custody after mediation

[Zigner]

seriously so your saying if my daughter goes on facebook and sees her mother half naked that sends a good example, muslim or not shes a mother, i could care less that she drinks and parties but she does it when its her week to take of the kids, she accused me of being a drunk in the restraining order, i wont use it if the lawyer says i shouldnt but i dont understand how going out partying taking scantikly clad pictures is in anyway a good example of how little girls should grow up and behave

Dear Lord - I hope you never take your child to the beach. Or to a swimming pool. Or to the mall on a hot summer afternoon. She'll be scarred for life!

 

[Proserpina]

Seriously OP - have you seen Facebook?

All of those frolicking, scantily-clad adults - do you think none of them have custody of their kids?

 

[frylover]

OP, I'm going to revisit the advice you got in a previous thread from CJane:

"You're looking for ammunition to use against mom, when you should really be looking for things that work in your favor. The point isn't to discredit the other parent. The point is supposed to be to work on a schedule that is realistic and which creates a situation in which both parents spend a maximum amount of time with the children."

The damning photos of Mom may not be the smoking gun you think they are. Mom's same-sex relationship DEFINITELY isn't. Please listen to what you've been told.

Did you read this either the first or the second time it was posted, or are you just so determined to "stick it to mom" that it is just going over your head.

CJane absolutely knows what she is talking about when it comes to this. PLEASE listen to her!

 

[Antigone*]

Did you read this either the first or the second time it was posted, or are you just so determined to "stick it to mom" that it is just going over your head.

CJane absolutely knows what she is talking about when it comes to this. PLEASE listen to her!

pssst.... fry you quoted Witty, not Cjane.

 

[frylover]

pssst.... fry you quoted Witty, not Cjane.

I know that post was Witty, but the bolded part she got from CJane, when CJane replied to him in his other thread! I didn't know how to go back to CJane's original post and quote it on this thread!

 

[Antigone*]

I know that post was Witty, but the bolded part she got from CJane, when CJane replied to him in his other thread! I didn't know how to go back to CJane's original post and quote it on this thread!

got it

 

[frylover]

got it

Don't think it matters....he seems hell bent on destroying mom.

 

[jimmyd916]

yes i am hell bent on destroying the mom, if you had 2 years of joint physical custody then all of a sudden youre hit with a false restraining order two times and your stopped from seeing your kids for two months how would that make you feel, and i swear the advice you people give is horrible, i had to hear somany times that i would probably not get my half custody but what happened i did. everything i put on here has been the truth and you people people call me a vindictive moron and act like im the one who wanted started this whole nonsense. i guess this will be my last post if you guys dont know about family custody stop acting like you do.

 

[Proserpina]

yes i am hell bent on destroying the mom, if you had 2 years of joint physical custody then all of a sudden youre hit with a false restraining order two times and your stopped from seeing your kids for two months how would that make you feel, and i swear the advice you people give is horrible, i had to hear somany times that i would probably not get my half custody but what happened i did. everything i put on here has been the truth and you people people call me a vindictive moron and act like im the one who wanted started this whole nonsense. i guess this will be my last post if you guys dont know about family custody stop acting like you do.

Oh give me a BREAK.

No, you're absolutely right, not one single responder has EVER gone through a custody case.

None of us.

You're being an absolutely CRAPTACULAR "father" if you're hell bent on destroying Mom.

I just hope you understand why I said that. Because if you can't, frankly your kids are better off without you.

 

[frylover]

How is hurting their mother in the best interest of your children? Answer that question without using the word "I".

Mom may have done some crappy things. SO, you take the high road and show the court you are a mature adult. Except that, if you WANT to hurt your children's mom, you aren't a mature adult.

 

[sometwo]

seriously so your saying if my daughter goes on facebook and sees her mother half naked that sends a good example, muslim or not shes a mother, i could care less that she drinks and parties but she does it when its her week to take of the kids, she accused me of being a drunk in the restraining order, i wont use it if the lawyer says i shouldnt but i dont understand how going out partying taking scantikly clad pictures is in anyway a good example of how little girls should grow up and behave

Really? Are the kids even ON facebook or her friends on facebook? Now that my kids are actually on facebook and my friends I don't post everything (like a couple pics I wanted to post when I went to New Orleans.

Also I just got out of a friend's court case. Her husband posted NAKED pics of himself on facebook (by accident the idiot) and his daughter IS on facebook but deleted him a week or so before thankfully. Although the judge thought it was distasteful and unusual behavior he did not take any rights away from the father . There was no evidence to show this had hurt the children.

 

[mistoffolees]

yes i am hell bent on destroying the mom.

There's an old saying: "before you set out for revenge, start by digging TWO graves".

Your goal should be to do what's best for your kids and that does NOT include destroying their mother.

You got the correct legal advice (repeatedly) and refuse to listen, so I'll simply add that you need to see a mental health professional for help.

 

[jimmyd916]

im pretty sure none of you have ever won a custody battle. i shouldnt show pics because it will make me look vindictive please, this is a court room playing nice doesnt get you anywhere, you can sit around and take the high road all you want but im pretty sure nice guys always finish last and by the way things are going ive been coming in first everytime. i dont want full custody i just want my half back so if i have to destroy my ex's character to do it then i will, but ill be damned if i sit by passively and take the high road and watch my kids be taken away from me. I've won every court appeareance to date so im telling you know-it-alls that what im doing works.

 

[Proserpina]

im pretty sure none of you have ever won a custody battle. i shouldnt show pics because it will make me look vindictive please, this is a court room playing nice doesnt get you anywhere, you can sit around and take the high road all you want but im pretty sure nice guys always finish last and by the way things are going ive been coming in first everytime. i dont want full custody i just want my half back so if i have to destroy my ex's character to do it then i will, but ill be damned if i sit by passively and take the high road and watch my kids be taken away from me. I've won every court appeareance to date so im telling you know-it-alls that what im doing works.

Then why are you here?

You obviously know everything, and know far better than us.

 

[jimmyd916]

i tried to get some advice, but it seems its a little lacking here, everyone wants to be up on moral issues and forgets its a custody BATTLE! I think that describes it all.