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Hi Prosperina,
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The children are 13 and 11. I live in Florida while they reside in NY. I never hear from them unless it is father's day or my birthday other than that if I want to talk to them I always have to call them. They love me they just don't really have any interest in maintaining a relationship in those ways because that's the way they were raised.
enigma_38,
.....I'm in the same boat as you are, man (Which, obviously, is how I found this forum.). My ex actually married the tool that she cheated on me with while we were married, but didn't have the guts to tell me about until after we were divorced! Now I'm unemployed, no car, they all live states away and the only time I hear from my kids is when I call or write them (which no doubt has to do with how she's raising them now). And every time I call, I end up having to correct at least one of my kids that now calls that tool "Daddy". I know what you're going through, bro, unlike some of these misandrist pigs here (*ahem* Antigone *ahem*).
.....And you know what? I'm considering the exact same thing. I can't afford the child support (Which, incidentally, they don't need, as "tool" is in the Air Force and "ex" has a degree in Accounting!), and I never get to see my kids anyway! You know what? You'll always be their Daddy, no matter what the courts, or your ex, or DSS has to say about it! And if you can't personally survive until they get to be old enough (adults) to have a real relationship with you because child support is making it impossible, then you have to make what looks to be a tough decision. Trust me, you can always pick up the phone or write that letter - your kids will find you when it's time. Love has a way of bridging the gaps that some of these money-grubbers will tell you are irrevocable.
Sincerely,
Another DAD in a bind!
Like I said, enigma_38, money-grubbing misandrists!
They think that if you sign over your rights, you're signing over your heart. Only you know how much you love your kids and have been trying to stay a part of their lives (typically in the face of a lot of adversity)... that's what matters!
Naysayers like "stealth2" here will try to warn you about things they know won't happen while implying that you are less of a man if you don't follow their advice to the "T". Who does that sound like? Probably your ex! And more than likely, that's why you left her. Trust me, don't bother taking advice from a woman on a man's issue!
You don't know me. Or my ex. Or my kids. They have good reason to be bitter towards him. His lack of contact/involvement is on him - not me. Not at all.
Oh, never mind. You're not worth the time or space.
All he's really signing over (which you lot seem to not be telling him) is his "right" to pay child support!
If you can't win with logic or reason, dismiss them as unworthy. You see who your opponents are, enigma_38? Charlatans posing as sages.
OP - please speak with an attorney.