofdisk]

I guess I didn't make my point very well. Alimony, child support, and visitation schedules are separate issues--keep them that way. Regardless of your wife's initial reaction. It's a fact she needs to face also.

I a perfect world this is true. In reality she is giving me far more than the court would when it comes to our "Parenting plan". I am sure she could have me seeing the kids only every other weekend if she didn't want to play nice as she is the primary caregiver. I have seen it happen to plenty of my friends who were great dads.

So in reality if I don't play nice with regards to alimony I could upset her and, well I don't think she would change her mind about visitation, but people can be unpredictable when they feel slighted. I don't know if that is a risk worth taking. Negotiations are good right now, but I know they can blow up in a hurry.

In addition she is the mother of my children, the youngest of which turns 3 in Jan. I am going to interact with her for 15 more years, no sense staring out in a negative way.

 

[Ohiogal]

Mature.

I know and quite frankly don't care.

Since you have yet to offer any advice that has been helpful thus far, I wont lament the loss.

You mean like in the post you quoted where I said "I am talking about our 2 children together," ?

Considering that came after post four which is the first one I responded to where you said there were six children FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE and you mentioned NONE about the two you have together prior to that, yeah that is what I am referring to.It was post 16 where you finally revealed you had two children from this marriage.

I have yet to see it, but given your attitude I am sure you think you are good.

Stick around.And I and many others KNOW that I give good advice.