im going thru the same thing right now. my husband and i decided after we got engaged that he wanted to adopt my girls. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. contrary to what shallow minded people tend to thing it is very common for a 3 and a 1 year old to associate dad to the person who is actually there. the one who actually takes care of them. and i commend you for that. but you do need to have an attorney. it is not cheap. if the father does not contest and is willing to come and sign over his rights it should be done in anywhere from 3-6 months. our adoption will be done in about 2 or 3 months. just waiting on a court date now. i wish you the best of luck and continue taking care of those babies. if the dad is as you say he is you are in a wonderful place to show them the love they deserve. and when the time comes later on tell them the truth. we arent going to tell my girls until they are older and can understand. good luck.
Thanks for your inputs. but who has to do most of the work. since i am an outsider and want to marry the mother and adopt the children and cherish and love them. i have not marry their mom yet but if you ask the kids who is daddy? they will say me. what role the mom has to play in this situation?. mom has all evidence to prove to court that the father is not worthy to be her children father. but she is scared by saying the guy is mean and evil. mom is willing to let go the child support the court forced the guy to pay when we get married. i am not Richy rich but i will make sure my children doesn't go to bed hungry or lack anything in life.
what role are you playing (as mother) currently in this decision and what role should i play. who is you lawyer? can i have his/her number? i live in washington seattle.
approximately how much money are we talking about? there is no amount of money worthy or compare to the love i have the children
