Chicken Pox in NCP home

[swtwilma]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

Ok this may seem like a non brainer, but legally I am not sure.

My kids dad just called to inform me that a child from his new marriage has chicken pox (they don't immunize). He is supposed to pick up our three kids on Sat evening and have them until Mon evening.

Being a nurse sometimes causes me to be hyper sensitive to illness so I get that, but here is the problem. Dad would be doing nothing with kids since there is a child that can not leave his home. This would put my three kids at risk for chicken pox even though they have had the immunization. They have not been at dad's this week so they have not been exposed. Kids just started school this week. I have my two step kids here until Wed when they leave to go back to their mom's (on a plane) and getting ready for school to start next week. I am pretty sure they have been immunized as well. My current husband is not sure if he has had the chicken pox.

I told dad that it is a risk. I can't put two kids with chicken pox on a plane if they got it. I don't want to give my kids an illness that could be avoided. I can give him two other days (whenever he wants) to make up for time. I called peds office...they said do not send them. I called nurse line they said do not send them. Dad is still saying he wants the kids.

I plan on still reasoning with him, but that is usually futile. Do I just have to suck it up and throw my kids in a chicken pox home with the risk of them getting it and bringing it back to our home? It seems silly, I know, its "just chicken pox" but if the shoe was on the other foot I would rather them stay at dad's if we had it here when they were there.

Thanks

 

[Proserpina]

Honestly?

If the kids have been immunized, it's highly unlikely that they'll contract the illness. Only 1 to 4% of vaccinated children will get the disease.

(as a nurse you should know this )

Some useful info:

Varicella (Chickenpox) Vaccine : Vaccine Education Center - Children's Hospital of Philadelphia

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

Ok this may seem like a non brainer, but legally I am not sure.

My kids dad just called to inform me that a child from his new marriage has chicken pox (they don't immunize). He is supposed to pick up our three kids on Sat evening and have them until Mon evening.

Being a nurse sometimes causes me to be hyper sensitive to illness so I get that, but here is the problem. Dad would be doing nothing with kids since there is a child that can not leave his home. This would put my three kids at risk for chicken pox even though they have had the immunization. They have not been at dad's this week so they have not been exposed. Kids just started school this week. I have my two step kids here until Wed when they leave to go back to their mom's (on a plane) and getting ready for school to start next week. I am pretty sure they have been immunized as well. My current husband is not sure if he has had the chicken pox.

I told dad that it is a risk. I can't put two kids with chicken pox on a plane if they got it. I don't want to give my kids an illness that could be avoided. I can give him two other days (whenever he wants) to make up for time. I called peds office...they said do not send them. I called nurse line they said do not send them. Dad is still saying he wants the kids.

I plan on still reasoning with him, but that is usually futile. Do I just have to suck it up and throw my kids in a chicken pox home with the risk of them getting it and bringing it back to our home? It seems silly, I know, its "just chicken pox" but if the shoe was on the other foot I would rather them stay at dad's if we had it here when they were there.

Thanks

Do your children have some health problem that would make them react adversely to CP??

When my eldest was little we used to WANT them to get chicken pox just to get it over with while they are young. Then the vaccine came out and spoiled all our fun...

 

[swtwilma]

Oh yes I am fully aware of the low percentage of them getting it, but 1-4% is not 0% and the doctors office specifically said do not send them (legally I know they can't do that), but they said it was a risk be it a small one.

My whole issue is that it is two days when they will do nothing with their dad becuase they will be holed up with sick kids and the small risk they could catch it is still there. If there was a 1-4% risk that I could catch something that I could easily avoid, I would, but that is just me. I hate being sick.

 

[Just Blue]

Oh yes I am fully aware of the low percentage of them getting it, but 1-4% is not 0% and the doctors office specifically said do not send them (legally I know they can't do that), but they said it was a risk be it a small one.

My whole issue is that it is two days when they will do nothing with their dad becuase they will be holed up with sick kids and the small risk they could catch it is still there. If there was a 1-4% risk that I could catch something that I could easily avoid, I would, but that is just me. I hate being sick.

Does you custody agreement specifically state Dad only get visitation if he is "doing" something with his child? You realize your child has a GREATER than 4% chance to "get" something by gong to the mall, Chucky Cheese, McD, the park, school, the library..ect...Are you going to keep them out of those places as well? OMG! Don't bring them for a check up or they very well could "get" something from one of the sick kids there.

Get my point?

 

[swtwilma]

Yep I see your point and I fully agree. I will just see how it plays out...such is life.

 

[janemc]

With Chicken pox aren't the contagous prior to the outbreak not during. Thats what I was told when my kids had them. I would send them.

 

[Just Blue]

With Chicken pox aren't the contagous prior to the outbreak not during. Thats what I was told when my kids had them. I would send them.

CP are contagious until the pox have scabbed over.

 

[lealea1005]

CP are contagious until the pox have scabbed over.

True, and incubation is up to 14 days prior to outbreak.

 

[LdiJ]

Does you custody agreement specifically state Dad only get visitation if he is "doing" something with his child? You realize your child has a GREATER than 4% chance to "get" something by gong to the mall, Chucky Cheese, McD, the park, school, the library..ect...Are you going to keep them out of those places as well? OMG! Don't bring them for a check up or they very well could "get" something from one of the sick kids there.

Get my point?

My granddaughter got chicken pox when she was just turned one, and we couldn't find anyone, anywhere where she had been that had chicken pox.

 

[Proserpina]

Chickenpox is a highly contagious virus, with an incubation period of 15-20 days. Chickenpox is most contagious the day before the rash appears and until the blisters are all dry and crusted over (usually about 5 days).

from homehealth-uk.com.

(incidentally I still have scars from chicken-pox)

 

[Just Blue]

My granddaughter got chicken pox when she was just turned one, and we couldn't find anyone, anywhere where she had been that had chicken pox.

Probably some stranger it had it at the mall...

 

[Just Blue]

from homehealth-uk.com.

(incidentally I still have scars from chicken-pox)

Hey! This is a US site. US sourses only!!

 

[stealth2]

By "doing something" I have to infer you mean "going somewhere". Why do they have to go anywhere when with their Dad? Why can't they have a w/e at home? Playing games, watching movies, yakking, being silly, building blanket forts, etc, etc, etc? What's wrong with that?

 

[californiamom3]

By "doing something" I have to infer you mean "going somewhere". Why do they have to go anywhere when with their Dad? Why can't they have a w/e at home? Playing games, watching movies, yakking, being silly, building blanket forts, etc, etc, etc? What's wrong with that?

I agree. Those are often the best of times.