Are you TRULY this stupid? The court ORDERED you to stay away from her. Period. You didn't. You're in contempt.
As to whether it's an RO or OP - a matter of semantics, to be honest. You might note that they have a term in common. ORDER! What the court TOLD you to do. You didn't! You're in CONTEMPT.
Can we make it any clearer to you?
No, I'm not stupid. I just think it's stupid that she can contact me, tell me she dropped the order, and then turn around and have the DA file charges. In consideration that there has never been a domestic violence incidence nor was there one in this instance just baffles me. I understand the need for these types of orders, but I never ONCE threatened violence upon her. Sure, we had our shouting matches and our disputes in the past but is that really reason enough to put me in jail, ruin my good name, and put me through more emotional stress? On top of losing the person who I thought I wanted to spend my life with (man, was i ever wrong), I'm going to have to empty my savings account at what appears to be merely an attempt to get this dropped!
Your interpretation that her putting the items in your truck was a request for you to contact her gets you in trouble. I think that the text messages from her work in your favor, but to condemn her as a druggie while you are recovering plays against an argument that you had good reason to contact her in response to her messages.
IN that instance, she had called my work - which I ignored, then later that evening she dropped off the sex tape on my truck. After which I had contacted her sister informing her she needed to leave me alone, that I had an OP on me and that she was obviously trying to get in contact with me.
A month later is when we happened to be in the same place at the same time and that's when she approached me, lied to me, and we resumed a relationship for two weeks. The reason why it fell apart is she tried to tell her family she was seeing me again, they flipped out, threatened to disown her, and pressured her to file a complaint - which is why I'm in this mess.
For those two weeks, she had text messages me literally hundreds of times (whether it be to say 'what are doing tonight?', 'i love you', 'can you get me some weed', etc.) and called me at least dozens of times (sometimes for hour+ conversations). I can easily prove we had a relationship together again, and that she had in fact made it apparent that she'd dropped the order of protection. My question is how do judges usually react to this type of situation when there is no evidence of domestic violence or threats of violence?
I don't discount that I was wrong in not following up on researching if the order had been in fact dropped. Would it have mattered though had I followed up on it? I'd still be in the same boat -- angry family, vindictive young woman, etc. I was in love, drunken by the numerous intimate encounters we had for those two weeks and clouded by our substance abuse.
