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nicole_mk

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What?

Who said anything about name brand clothes? I'm talking about clothes that FIT! Shoes that are her size, not the size she'll wear 2 years from now. We are good people, and yes, nearly everyone on this website is for the CP- but in real life, the dad and the step mom, have concerns about their kids. I know I know, she' snot my kid, I'm trying to be mommy yeah yeah yeah. SHe's the only daughter I have and I will always treat her as mine. I would NEVER treat her like an outsider becuase she's not biologically mine. NOR would I ever try to be her mom. I have never asked her to call me Mom. I am not her mother. I can't believe how onesided this site is? Thanks to Stepof3mom- You know what i'm talking about. I don't think I'm a perfect parent but I know this little girl deserves a chance in this world, and she isn't getting it. I never said it wasn't hard for her mom to go to school and raise kids- where do you people get this stuff from? I don't agree with her lifestyle. I do think it's wrong to leave the kids with grandma and grandpa for 5 days while I drink beer with my friends. I think that's wrong. Grow up. GEEZ- half of the people responding to my post... you'd think they were related to her!
Annie's father and I have nothing but good intentions for her. She's always first on our list. We want the best for her.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
nicole_mk said:
and yes, nearly everyone on this website is for the CP

This is such a bull**** response that it's clear you haven't bothered to read this board with any seriousness.
 

CJane

Senior Member
nicole_mk said:
I do think it's wrong to leave the kids with grandma and grandpa for 5 days while I drink beer with my friends.

Really? Drama aside, how is that different from my husband and I leaving our child with my father for 5 days so we could go to Mardi Gras? Or the zillions of parents everywhere who leave their kids in daycare 9 or 10 hours EVERY DAY so that they can work?

The point is (and this is coming from an NCP), it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what Mom does with the kid during her time. Unless she's being abused, the courts really don't care that her shoes are too big, any more than they care that occasionally, my 5 year old insists on going to school in my 8 year old's jeans, with them rolled up 4 times so they 'fit'.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
CJane said:
Really? Drama aside, how is that different from my husband and I leaving our child with my father for 5 days so we could go to Mardi Gras?

I see that evilness and raise it by a kid and 5 days for when we left our two kids (GASP! A toddler and an infant!!!) with my parents for 10 days while we went to Russia!


CJane said:
The point is (and this is coming from an NCP), it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what Mom does with the kid during her time. Unless she's being abused, the courts really don't care that her shoes are too big, any more than they care that occasionally, my 5 year old insists on going to school in my 8 year old's jeans, with them rolled up 4 times so they 'fit'.

Both parents are free to make parenting decisions during their time - however brief it may be. Yanno - sometimes my kid goes to Dad's needing a haircut 'cause we just didn't have time between Track, Boy Scouts, Debate, and Homework (not to mention the equivalents for his sister) to get to a barber. Same as sometimes my other kid goes to Dad's in jeans that are too short. We didn't have time to get out to the mall to pick up longer jeans. Which would then be too big in the waist and Dad would bitch about those, too. Then let's talk about the bitching 'cause the jeans came from Walmart or Target! When you've got two kids in growth spurts - you'll be shopping at Walmart & Target, too. Unless, of course, your kids' stepsibs recoil in horror because "only poor people shop at Walmart or Target." My kids' stepsibs are actually afraid of shopping at either of those stores - because that's where poor people shop!

These are all bull**** excuses.
 
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nicole_mk

Junior Member
Confused? Me too

Where are you people getting these ideas? I never said anything about brandname or Walmart? I'm talking about taking care of your child. I'm talking about providing for them. When your priorities are you children, they don't go to grandma and grandpa's for 5 days (no, not once in a while, maybe 2-3 times a MONTH)while you go drink beer with your friends. Sorry. A responsible parent puts their child first, not their friends. I understand a parent is allowed to go out and go on vacation and (GASP) take their child to daycare for 10 HOURS, so they can work. Yes, I understand that. BUT, you don't know to what extremes this stuff is done. Somes times, as much as you CP's don't want to admit it, the child would be better off with the other parent. Just because she's a woman and she gave birth to the child, doesn't make her the better parent. If you'd look past your own experiences with however many ex's you have, you might see that. It's rough on both ends, I never said it wasn't. You're right, we should have documented the bruises with pictures, and we will now. I guess we were giving his ex the benifit of a doubt, but she wouldn't know what has happened to her daughter from day to day, considering she's only there when the keg is dry or she's feeling a bit like a mom. Who knows. I Know that Annie comes to my house and she is not taken care of like she should be. We can do better for her.
 

CJane

Senior Member
nicole_mk said:
I guess we were giving his ex the benifit of a doubt, but she wouldn't know what has happened to her daughter from day to day, considering she's only there when the keg is dry or she's feeling a bit like a mom. Who knows. I Know that Annie comes to my house and she is not taken care of like she should be. We can do better for her.

Has anyone else noticed that, as this thread has gone on, the poor kid has become less well-treated by Mom? In the OP, this was a mom who loved her kid and was a good mom, just 'struggling'. Now, she's an abusive, neglectful drunk who doesn't even SEE her kid.

Can't wait to see what horrors are dreamed up next.

nicole_mk said:
What is the name of your state? South Dakota

I have issues. My husband and I married 6 months ago and he's got a 3 year old daughter (Annie) with an ex wife. The child is not being abused or neglected, her mother loves her. BUT- We can provide a bettter life for this child growing up. For example, her mother smokes heavy and the child has recently had tubes put in her ears for earaches. My husband and I would never smoke around Annie. I know, who's to say our lifestyle is better than hers (she's a bit "redneck", not a good rolemodel, or one we want the little girl to follow!)

So, which is it?
 
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nicole_mk

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You're right, she's not a drunk (or is she?)

Oh dear... Once again, where are you guys coming up with this stuff? Did I say anything about her being a drunk. She goes out and drinks beer with her friends, bottom line. Ok, I wasn't there. I don't know if she is constantly drinking the beer or if she's just there socially or if she is a drunk, that's something we should check into. I don't want to argue with GIJane or the stealth dude anymore. I don't care. I came here for advice and you obviously don't have any. IT's really sad that all you guys have to do all day is sit around and look for people who post their concerns... then you pounce on them and see if you can make them look like a loser. Maybe you should take a look around
 

robinlarimore

Junior Member
stepof3mom said:
If you don't like the advice or these people are rude to you alot.... I know of a website that you might like to go to. Just let me know. I have been watching this website for a long time but felt it was time to post. I enjoy the other one. They won't put you down or be rude to you. Everyone is real nice and don't hate stepparents.

please email me the website at foxyred140@aol.com
 

CJane

Senior Member
nicole_mk said:
Oh dear... Once again, where are you guys coming up with this stuff? Did I say anything about her being a drunk. She goes out and drinks beer with her friends, bottom line.

What you SAID is that she only comes home when the keg is dry and she feels like being a mommy. That's FAR different than saying in your OP that she isn't abusive or neglectful and that she loves her child. It's hardly OUR fault that you can't keep your story straight.

And you were given advice pages ago. Mind your own business and stop trying to take away someone else's child.
 

nicole_mk

Junior Member
um.. I believe that was me.

Well, I can't imagine the ex wife doing that, abusing her daughter? But somethings not right. Maybe someone else is (GASP!!!!!!!!) Or maybe Annie plays really really really hard and gets hurt a lot, OR maybe she's not being watched and that explains the 1/2 inch circle burn mark on her arm or the chunk of skin missing from her foot. It's hard to say really. (And yes, i'm ready to hear that a parent can't watch their children EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY... I know you sneaky little suckers are going to say that.) Do I think her mom DID these things to her? No I don't truely think she would. So I guess take the part about abuse out of my first post, I'm sorry I wrote that. But leave that neglect part in there. You just never know these days.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
nO, here's the thing. You started out how the kid's not abused or neglected. Then when you didn't get the responses you apparently expected, the kid gets treated worse and worse. To the point where you pretty well claim she IS being abused and/or neglected. Well.... which IS it? IS the child abused? IS the child neglected? Or not? Which of your statements is the truth?

Maybe you should sit down, decide which story you're going to promote and then come back with it, eh? 'Cause right now? Credibility is zero.
 
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