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FJ1200guy
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FingerS?
Singular here... I use one finger.
But no, really I appreciate the interest, and help. I like getting input on what I write, good and bed. It's a litmus test for my thought process. I'm not foolish enough to believe my way of thinking is always correct, that's for sure.
It sure is hard to convey issues so complex, though, isn't it? I'm suprised that more people don't think about that before replying in such hostile manners. I've been reading alot of the posts, and some folks that answer sure get worked up fast, eh?
But as long as I have a decent person on here, do you think you could toss me your thoughts on something?
I'va always worked, and always had child support taken directly out of my paycheck (even though my ex and I have 50/50 physical and legal custody). There was a 2 week period between being laid off and starting a new job that I didn't have any cash coming in. Well, I turned it in to "Friend" of the court, but I am still expected to pay the same amount during that time, I guess? Seems sort of odd. No problem, I paid, but it just seems odd, since if we were still together, that money wouldn't have been there.
So when a dad losses his job, does child support usualy get adjusted until he gets another job?
Thanks, Sky, I enjoy the conversation.
Singular here... I use one finger.
But no, really I appreciate the interest, and help. I like getting input on what I write, good and bed. It's a litmus test for my thought process. I'm not foolish enough to believe my way of thinking is always correct, that's for sure.It sure is hard to convey issues so complex, though, isn't it? I'm suprised that more people don't think about that before replying in such hostile manners. I've been reading alot of the posts, and some folks that answer sure get worked up fast, eh?
But as long as I have a decent person on here, do you think you could toss me your thoughts on something?
I'va always worked, and always had child support taken directly out of my paycheck (even though my ex and I have 50/50 physical and legal custody). There was a 2 week period between being laid off and starting a new job that I didn't have any cash coming in. Well, I turned it in to "Friend" of the court, but I am still expected to pay the same amount during that time, I guess? Seems sort of odd. No problem, I paid, but it just seems odd, since if we were still together, that money wouldn't have been there.
So when a dad losses his job, does child support usualy get adjusted until he gets another job?
Thanks, Sky, I enjoy the conversation.
I usually don't deal with child support much. If you lose your job, it is on you to contact the organization so they know what is going on. They have no way of knowing what happened (you got fired, laid off, in the hospital, fell off the face of the earth because the world really is flat...). You would need to request an adjustment of some sort so they don't put you in their "deadbeat" category and attempt to come after you (like arrest you) when you are making a genuine effort to pay.
The truth is, just because you don't have a job, they still expect something to come in (even if it's make-up payment) because the children's needs don't stop, especially since they're in a different household. If you were still together, you wouldn't have two of everything (rent/mortgage, utility bills...).
I don't know which links you've checked out that have been posted, but I would suggest this one for your state. (I haven't been there in a while, so I'll have to edit and delete the link if I remembered it wrong! )
http://www.childcustody.net
The truth is, just because you don't have a job, they still expect something to come in (even if it's make-up payment) because the children's needs don't stop, especially since they're in a different household. If you were still together, you wouldn't have two of everything (rent/mortgage, utility bills...).
I don't know which links you've checked out that have been posted, but I would suggest this one for your state. (I haven't been there in a while, so I'll have to edit and delete the link if I remembered it wrong!
)http://www.childcustody.net
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anjeleyez2702
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In asking for advice on a situation here in the public forum where anyone can judge is just asking for a few rude comments here and there and if you were not able to deal with their opinions then you should not have asked. No matter where you go in life someone is waiting to judge you and make opinions that you may not like. Maturity and patience is the key to these situations.
Do not feel the need to defend your situation to those who have never been there or done that. Just do what you feel you have to do because in the end everything is already decided for us and all things good and bad happen for a reason.
Now onto the advice you are seeking. . . make sure she reads her custody papers several times from start to finish and go to a lawyer for a free consultation. That way there are no loopholes. good luck
Do not feel the need to defend your situation to those who have never been there or done that. Just do what you feel you have to do because in the end everything is already decided for us and all things good and bad happen for a reason.
Now onto the advice you are seeking. . . make sure she reads her custody papers several times from start to finish and go to a lawyer for a free consultation. That way there are no loopholes. good luck
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FJ1200guy
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Well, actually...
I don't feel the NEED to do anything.
I just DO.
"In asking for advice on a situation here in the public forum where anyone can judge is just asking for a few rude comments here and there and if you were not able to deal with their opinions then you should not have asked. No matter where you go in life someone is waiting to judge you and make opinions that you may not like. Maturity and patience is the key to these situations."
LOL... thanks for your wisdom, but that was my first post. I don't need you to tell me things that are so obvious.
I learn fast. Plus I can deal with anything anyone HERE wants to dish. I was just suprised at that one guy's reaction in particular. What a dick.
Thanks for the reply though, Eyez.
I don't feel the NEED to do anything.
I just DO.
"In asking for advice on a situation here in the public forum where anyone can judge is just asking for a few rude comments here and there and if you were not able to deal with their opinions then you should not have asked. No matter where you go in life someone is waiting to judge you and make opinions that you may not like. Maturity and patience is the key to these situations."
LOL... thanks for your wisdom, but that was my first post. I don't need you to tell me things that are so obvious.
I learn fast. Plus I can deal with anything anyone HERE wants to dish. I was just suprised at that one guy's reaction in particular. What a dick. Thanks for the reply though, Eyez.
Hey Lyle,
I just read through the post and thought I would mention again what someone else mentioned. I hope that all works out between you and your g/f and that you both get what you are hoping for. Just keep in mind that even if she is allowed to move out of state with the girls, the parent that moves is usually responsible for transportation cost, so that the children can see the other parent. Be prepared that this could be very expensive and is something that she may want to plan for in the custody agreement. Requesting that the expense be shared rather than be the sole responsibility of one parent.
My husband moved out of the state that his ex and children live in and spent a year fighting to be able to see them. His orignial decree stated that the children couldn't be taken out of the state. Part of us winning our fight to bring the kids home and have longer periods of visitation was being prepared to pay 100% of the travel expenses. We get the kids 3 to 4 times a year and each visit cost us between $2000.00 and $3000.00 dollars. After doing this for the past two years, we are very deep in debt and wonder how much longer we can keep doing this. It is really hard, so make sure you are able to work out something with her ex on this expense.
Sorry so long
Chat
I just read through the post and thought I would mention again what someone else mentioned. I hope that all works out between you and your g/f and that you both get what you are hoping for. Just keep in mind that even if she is allowed to move out of state with the girls, the parent that moves is usually responsible for transportation cost, so that the children can see the other parent. Be prepared that this could be very expensive and is something that she may want to plan for in the custody agreement. Requesting that the expense be shared rather than be the sole responsibility of one parent.
My husband moved out of the state that his ex and children live in and spent a year fighting to be able to see them. His orignial decree stated that the children couldn't be taken out of the state. Part of us winning our fight to bring the kids home and have longer periods of visitation was being prepared to pay 100% of the travel expenses. We get the kids 3 to 4 times a year and each visit cost us between $2000.00 and $3000.00 dollars. After doing this for the past two years, we are very deep in debt and wonder how much longer we can keep doing this. It is really hard, so make sure you are able to work out something with her ex on this expense.
Sorry so long
Chat
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FJ1200guy
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Yep
Hiya, Chatkat,
Yeah, I had to do all the driving for my son at one point in my own custody battle. It can be a pain, but I did it. I didn't like the biased un-fair thinking of the court, but hey, life is such, eh?
With this situation we've already decided on a plan to make sure Dad gets good time with his girls... keeping in mind that we may need to be VERY flexible in regards to his convenience. It's a 12 hour drive from my place to his town. We will make the trip anytime we can, but ask for a week or 2 advance notice so I can take off from work. We will ask that he sees them at least once a month, or whatever he would like. If he wants to see them more, we'd ask that he meet us half way. But I am prepared to do what must be done. We'll see what happens, and Kat, thanks for the response.
( I already make the trip myself every month.)
Sincerely, Lyle
Hiya, Chatkat,
Yeah, I had to do all the driving for my son at one point in my own custody battle. It can be a pain, but I did it. I didn't like the biased un-fair thinking of the court, but hey, life is such, eh?
With this situation we've already decided on a plan to make sure Dad gets good time with his girls... keeping in mind that we may need to be VERY flexible in regards to his convenience. It's a 12 hour drive from my place to his town. We will make the trip anytime we can, but ask for a week or 2 advance notice so I can take off from work. We will ask that he sees them at least once a month, or whatever he would like. If he wants to see them more, we'd ask that he meet us half way. But I am prepared to do what must be done. We'll see what happens, and Kat, thanks for the response.
( I already make the trip myself every month.)
Sincerely, Lyle
Grace_Adler
Senior Member
Hey, I just wanted to answer your question about the child support.
If a NCP loses their job, the child support isn't automatically adjusted, however the NCP can ask for a modification to lower it if they lose their job, by that I mean, getting fired or laid off. In my state, you have the option of asking for it to be lowered or suspended. I don't know what the criteria would be to have it suspended though or how that works exactly. But anyway, you have to file a petition with the court to have this done. Then who knows how long it would take to have a hearing. And yes, they do expect you to still pay until there is a court order stating otherwise. Hope that helps.
If a NCP loses their job, the child support isn't automatically adjusted, however the NCP can ask for a modification to lower it if they lose their job, by that I mean, getting fired or laid off. In my state, you have the option of asking for it to be lowered or suspended. I don't know what the criteria would be to have it suspended though or how that works exactly. But anyway, you have to file a petition with the court to have this done. Then who knows how long it would take to have a hearing. And yes, they do expect you to still pay until there is a court order stating otherwise. Hope that helps.
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FJ1200guy
Guest
Yep again.
Yeah, you got that right. Where it's hanging as of this second is....
Lawyers are talking.
Court date coming up.
What's funny is neither want to have to go to court, and it SEEMS like they want the same thing.... but communication between them just seems impossible. I guess we'll see what happens.
Our plans will have to remain flexible. That's life.
Yeah, you got that right. Where it's hanging as of this second is....
Lawyers are talking.
Court date coming up.
What's funny is neither want to have to go to court, and it SEEMS like they want the same thing.... but communication between them just seems impossible. I guess we'll see what happens.
Our plans will have to remain flexible.
That's life.
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MammaBear76
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"Learn how to spell college boy". . . that just struck me as funny since there was a word misspelled in your post blonde. Some of you are so critical and angry about things that just shouldn't matter.
And also for the record. . I relocated, and I don't have to pay for travel for my ex to see our daughter.
And also for the record. . I relocated, and I don't have to pay for travel for my ex to see our daughter.
Yeh , Isn't it nice to take sides ?I just have a thing about a Parent that has physical Custody of the child(ren) conjuring up their Future , without regard for the rights of the other Parent,and worse yet not to care about the other Parent child/parent relationship.
And are we just to take the word of the poster(s) on the board that what they say is the truth about another Parent ?
Better yet, are we to take the word of companion of the other parent about the character of the other Parent ?
I hear it all the time " My child " . "my" beautiful children .
Yeh I have an issue. I'm not hardly as angry as I use to be .
It works both ways !! Just remember the child(ren). They are not
an Item , you can just pick up & take with you and say it's "mine", only ....
I use spell checker by the way , but it misses a few. Even computers aren't perfect..
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MammaBear76
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We shouldn't just assume that the OP is telling the truth. But we shouldn't assume they aren't either. Plain and simple; these people are just asking questions and they get jumped on because of certain past experiences.
I didn't move to say that my daughter(and I will say my when posting because it's proper english) is mine and only mine. I moved to better my life which will in turn better my daughter's life. It is about the children, that, you and I agree on. But not everyone makes changes just to "stick it to" the other parent. . . and that's where ASSuming will get you nowhere!
I didn't move to say that my daughter(and I will say my when posting because it's proper english) is mine and only mine. I moved to better my life which will in turn better my daughter's life. It is about the children, that, you and I agree on. But not everyone makes changes just to "stick it to" the other parent. . . and that's where ASSuming will get you nowhere!
stealth2
Under the Radar Member
MammaBear76 said:
Why is that more proper (linguistically speaking) than "our" daughter? (The E in "english" should be capitalized, btw.)
It is about the children, that, you and I agree on. [/QUOTE]
And if you're concerned about proper English - the sentence above is completely incorrect, grammatically speaking. Just so you know.
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FJ1200guy
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Spell checker?
I realize computers aren't perfect, but you sure as heck must feel you are... wow, never seen such a assuming, judgemental person in my life (and I've seen alot)! I'd say next time you admit you have "an issue", make it plural.
"College boy"... heh heh, I DO have to admit, that was pretty funny though. If you're gonna be angry,judgmental, and wrong, you may as well be funny being so!
Everyone that went to court gets angry. Gee... looking at your posts and attitude, do you think maybe there were reasons behind what happened? Don't attack those that are on your side... NOT a smart idea.
I realize computers aren't perfect, but you sure as heck must feel you are... wow, never seen such a assuming, judgemental person in my life (and I've seen alot)! I'd say next time you admit you have "an issue", make it plural.
"College boy"... heh heh, I DO have to admit, that was pretty funny though. If you're gonna be angry,judgmental, and wrong, you may as well be funny being so!
Everyone that went to court gets angry. Gee... looking at your posts and attitude, do you think maybe there were reasons behind what happened? Don't attack those that are on your side... NOT a smart idea.